Chapter 45 express your language vividly

Shortly after the First World War I was in Arabia on account of my colleague Demas.One day I wandered into Hyde Park and walked up to Marble Arch—I knew that there were always various people talking there on various religious and political topics, and wanted to hear what they had to say.I saw a Catholic explaining the infallibility of the Pope to people, and then I heard a socialist comment on Karl Marx.Finally, I also listened to a man's discourse on polygamy. I noticed a change in the audience size around the three keynote speakers.At the beginning, the polygamist speaker had the largest audience, but later, his audience dwindled, while the people around the other two speakers grew.Do you know why?Is it because of the topic?

I did research on this issue.I found that the advocate of polygamy did not seem to have much interest in getting three or four wives himself, and his tone sounded not at all happy, so people thought he was very boring; The Catholics and the Socialists, who were on opposite sides, were absorbed in their speeches—they were emotional and flailing their arms, their voices were high and full of conviction, they radiated enthusiasm and anger, and this enthusiasm infected people.It turned out that it was the different attitudes and intonations of the speakers that caused the changes in the audience.

Intonation is the combination of the speaker's tone and tone of voice, which expresses the emotion contained in the speech.When speaking, you need to let the tone of voice show more information than the specific content of your speech, or that the intonation is actually part of the content of your speech.For example, when your words sound sincere, you are actually saying to the other person: "What I think is what I say, what I say is what I think, and what I do is actually to you Respect." In this way, the other party will naturally believe what you say more. I am sure you have heard speeches similar to this polygamous speaker, whose tone is flat, stiff, and without passion, who show little interest in the subject they are addressing, as if they were feebly reading from a manuscript Same.Does this way of speaking appeal to you?Of course not.

Why is the topic discussed by many people very attractive, but it does not have the expected effect?In fact, tone of voice conveys far more information than we think.The tone of voice, like the expression of the speaker, conveys the appeal of a certain meaning to the other party.When you hear a person's phone call, if his tone is warm, then you can tell that he is happy even if you haven't seen him, but if his tone is very flat, then even if he tells you something to be happy You will also think that there is nothing to be happy about. People who know how to speak can not only shape their own individual voices to make them pleasant to hear, but also their tone and intonation are very contagious, always able to touch people's heartstrings and arouse the resonance of the other party.It is said that an Italian actor recited Arabic numerals in a sad tone, and the audience was moved to tears, while a Chinese artist recited recipes as beautiful as poetry.Another example is an ordinary modal particle—ah, using different intonations, it can express many meanings such as "I understand", "I didn't hear clearly", "surprised", "I finally got it"—this is exactly what it means. It is the tone of voice that makes your speech expressive.

Many people have such a wrong understanding-they think that intonation, like voice, is innate, and they don't realize that there is a problem with their intonation.The problem to be aware of is that this kind of inappropriate voice will make the other person very numb, and at the same time lose the focus on what is said, so that they will not have the mind to think about what you said - while the intonation of the voice will have the exact opposite effect . We fall into this mental trap - a lot of times we put more thought into finding what to say, but in the end it's our tone of voice that messes us up.Pick up the handset and hear the word "Hello", there is no need to say anything more. From this word, we already know whether the boyfriend still has a fiery passion for us, whether the mother did not sleep well, friend Have you successfully passed the exam... So many messages, all in such a change of voice——intonation.

"The voice is the music of the body, and the intonation is the music of the soul" is quite true.When we are sad, our tone is pale and empty; after a night of partying, our tone becomes weak and weak; Have you noticed the tone of your voice?Is it impassioned, or cadenced?Or is it peaceful and soothing?Choose the right occasion and use your tone of voice well, and you can make your voice express rich expressions as well.