Chapter 17 2. Pay attention to the tone of voice and be rich in changes

Introduction: Intonation, like the expression of the speaker, conveys a certain implication to the other party. One day, shortly after the First World War, I wandered into Hyde Park and walked up to Marble Arch—I knew there were always various people talking there on various religious and political topics, and wanted to hear Listen to their conversation. I saw a Catholic explaining the infallibility of the Pope to people, and then I heard a socialist comment on Karl Marx.Finally, I also listened to a man's discourse on polygamy. I noticed a change in the audience size around the three keynote speakers.At the beginning, the polygamist speaker had the largest audience, but later, his audience dwindled, while the people around the other two speakers grew.Do you know why?Is it because of the topic?

I did research on this issue.I found that the advocate of polygamy did not seem to have much interest in getting three or four wives himself, and his tone of voice sounded so unhappy that people thought he was boring; Opinionated Catholics and socialists, they were all in the middle of their speeches—they were high-spirited and flailing their arms, their voices were high and full of conviction, they radiated enthusiasm and anger, and this enthusiasm infected people.It turned out that it was the different attitudes and intonations of the speakers that caused the changes in the audience. Intonation is the combination of the speaker's tone and tone of voice, which expresses the emotion contained in the speech.When speaking, you need to let the tone of voice show more information than the specific content of your speech, or that the intonation is actually part of the content of your speech.For example, when your words sound sincere, you are actually saying to the other person: "What I think is what I say, what I say is what I think, and what I do is actually to you Respect." In this way, the other party will naturally believe what you say more.

I am sure you have heard speeches similar to this polygamous speaker, whose tone is flat, stiff, and without passion, who show little interest in the subject they are addressing, as if they were feebly reading from a manuscript Same.Does this way of speaking appeal to you?Of course not. Why is the topic discussed by many people very attractive, but it does not have the expected effect?In fact, tone of voice conveys far more information than we think.The tone of voice, like the expression of the speaker, conveys the appeal of a certain meaning to the other party.When you hear a person's phone call, if his tone is enthusiastic, then you can tell that he is very happy even if you haven't seen him; but if his tone is very flat, then even if he tells you something to be happy You will also think that there is nothing to be happy about.

People who know how to speak can not only shape their own individual voices to make them pleasant to hear, but also their tone and intonation are very contagious, always able to touch people's heartstrings and arouse the resonance of the other party.It is said that an Italian actor recited Arabic numerals in a sad tone, and the audience was moved to tears, while a Chinese artist recited recipes as beautiful as poetry.Another example is an ordinary modal particle—ah, using different intonations, it can express many meanings such as "I understand", "I didn't hear clearly", "surprised" and "Finally got it"—this is exactly the intonation that makes Your speech becomes more emotive.

Many people have such a wrong understanding. They think that intonation, like voice, is innate, and they don't realize that there is a problem with their intonation.The problem to be noted is that this inappropriate voice will make the other party very numb, and at the same time lose their attention to the content of the speech, so that they have no mind to think about the content of your speech, while a voice with a tone of voice will have the exact opposite effect. We fall into such a misunderstanding that many times we spend more time finding out what to say, but in the end it is our tone of voice that messes us up.Pick up the handset and hear a word "Hello", no need to say anything more, from this word, we already know whether our boyfriend is still passionate about us, whether our mother has not slept well, whether our friends Have you successfully passed the exam... So many messages, all in such a change of voice——intonation.

"The voice is the music of the body, and the intonation is the music of the soul" is quite true.When we are sad, our tone is pale and empty; after a night of partying, our tone becomes weak and weak; Have you noticed the tone of your voice?Is it impassioned, or cadenced?Or is it peaceful and soothing?Choose the right occasion and use your intonation well, so that your voice can also express rich expressions. Pay attention to tone of voice and improve communication effect: (1) In the face of different people, different occasions and different words, we need different intonations.

(2) Intonation makes your speech more alive. (3) Intonation says a lot more than you think.