Chapter 18 3. Refining the language and adjusting the rhythm

Introduction: Social language should be concise, concise, and carry as much and more useful information as possible. There must be a rhythm in speaking, fast when it should be fast, slow when it should be slow, and rising when it should rise. This way there are ups and downs, speed, and severity, which form the musicality and melodiousness of the spoken language. Otherwise, the words will not be touching and not moving. There are regular changes in spoken language, called rhythm.Only with this change can the language be vivid, otherwise it will appear dull.There was an Italian musician. He did not sing on stage, but counted the numbers from 1 to 100 rhythmically and with changes. As a result, he captivated all the audience, and even some audience were moved to tears. It can be seen that the rhythm is in life How important is it.

You definitely hope that you can give people a capable and lively impression, so you must master the rhythm of speaking, which is the charm of speaking rhythm.There are two main factors affecting the rhythm of speaking; the speed of speaking and the simplicity and complexity of speaking content.If you speak so fast that some words are slurred, others will not understand what you are saying, and speaking too slowly will show that you are too slow and slow.In verbal communication, how fast or slow you speak will affect the information you convey to the other party.Too fast, like too high a pitch, can create tension and anxiety.

Walter Stevens said in his book "Lincoln Through the Eyes of a Reporter": "He (referring to Lincoln) would utter a few words quickly, but when he came to a word he wished to emphasize, he would draw out his voice and speak each word with a heavy weight. Then he would be as fast as lightning He'll finish the whole sentence in a hurry...he will try to prolong the words that need to be emphasized, about as long as the other five or six sentences that are not important." Now you try to say the following sentence: "Today we are going to introduce to you this product of our company." The "" these three words, then paused, and enthusiastically said "this product" aloud.You will be able to get unexpected results by using this technique.

But one thing to note is that although I don't object to you deliberately slowing down certain words and sentences to emphasize this or other content (depending on your pitch), if you speak the whole or most of the text In this case, I suggest that you never do this.Because deliberately procrastinating everywhere will make people feel very bored and eventually unbearable, so that the effect you expected will not be achieved. When we speak, we need to clarify the purpose of speaking: social language should be concise, concise, and carry as much and more useful information as possible.Only in this way can you make your speaking rhythm lively and make the audience feel that you are decisive, direct and sure of the content of your speech.

Knowing this, it is not difficult to understand why some people state too much when expressing their views, and go on for too long, and the result is a complete failure.In Lincoln's speech at Gettysburg, he only spoke for two minutes, and the whole speech was only 226 words, but his rival Edward Everett talked for two hours.As a result, it is not difficult to know that Lincoln was successful. Therefore, in order to keep your words from falling, you'd better make sure your message is short and direct.To achieve this, you can use the following method to arrange the information you need to express.

You need to get to the subject as soon as possible, so that the other party can understand what you want to express more directly.This way your message will sound clearer and clearer.But a lot of people always like to insinuate.As everyone knows, this approach is easy to distract the other party's attention. For important points you are about to make, you need to remember this: the fewer words or sentences, the better.There's an old saying that captures what I mean very well, and it goes like this: "I'll ask you what time it is, and you don't have to tell me how a watch works."

Having said that, it is not the case.Obviously, a few words and sentences can express a clear point of view, but many people always like to use too many words and sentences, and even pile up stories, characters, and figures to illustrate their themes.You need to avoid too much retouching, it will only damage your expression. When a teenager attends his first formal prom, his father tells him, "You probably shouldn't drink before, during or after tonight's prom." What mistakes did the father make in this sentence?First of all, unconvincing qualifying words or linking words like "maybe" sound less sure of what you mean, and the other party may not understand what you are sure of.Secondly, words like "before, during or after" are nothing more than to explain the purpose of not allowing him to drink, so why add so many modified words?This can give the impression of being indecisive, indirect, and indecisive, and can make your expression less concise.

In what you say, there may be multiple themes. What is the result of this?This will distract both your energy and the other person's energy.In fact, it is very difficult for you to cover a topic thoroughly, so it is even more impossible to cover every topic thoroughly.If you have to, you'll only scratch the surface of each topic, so discussing various topics with the other person will affect your main point of view. Also, many people like descriptions that pay attention to detail.There is nothing wrong with this, but you must pay attention to a premise that it cannot affect the expression of your topic.

If you put energy and time into these details, then the focus of your message will not be clear.Don't expect the other person to expend extra effort, energy or time analyzing and interpreting your point of view. Most people are not willing to do this.Therefore, through your expression, let the other party directly get important information, this is the most important. How to express your thoughts correctly: (1) Don’t repeat what you said too much. You can repeat appropriately to emphasize the relevant content, but you must ensure that you do it consciously, and try to let the other party know this, otherwise they will suspect that you are procrastinating .

(2) You need to express your meaning clearly and simply as possible. (3) You can modify what you say, but your meaning must be understood by the other party.