Chapter 78 Tolerance is another kind of beauty

It is indeed difficult for us to love our enemies like a saint, but you have to love yourself and live healthy for our happiness.We can forgive them, forget them, and do so wisely, because we cannot allow our enemies to control our happiness, health, and appearance. A woman boarded a train bound for Philadelphia.She walked into a carriage, picked a seat and sat down.At this time, a slightly obese man came over and sat on the seat opposite her, and then he started smoking.The lady couldn't help coughing a few times, and acted very irritable.But the man didn't notice the woman's reaction. Finally, the woman couldn't help but said, "Are you a foreigner? Don't you know that there is a special smoking compartment in the car? Smoking is prohibited here. "The man obediently stubbed out the cigarette without saying a word.

A moment later a conductor came and politely asked her to change carriages, as she was traveling in General Grant's private carriage.The lady was very surprised after hearing this, she seemed a little flustered and scared.Before she stood up and walked towards the door, she took a look at General Grant. The man who was smoking was also the general. Be tolerant and magnanimous. Khalil said: "The reason why great men are great is that they are tolerant and considerate of ordinary people." The reason why many great men are loved by people is largely because they have the virtue of tolerance.To ordinary people, the virtue of tolerance makes her appear cultivated, making her attractive and impossible to ignore.

If you want to have a forgiving heart, here is a good piece of advice.The German army has a military rule that has been practiced for a long time: "When you are very dissatisfied with something, you can't express it immediately. You must endure it all night. After you calm down, it is not too late for you to raise it." In life, if this military rule is also implemented, I believe that nagging parents, nagging wives, picky employers and some people who deliberately make things difficult can be calmed down, and many incidents will not happen. It is a fault that everyone has to blame others instead of self-examination.So, if one day you suddenly want to criticize others, just think about those vivid examples in our lives, and then face the fact that no matter whether the person we want to criticize is wrong or not, he will try his best to find out for his behavior and practices. Excuses, or even find fault with you in turn.

Everyone longs to be understood and tolerated.For things that you can't figure out, change your position, think and judge from the perspective of the other party, and you may be able to find a basis for tolerance.People who can't tolerate sand in their eyes will not see far, and those who will not forgive others will not forgive you. Tolerance is a virtue.Life itself is very tiring, for livelihood, for study, for marriage, for family, for career... seldom when things go well, but more times when irritable, resentful, and psychologically uneven.Everyone longs to be understood and tolerated.For things that you can't figure out, change your position, think and judge from the perspective of the other party, and you may be able to find a basis for tolerance.People who can't tolerate sand in their eyes will not see far, and those who will not forgive others will not forgive you.It will definitely not be much better if you frequently export to hurt, train, and hurt people.

There was a time when the young Lincoln was keen to criticize others.He not only wrote articles to mock others, but also deliberately threw articles on the street for people to watch, which made the people who were ridiculed hate him very much.It wasn't until later that something happened that made him realize that he had done something wrong. In 1842, he wrote an article criticizing Sival. Sival was very angry. He demanded a duel with Lincoln. Lincoln didn't want to fight, but it would hurt his face, so he decided to fight.Fortunately, the friends of both sides stopped the duel of life and death at the last moment.After this incident, Lincoln never criticized and ridiculed others excessively.

Severely criticizing a person without mercy, even if the criticism is completely correct, will make people hate you deeply and will hate you for a lifetime.Rather than saying that man is a logical and rational animal, it is more appropriate to say that man is an animal full of emotions, prejudices and vanity.Bitter criticism will hurt their grandiose vanity and self-esteem, and sometimes, it will lead to a lot of trouble. In fact, a tolerant attitude is the lubricant of interpersonal relationships and the bridge of friendship between people.Ladies may think that tolerance is for others, because then others can not accept wrong punishment or condemnation of conscience.However, I want to tell you ladies that the biggest beneficiaries of tolerance are actually you, not others.

The stupidest people in the world can also criticize, curse, and complain about others. Not everyone can learn to be considerate and tolerant, only people with mature personalities can. If we hate our enemies, we give them a disguised victory.That hatred keeps us from sleeping well, eating poorly, and our blood pressure, health, and happiness suffer because of it.Surely our enemies would dance for joy if they knew that we were so distressed for them, that they filled us with resentment.The hatred in our hearts can't hurt them at all, while our own lives are like hell. The Milwaukee Police Department once issued a circular: "If a selfish person wants to take advantage of you, don't pay attention to it, let alone revenge. If you keep trying to compete with him, then you won't hurt him much. Can only hurt yourself..." How can revenge hurt you? "Life" magazine reported: "If you are in a state of anger for a long time, high blood pressure and heart disease will follow." Therefore, what God said "love your enemy" is not only a moral cultivation, but also It is teaching us how to live a healthy life.Not only that, but it is also telling women how to make themselves more attractive.Because of resentment, the faces of many women are wrinkled, their expressions are dull, and their beautiful faces are changed.In fact, if you want to make a woman more beautiful, filling her heart with tolerance and love is the best beauty method, and other methods are not even half as good.

If the heart is full of resentment, we will not have the appetite to taste delicious food. The Bible says, "It is better to eat vegetables with love than to eat beef with resentment." Maybe it is really hard for us to love our enemies like a saint, but if you can love yourself and live a healthy life for our happiness, we can forgive them and forget them, which is very wise .Because we can't let our enemies control our happiness, health and appearance.Shakespeare once said: "Don't burn yourself with anger because of the enemy." Someone asked General Eisenhower's son John if the general would hold grudges against others.He replied proudly and affirmatively: "No, my father never wastes even a little time thinking about those he hates."

There is a saying that goes well: "He who does not get angry is a fool, and he who does not get angry is a wise man."