Chapter 52 7. Sweet talk wins the other party's happiness

Introduction: A person who can speak is much more important than appearance or other talents. This is a very important ability for family harmony and harmonious interpersonal relationships. Paul Bobby Rowe, director of the Los Angeles Institute of Family Relations, once said: "When most men are looking for a partner, they are not looking for a capable senior employee, but looking for someone who is both charming and satisfying. vanity, and make him feel superior. So, a female executive of a company or institution may be invited to dinner, but only once. She will probably apply what she learned in college. "Main Trends of Thought in Philosophy" was brought up as a topic, and she even insisted on paying her share of the meal expenses. But what happened? Since then, she can only eat alone. Same. When she was invited to have lunch, she would look at the man next to her with passionate eyes, and said with infinite affection: "Can you tell me more about your situation?" As a result, the man would Tell people 'she's not very pretty, but I've never met a better talker'."

It can be seen that a person who can speak is much more important than appearance or other talents. This is a very important ability for family harmony and harmonious interpersonal relationships. Men should appreciate the time and thought women put into the pursuit of beauty.All men tend to forget—although they know it too—that women care a lot about how they dress.For example, when a man and a woman meet another man and a woman on the street, the woman seldom pays attention to the man opposite, but usually pays attention to the clothing of the other woman. A few years ago, my grandmother passed away at the age of 98.Shortly before her death, we showed her a photograph of her taken more than thirty years ago.Even though her eyesight is not good enough to read the photo, the only question she asks is: "What was I wearing at that time?"

Please think!An old lady in her dying years, was ill in bed for a long time, and she was very old. Nearly a century had exhausted all her energy, and her memory had even declined to the point where she could not even recognize her own daughter, but she still wanted to know where she was. What clothes were you wearing more than thirty years ago!I happened to be next to her sick bed when she asked this question.This incident left an indelible impression on me. Male readers of this book will not remember what clothes he was wearing 5 years ago, and they don't have the heart to remember these things at all.But for women, it's different -- and we men should take note.In France, the men of the upper class do this very well, and they not only praise women's dresses and hats, but many times a night, not once. Fifty million French men are doing it, and for good reason.

In former times the pampered elite of Moscow and St. Petersburg were well educated in this respect.In the era of Tsarist Russia, there was a habit among the upper class, that is, after they enjoyed a delicious meal, they would definitely invite a chef to praise them face to face. Why not treat your wife like this?Next time her chicken chops come out perfectly crispy and tender, tell her so and let her know you appreciate her cooking—you're not eating grass.Or, as Texas Jean often said: "Big compliments on that little woman." If you want to do this, let her know how important she is to your happiness and happiness.Disraeli was the greatest statesman in England, but as I have just said, even to the whole world, he would not shyly admit that he was "very grateful to that little woman".

One day, while reading a magazine, I came across an interview with Eddie Kant. “I got more help from my wife,” Eddie Conde said, “than anyone else in the world. She was my best friend when I was young and helped me to After we got married she saved every dollar she invested and reinvested. She built me ​​a fortune. We have 5 lovely kids and she built me ​​a warm and cozy home .If I have achieved anything, it is all due to her." In Hollywood, marriage is such a risky business that even Louis Insurance Company in London dare not undertake its insurance.But Warner Buster's marriage was one of the few particularly happy ones.

Mrs. Buster, whose maiden name was Winifer Bryson, gave up her flamboyant performing arts career to marry Buster.But she never spoiled their marital happiness by such a sacrifice of hers. "She lost the opportunity to perform successfully on stage," Warner Buster said, "but I have done my best to let her know that I appreciate her and be satisfied by it. If a woman wants To get happiness and joy from her husband, it must come from his sincere appreciation and sincere love. If this kind of appreciation and love come from the heart, then he will also get love and happiness from it."

Create perfect happiness with sweet words: (1) Put love throughout the entire marriage process. (2) Married couples also need to talk. Although there are multiple channels for emotional communication, verbal communication will never be eliminated. (3) Happy marriages are rarely the product of chance, they must be designed with reason and heart, like buildings.