Chapter 76 Jumping out of the perfectionism trap

At work, female professionals often have a "perfect complex". They always set a perfect goal for themselves in advance and strive for perfection. Doubt and denial, even depression.This behavior is all because they have fallen into the trap of perfectionism. It is this seemingly insignificant habitual thinking and behavior that brings great pressure to their work and life.According to the analysis of relevant experts, professional women who have the work habit of "demanding perfection in everything" usually have the following six characteristics: first, they are so nervous that they can't even do ordinary jobs; second, they are unwilling to take risks, for fear of any minor flaws Damaged one's own image; third, can't try anything new; fourth, is too demanding on oneself, and has no joy in life; fifth, always finds that some things are not perfect, so the spirit is always unable to relax and rest; The sixth is to find fault with others, and the interpersonal relationship cannot be coordinated, and the cooperation and help of others cannot be obtained.

Psychological research has proved that professional women who try to achieve perfection are inversely proportional to their chances of success.For any professional woman, carrying such a heavy mental burden, not only cannot she succeed in her career, but she also cannot achieve satisfactory results in terms of self-esteem, family problems, and interpersonal relationships.If you always approach life and work with this incorrect and illogical thinking habit, you will never be able to calmly realize your life value in the workplace, and the good times in your life will also be spent in anxiety.

In fact, "pursuing perfection" is just a kind of ideal of people, just like a mirage, it is just an illusion.The well-known British physicist Newton has a great reputation, but he spent more than 20 years trying to prove the existence of God and find the driving force for the movement of celestial bodies from God, resulting in nothing for the rest of his life It is a pity that Einstein, the greatest scientist in the 20th century who created the theory of relativity, brought about a revolution in scientific thinking with his wisdom, but he could not handle his family relationship well; the film art master Chaplin created a profound However, he strongly opposes sound films; Johann Strauss, the waltz king who created many famous waltzes such as "The Blue Danube", can't dance in his life, and his movements are clumsy and without A little sense of humor.

Numerous facts prove that this world is not perfect, and life cannot be perfect.Therefore, in the process of pursuing a successful career and becoming a real strong woman, you can't give up on yourself, but you can't pursue perfection unrealistically. The following are the solutions proposed by relevant experts specifically for the bad work habit of professional women who "demand perfection in everything": Many times, too much unhappiness at work is because you want too much, are afraid of losing, and are unhappy about what you have lost.In fact, loss and gain are a pair of conjoined twins, interdependent.Lose youth to gain maturity and life experience, lose play time to gain rewards for hard work, lose high-paying jobs to gain long-awaited leisure time.After thinking about it this way, you really shouldn't be hurt by the loss, but happy for the gain after the loss.

People must be enterprising and fighting spirit, but blindly chasing fame and fortune will not be worth the loss.As long as you have worked hard, made progress through hard work, and gained something, don't be too demanding on yourself.At work, everyone will encounter unsatisfactory things: finally get the appreciation of the boss, but the boss is transferred elsewhere; go all out to make the tender but lose the opportunity because the last data is not verified... In fact, when you Let go of impetuous quick success, follow the way of nature, earnestly do everything within one's power, hold a normal heart, and develop in harmony with the surrounding environment, then in the rapidly changing environment, you will not worry about gains and losses at every turn, just Don't let irrevocable facts spoil your emotions and ruin your life.

People always live for themselves, and some women abandon their own will, as if living in the standards of others, looking for their own value in the judgment of others.For such a woman, a slander from others is enough to destroy all her confidence, because she cares too much about what others think of her. Caring about other people's opinions can only disturb one's own size and lead to a heavy life.Only by going your own way, not violating your own will for the eyes of others, respecting your own way of life, doing what you really want to do, and being the person you want to be, can you achieve a happy and comfortable life state, and only when you travel light can you have more room for maneuver Live your best life.

Even if you are busy with business, you can completely imagine this as your favorite thing and greet it with enthusiasm.When the mood is high, the efficiency of doing things will naturally double, and the pressure will give way, and blaming others will only make things more confusing. Carnegie, a success expert, said that being able to accept the worst can mentally allow you to develop new abilities.When life is at a low ebb, you can think about it from another angle: the low point is when you turn to the high point, and things will definitely start to get better when they are at their worst.Such a psychological suggestion will definitely improve one's will very quickly.This is also different from the spiritual victory method, but a kind of open-mindedness in the face of difficulties. Instead of frowning, it is better to change your mind, try to have fun, and cheer yourself up.

In short, there are regrets everywhere in life, and perfection only exists in ideals.If you are good at applauding your efforts and every achievement, you will always have a sense of accomplishment.