Chapter 51 Women need a sense of humor too

Most women are not very humorous in public, not because she has no sense of humor, nor is it because she lacks the ability to express humor, but because she has a mindset: women should maintain serious and serious work in public Style and feminine reserve.If you are too serious, others often don't know how to communicate with you. It is really difficult to take the first step of communication, so it is easy to keep a distance from you.Men are good at using humorous words and expressions to ease the tense atmosphere, making others feel that he is so kind, so others are more likely to accept his views.There is no problem with real communication.

Many people think that telling jokes is the specialty of men, and women are not born to tell jokes. Therefore, when female friends hear a joke, try to spread your smile to show that you are enjoying the humor they bring to you.Sometimes, even if you have already heard the joke, don't tell the truth, still show your bright smile and create a light-hearted and humorous atmosphere for everyone.This is a way of showing approval and encouragement.And your approval and encouragement will definitely gain the favor of men and make them more willing to approach you. If we want to make a good impression in our relationships, humor is obviously the best way to do it.If you know and use humor well, you will be easily accepted by others.Especially when the crowd is laughed happily by you, you will see yourself more clearly in the laughter of the crowd, and thus be more honest with others.So, you can have a warm and harmonious friendship, and you can even become very good friends with those who have only met once.And that's the power of humor.

Facing life with a relaxed mood, using humor and self-deprecating methods to resolve problems can make many small worries disappear invisible and avoid greater worries.You create a warm atmosphere for others with your light-hearted and humorous way, which conveys to them that those little things are completely unnecessary, and makes others happier, so you also leave a deeper impression on others. The following story, which turned the atmosphere from awkwardness to rapport, also confirms my statement: A young girl, hoping to impress her fiancé's family at her engagement party, walks into the house with a smile on her face, only to trip over a lamp, which in turn knocks over a small table Worst of all, she herself fell on the small table, looking very embarrassed.

But the girl was so quick-witted that she immediately stood up and said, "Look, I can also perform acrobatics!" It was her self-deprecating banter that immediately reversed the awkward atmosphere at the banquet. She not only eliminated the nervousness of others, but also showed her own self-confidence, and finally left a good impression on everyone present. A good humor will clear up a misunderstanding, and a clever humorous remark can beat many flat conversations. In daily work and life, if women can always make witty remarks and talk and laugh in a timely manner, then they can easily connect to the hotline of feelings.Lenin said: "Humor is a beautiful and healthy quality." On appropriate occasions, it has been regarded as a person's advantage to use humorous conversation to enhance the vividness and intimacy of communication. "Sense of humor" is one of the criteria for evaluating personality, which shows how important a sense of humor is to women.

When a female writer visited the United States, a very friendly Chinese family came to visit, and the two sides had a very happy conversation.Suddenly, the writer discovered that the guest's children had jumped on her white sheets with their shoes on. This was very unpleasant, but the parents did not realize this.If the writer uses any words or expressions of disapproval, it can lead to embarrassment for both parties.The writer's sense of humor comes into play at key moments.She said to the parents of the children very relaxed and happy: "Please bring your children to the earth." Both the host and the guest smiled knowingly, and the problem was satisfactorily resolved in a very harmonious atmosphere.

In terms of the use of language, the writer just played a big trick and replaced "floor" with "earth", and the whole meaning is quite different.The floor is relative to walls, ceilings, tables, and beds, while the earth is relative to celestial bodies such as the sun, moon, and stars.The writer borrowed the concept of "earth" to bring the spiritual space of both parties into the background of the vast universe.At this time, the contradiction between the child's shoes and the white bed sheet appears to be diluted, and the relationship between the child and the earth and the universe covers up all unhappiness and makes the atmosphere harmonious.

Of course, humor is just a means, not an end.You can't be humorous for the sake of humor. You must choose humorous words appropriately according to the specific context.In addition, humor requires high cultural literacy and language expression skills. People have different talents, some can be humorous, and some can't.Those who can't be humorous don't have to force it.Otherwise, pretending to be humorous will be self-defeating. Of course, a sense of humor can be developed like any other skill.Here are a few ways you can improve your humor level: A．Create a dedicated collection of funny cartoon books and jokes.

B．Post funny things where you can always see them so you can laugh every time you see them. C．Put together a collection of your favorite funny movies and funny books and flip through them every now and then. D．Recall the things you did in the past and write them into some funny anecdotes or funny stories. From today's perspective, those things that made you toss and turn in the past are also very ridiculous. Of course, there must be a sense of proportion in everything, and humor must be timely and appropriate, and it must not violate etiquette.In interpersonal communication, a decent joke can relax the nerves, activate the atmosphere, and create a relaxed and happy atmosphere suitable for communication.However, if it is overdone and something out of etiquette is done, the effect will definitely be counterproductive and hurt feelings.

If a woman makes fun of a man, the most important thing to pay attention to is the problem of self-esteem.A man's self-esteem cannot be stabbed, so if you want to make a joke, you should try to make a joke of yourself!A lot of great humor, you must point to yourself!If you say something that hurts someone too much, be sure to sincerely apologize. In addition, white-collar women should pay attention to the following rules when joking: Taboo refers to having scruples or taboos about certain things or actions due to customs or personal physical defects.Almost everyone has their own taboos more or less, and women must be careful to avoid them when joking.

Joking can not be too much, especially to distinguish the occasion.If the occasion is wrong, the joke will not only fail to achieve the effect, but also may be ridiculed by others, and even arouse disgust from others. When a woman is joking, she must never say something that mocks a woman's appearance.Beauty is everything to a woman, and it is cruel to be criticized for her appearance.Therefore, in any case, you must not make fun of a girl's appearance. People have different identities, personalities, and moods, and they have different tolerances for jokes.The same joke can be played on A, but not necessarily on B.Therefore, before making a joke, be sure to understand the character of the other party.

Jokes should be beneficial to physical and mental health, enhance unity, and abandon vulgar tastes.The content of the joke depends on the ideological taste and cultural accomplishment of the joker.The jokes with healthy content and elegant style not only inspire and spiritually enjoy the other party, but also powerfully shape their own beautiful image. Being kind to others is a principle of joking.The process of joking is the process of mutual exchange and transmission of feelings. If you use jokes to sneer at others and vent your inner disgust and dissatisfaction, this is absolutely unacceptable. Doing so will destroy your interpersonal relationship.