Chapter 41 3. How to deal with your boss

Introduction: The workplace is indeed a very complicated place, not all talents and abilities determine your future and direction. In the workplace, we have to consider the knowledge of getting along with our bosses.A fact that sounds frustrating is that, to some extent, your future in the workplace is determined by your leader, so you have to make him feel satisfied. Maybe you may ask your colleagues for their opinions on some things, but In any case, things like your promotion or salary increase are ultimately up to him.So give up your childish thinking.Don't take it for granted that hard work will make you successful in the workplace. This is a wrong idea, absolutely wrong.I'm not alarmist. Although hard-working people are indeed employees that bosses like, but this is not the main thing.

The workplace is indeed a very complicated place, not all talents and abilities determine your future and direction.Here, there must be an appropriate combination of your personal needs and the needs of the company, and your personal hobbies and the nature of your work may conflict... Therefore, if you are in the workplace, you must learn to communicate with leaders properly.I have some suggestions here for reference. Human nature craves communication and communication, and so does leadership.You don't necessarily have to wait until the leader calls to walk into his office.If you have a job comment or suggestion, you can knock on his door.I haven't seen any leader's office where subordinates are not allowed to enter. Generally speaking, they welcome you.

Taking the initiative to communicate with the leader can make you leave a very good impression on the leader, because it means that you are working hard-I have no objection to working hard, but the key is to let the leader know this.In addition, knowing all the subordinates is a kind of information and a basic work task that the leader needs to master, so even if you don't ask him, he will take the initiative to talk to you. If your leader says to you: "It's good to have your own ideas." Under normal circumstances, this is not a polite remark.General leaders like subordinates who have ideas, and they seem to prefer those novelties.Never forget that it is these things that do them good.

Please keep this in mind, and it is a very effective way to win the favor of the leader by giving work advice to the leader.Of course, the actual content should be pretty good too.However, there are a few things you must do first. First of all, you should have very mature thinking about your own opinions or suggestions, rather than forming an inspiration hastily.If it's a suggestion, you'd better tell him not only what your suggestion is, but why and how it should be done.Sometimes an idea's executability is what makes it good or bad. Secondly, find out the work habits of your leader and grasp the timing of communication.Of course, you can't meet the leader while he's meeting guests or talking on the phone.Try not to interrupt him when he is concentrating on a problem.

Finally, what you need to pay attention to is that the attitude of giving advice must not express thoughts such as "I am smarter than you".This thought itself is not fact, nor does it do any good - it is fatally wrong for you.Because this shows that your original intention to make suggestions to the leader is to show that you are better, not for the work itself. Leadership is indeed very important to people in the workplace.As I said before, they have a decisive role in your promotion and salary increase (even if they are not your direct leadership, they have more or less influence).

In addition, they are indeed better than you in some aspects, and they also play a more important role in work and affairs.In this sense, we must maintain considerable respect for them. But this does not mean that you are humble, because in personality, you are equal.The traditional kind of blindly flattering and agreeing with the leader has no meaning anymore, and you will not leave a deep impression on the leader because of this. Today's leaders believe that what they need is the kind of knowledgeable and honest subordinates.Going along has no meaning to them except to satisfy their vanity.Therefore, you need to be brave enough to express your views.

It's really hard to walk the line between respect and independence.But if you want to win in the workplace, you can only do this.Plus, you can take it as a challenge to do it. The so-called "correct treatment of criticism and correction" refers to accepting the correct part and rejecting the wrong part of what the leader said.Leaders are responsible and qualified to criticize and correct us as necessary, so that we can make continuous progress.They have more knowledge and experience than us, and they see problems more comprehensively and in-depth, and their perspectives are newer.Therefore, we should not be ashamed, or even resentful, for being criticized; we should be happy that we have corrected another mistake of our own.

When they realize that the leader's point of view is wrong, most people will doubt their own point of view.This kind of doubt is very necessary, the key is not to easily deny your point of view because of doubt.There are also some people who confirm that their views are correct after doubts, but they don't respond at all, as if the leader's words are the golden rule. How can leaders be without mistakes?Of course, it is not a very simple matter to raise the problems we have discovered to the leaders.Although we have repeatedly emphasized that leaders should be tolerant, magnanimous and rational, real life is a different story.They are often not so rational when doing things, even more extreme than us.We have to realize this objectively, they just have fewer mistakes than us.One view is that we find leadership mistakes so hard that we should not miss the opportunity to express ourselves.But I prefer to understand it in another way, that is, I think it is a serious attitude towards work.Do everything you can to do your best, instead of adopting a sloppy coping attitude.

Therefore, we should use a way that is both in line with our identity and acceptable to him to present the mistakes we found and explain why we cannot accept them.Of course, at any time, we should convince people with reason.However, don't contradict the leader face-to-face, this will bring harm to both the leader and yourself.Those reckless subordinates who think they are talented and capable often take pleasure in contradicting the leader, because it seems to show that he is indeed talented and different.Maybe it is, but it's not very smart of them to act that way. Pay special attention to the way you speak to the leader. You should have an appropriate tone and tactful words. You should continue to maintain the balance between respect and independence. Pay special attention to this when expressing.

In addition, in order not to waste the precious time of the leader and to show your language expression skills, you should keep your words short, of course, on the premise of expressing your meaning clearly. Pay attention to some taboos in speaking.Choose those words that are appropriate, and don't use words that are out of proportion to your position.Words like "You've worked hard," "I'm touched," "whatever," etc., will make you look more like a leader. In order to seek a higher position and salary or a better working environment, you may need to make some requests to the leader.Generally speaking, the attitude of the leader to the subordinate who made the request is understanding, but it is also very embarrassing.Leaders feel embarrassed for a variety of reasons, some of which have nothing to do with subordinates and others that do.In order to make your request easier to be accepted by the leader, you need to pay attention to some request-making skills.

First, don't make excessive or unrealistic demands.Not only will the leader fail to meet your demands, but he will also resent you for it.It can easily make your relationship with the leader sour. Second, watch your wording.No matter how reasonable you think your request is, try to speak to the leader in a negotiable tone.Don't make the leader feel threatened or ordered to meet your demands.He will unconsciously refuse your request, even without too many reasons. Three principles for getting along with leaders: (1) You must maintain a considerable degree of respect for the leader, and at the same time maintain your own personality independence. (2) Never speak ill of other colleagues in front of the leader. (3) Pay attention to maintaining communication with the leaders, whether it is work matters or your personal thoughts on the company.