Chapter 42 You can make or break your husband's career

Marjorie Holmes said: "Almost all husbands feel happy when they hear their wives boast about themselves, such as 'You are so great', 'I am proud of you', 'It is my greatest happiness to have you' I want to jump up." The successful experience of many successful men also fully proves this statement. For example: Parkes, president of Parkes Trucking and Equipment Company, believes: "I have always believed that a man can not only become what he wants, but also what his wife wants. Over the years, I have hired many workers, but I It’s only after talking to their wives that I can decide whether to give him that position. To a large extent, the wife’s attitude towards life and whether she encourages her husband determine the success or failure of a man’s career.”

It can be seen that if you want your husband to continue to improve, don't just ask him how to do it, but encourage him.So, what should we do to make our husband what he wants to be? Appreciate and encourage the talents he has already displayed. When he lacks self-confidence, you have to find out the wonderful things he has done, such as saying to him: "Do you remember the time you suggested to the boss to reduce the waste in the department? You can It takes a lot of courage to do such a thing! It’s amazing!” Even a person who lacks self-confidence will continue to work hard after hearing such words.If the wife had assured him of his ability, he might even have thought that he might be able to act more courageously, and that in the end he would have done what he had imagined.

The wife must guide the husband, but the wife can never say to the husband "You can't, you are a failure", "You never fight for yourself, I doubt that you dare not hum when facing a goose One sound".What kind of effect will this have?Especially when his ambition is much bigger than his wife's irony.These are the words of advice to women by Margaret Cagin Boning in Cosmopolitan. "If he really can't, his boss will tell him directly. But at home, we should encourage him-as long as he works hard, he will succeed, even at breakfast and in bed. Do it. If a wife says to her husband, 'You'll fail no matter what you do,' the husband may fail very quickly."

This is not an exaggeration.What a wise wife says can indeed make a husband more confident and self-motivated. Tom Joston is a young World War II veteran.In the war, he was wounded, not only with one leg crippled, but also with scars all over his body.Fortunately, none of these injuries prevented him from doing his favorite sport, swimming.On a Sunday shortly after being discharged from the hospital, the couple went to Huntington Beach to play.Mr. Joston was basking on the beach after a simple surfing exercise, and soon he found that everyone looked at him strangely.He understood that people were looking at his bruised leg, which he had never paid attention to before.

Mrs. Joston proposed to go there again next Sunday, but Tom disagreed. He didn't want to go out, but just stayed at home.The wife understood what he meant, and she said, "Tom, I know why you prefer to stay at home. It's the scar on your leg that makes you sensitive." Joston said: "I admit that she was right. Then she said something that I am very grateful to her and I will never forget it in this life. She said: 'Tom, you have to remember, you won These scars are honorable, they are badges of your courage, do not be ashamed of them, you should be proud of them. Now, let us go swimming together.'" Mrs. Tom Joston has succeeded in making He was confident, and they went for a happy swim.

Chambers of commerce often hold courses on salesmanship, and such courses are available everywhere.The Sales Managers Club of the Boston Chamber of Commerce once held such a course.About 500 salespeople and salespersons participated in the training, which lasted for five nights.On the last night of the course, all the marketing representatives' wives were invited, because there was a program for the wives, instructing them on how to encourage their husbands to become smarter and achieve better marketing performance. One of the speakers was Dr. David Guy Bowles, author of How to Live a New Life and a marketing consultant.He suggested that every wife should make her husband feel that she has become an ideal image, so that they will go out to work with confidence every day, maybe, they will whistle happily, and their sales performance will definitely increase. get improved.

Dr. Bowers said: "Even if his dress has not kept up with the trend, you should praise him for being charming; even if the color of his favorite tie is not good-looking, you should praise him, you should praise him for advancing and retreating well, Don't talk about his faux pas at the banquet the night before. You have to convince him that he has the ability to conquer all customers. Don't doubt it, he can indeed do it!" Why don't we believe it?Since even an eminent marketing consultant like Dr. Bowers believes that this method is very effective, let's try it too!What do we get for the little effort we put in?A more confident, happier husband.Isn't it worth it?

Words of appreciation made many well-known people in the world get out of the quagmire of failure and go to the other side of success, such as the outstanding bridge player Eric Capassen. My husband once interviewed Mr. Caperson, and Mr. Caperson said that when he first came to America, he had a hard time doing anything. He even suspected that he was the most incompetent bridge player.All that changes when he meets and marries a charming bridge teacher, Josephine Thielen.She convinced him that she was strong, a bridge genius.His success in bridge is entirely due to his wife. Indeed, heartfelt praise and motivation is one of the most effective ways, wives should try it, it can make men develop their potential.No one can know whether we have tried our best, but we will get the ideal husband, and in the eyes of the husband, the wife is the most attractive wife.