Chapter 45 Don't be an enemy of your husband's career

In life, we can often see those men whose working hours are not fixed and who need special care at work, such as taxi drivers, railway workers, sailors, pilots, etc., all need a wife who can adapt to their work. Only in this way can they maintain the harmony and happiness of their married life. Therefore, if your husband's occupation is also such a special occupation, then you should understand that life itself is not perfect, and you must have enough courage to face it and be able to accept it bravely. Recently, I met a corporate public relations manager at a dinner party.His company was the first established in the United States.I sat next to him and asked him: What should wives do if they want to help their husbands succeed?

He said: "I think that if a wife wants to help her husband succeed in his career, he needs to do two extremely important things. The first is to love him, and the second is to let him go out on his own. If a smart wife can Let the husband concentrate on his work, then the husband will be able to exert all his talents and achieve success in the end. Moreover, this smart wife will also give the husband a happy and warm married life. This principle of not disturbing the husband applies to both It applies to the relationship between husband and wife as well as to the relationship between a wife and her husband's colleagues."

He continued: "Some wives like to give too much advice to their husbands, or seriously interfere with their work. She feels that she is her husband's assistant in his career, and often opposes her husband's work partners, complaining that her husband works too long and shoulders responsibilities. Too much and too little pay. There is nothing worse than a wife like this who makes her husband a failure." Many newly married women dream that their prince charming will be promoted as soon as possible.For this reason, they thought of many ways, for example, tried to make friends with their husbands' work partners; offered some hints and suggestions to their husbands; and made many plans.However, their behavior not only failed to promote their husbands, but lost their jobs.

In the book "How to Stop Murdering Yourself" by Dr. Peter Sturker, there is a passage like this: Those wives are really to be strongly condemned because they have been pushing their husbands too much.Their demands are endless, and they hope that their husbands will run tirelessly in order to gain wealth, fame and a high level of material life.And the purpose of these women is simply to outshine their neighbors. Ladies, how do you feel after reading this passage?As wives, do you often force your husbands to conform to your "success model"?If this is the case, I can only say: "Your husband is too pitiful, and you as a wife are too miserable, and your family is too unfortunate."

The wife's blind intervention is really a very dangerous thing. Even if the wife's intention is good, this kind of behavior will not produce good results. It is beyond most people's imagination, and it will only make things worse. Ms. Rice was my former neighbor. She is a woman who cares about face and likes to talk big in front of others.Ms. Rice told us proudly that her husband is now a white-collar worker in a company, and she seems to have entered high society. When they first got married, Rice's husband was a very good welder.Although the daily work is a bit tiring, and the income is not very much, he lives very happily.However, Ms. Rice is not satisfied with all this.She envied other people's husbands who went to work decently with a briefcase every day, but her own husband brought a bento.In order to allow herself to live a decent life, Rice began to interfere with her husband's work.

Under the urging of his wife, this happy young man came to a big company and became a clerk.He no longer holds the electric welding machine, because he needs to hold the pen holder in his hand.Now, with the help of his wife, he has been promoted several levels one after another.But he doesn't like this quiet and boring job, because welding is his favorite job.So now Rice's husband is very, very distressed.But Les doesn't think so, she can finally show off in front of others, because she turned her husband from a worthless worker into a respectable white-collar worker. Forcing your husband into a career he doesn't like will only end up making him feel badly wronged.I admit that some jobs are really enviable, but this does not mean that they will bring happiness to everyone.Ladies, if you try to force your husbands out of the professions they love, you are digging your own marriage grave.

Everyone wants to get a high position and salary, but this does not mean that those who work in low positions are unhappy and unhappy.In fact, what really robs these people of their happiness is the very practice of forcing them to take high positions.This can lead to terrible stomach ulcers and even premature death for those poor husbands.This is not alarmist, because the overload of pressure will make their nervous system unbearable. Clark Hingston is a police officer in the New York Police Department.This guy is a workaholic, whenever there is a criminal case, he seems very excited, because he likes a challenging job, even though the salary is not very high.However, when his youngest daughter was born, the superior transferred him to a new department as a supervisor, responsible for processing some documents.Although the job is not dangerous, commutes regularly and pays well, it is also quite stressful.Clark is not suitable for clerical work at all, so what seems to be a small problem in the eyes of others is a big problem for him.However, due to various considerations, Clark accepted the transfer and was fully prepared.

A period of time passed, and although everything seemed to be going on in an orderly manner on the surface, Clark was actually distressed.He began to suffer from insomnia, his temper became very irritable, and he even began to lose weight.Later, his wife accompanied him to see a doctor, hoping to find out the cause.However, after various examinations, the doctor said that there was nothing wrong with him.After inquiring about Clark's recent condition, the doctor told them that Clark's illness came from troubles at work. The wife called the chief of police, hoping that he could get her husband back to his original post.Because if he can't do the job he likes and is suitable for, sooner or later he will be exhausted in the current job.If the department persisted in not sending him back, New York would lose a very good cop.

In the end, Clark returned to his old post, and his health quickly recovered.Clark said: "I finally understand that money is so insignificant compared to being able to happily and happily engage in a suitable career." Ladies, if you really want your husbands to be successful, then please don't force them into whatever career you think is right for them.You should cherish them, encourage them, and silently cooperate with their work.Always remember, don't force them to engage in inappropriate occupations, what you have to do is to let them develop their talents freely. Of course, if your husband's occupation is unusual and even causes you some troubles, you should remember the following rules:

Anyone can put up with one thing for a short period of time.If this matter does not last for a long time, you have to relax your mind and be patient. If this situation is going to continue for a long time, you should accept this fact and be able to do something that will help improve. You have to keep reminding yourself that your husband's success is also your success.If his work is necessary to his success, you should be brave enough to accept that fact.In addition, if you can't bear this situation and leave him, you will face emotional loss for a long time in the future. You have to remember that there is no completely happy and happy job in the world.Any kind of lifestyle has its own advantages and disadvantages.Those who always complain that life is not satisfactory, even if they arrange him in the most ideal environment, he will still complain endlessly.

The husband puts most of his energy on work, and the wife can provide her own help for the husband's work.It's not just a treat, it's a privilege of being a wife.Are you willing to give up this privilege?If you want to be a good helper, please remember that "he" will do everything possible to help you.