Chapter 42 4. How to get along well with colleagues around you

Introduction: Don't make the weaknesses and deficiencies of others a topic of conversation. This will only show your low character and morality. People in the workplace sometimes feel very tired, because there is too much helplessness here-I don't like to socialize too much, or I have to work with people who I don't like very much.Indeed, you may not have a better choice.However, the workplace may not be as pessimistic as you think, the key is to see how you look at it. As long as you follow the method below, your relationship with your colleagues will no longer be an annoyance to you.

Whether it's a co-worker wearing a nice shirt or a job well done, you can compliment him or her.Don't hesitate to praise your colleagues, because praise is one of the most direct and effective ways to make him feel good about you.Of course, you can't praise him without principle, otherwise it will give people an impression of insincerity. Generally speaking, colleagues and you are limited to working partnerships.Of course, you and your colleagues may also become friends, but most of the time you are partners.Therefore, apart from relatives, the people I see most often are probably colleagues.If you want, you can learn as much useful things from your colleagues as you can from your friends.

No matter how much you like or hate your colleagues, when talking to them, you must first respect and consider each other.Everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages, and they will provide us with a lot of work experience and knowledge.But if you draw a gap between you, you lose more opportunities to improve. Some laughter may be needed in the office, which helps to liven up the work atmosphere, which can lead to closer relationships.Humor is the lubricant of interpersonal relationships. One or two of your humorous words may have this effect, and it can also show your talent and personality, but you must pay attention to the proportion of joking.

In addition, you have to pay attention to the occasion of joking.During the time of concentrating on work, it is best not to suddenly come up with a humorous sentence.This not only violates discipline, but also affects work. Play jokes in moderation.Don't take the joke too far, otherwise it will inevitably have a bad influence on you and your colleagues. Creating humor also has to distinguish between objects.Different colleagues should be treated differently.Maybe some colleagues are born without humor cells, and he will misunderstand your humor. In the end, you have to be careful not to make dirty jokes.I know a lot of grown men who often like to tell dirty jokes, which can be forgiven in the same sex, but if the opposite sex is present, then such jokes should generally not be told.

Don't blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah in the office.Many people are so eager to be understood that they talk too much.You should put your main energy on observing and learning rather than expressing yourself.Only by asking your colleagues about work problems will you improve yourself; otherwise, you will fall behind others. Listen carefully to what your colleagues say, don't be distracted because what the other party says is unimportant or not good enough, and try to find the positive factors in the other party's speech.Anyone can become your future partner, good friend, or even your immediate boss.

Everyone's abilities are limited, and everyone has their own difficulties.Although it is inevitable that colleagues need to help each other with work or life matters, sometimes you have to refuse each other's requests, which is embarrassing.As long as it's handled properly, it's not something that should bother you. Rejecting colleagues must be based on maintaining the relationship between you.When your colleague is going to ask you to do something, you can tell him that you still have some important things to do, and you can help him do this thing after you finish these things.Show the reasons for your refusal, and the other party will understand you.

Everyone has secrets, and it is best not to touch other people's privacy.In addition, don't take other people's weaknesses and shortcomings as a topic of conversation, as this will only show your low character and morality.In the conversation, it is best not to touch the following points. (1) Don't speak ill of your boss in front of your colleagues, and don't talk casually.After some of your words that seem to be spoken in jest are heard by your colleagues, some people may regard you as a stepping stone for him.You can't help but guard against this. (2) Do not pry into other people's privacy.Everyone enjoys knowing other people's privacy, but they don't want others to know their own privacy.Therefore, in order not to arouse other people's resentment and vigilance, never inquire about other people's privacy.

(3) Don't be too ostentatious.Don't make yourself appear different in front of your colleagues.In fact, everyone will think of themselves as different.Therefore, keep a low-key and humble attitude, only in this way will you be recognized by your colleagues. Don't order others.As I have said before, no matter in terms of experience, knowledge or status, you are not qualified to order your colleagues.If you want to get help from others, you have to use other methods. Do’s and don’ts for pleasant collaboration with colleagues: (1) Only when you respect others can others respect you.

(2) Getting along with your colleagues in harmony can make your work run more smoothly and make you work happily. (3) Don't rush to express yourself, don't talk too much or be arrogant, which will create a distance between you and your colleagues.