Chapter 41 Create a romantic and warm family atmosphere

The American "Family and Women" magazine once published such an article, which said: "As a wife, you play a big role in the whole family. Whether it is husband or children, what family means depends entirely on you. Although husbands and children have the same obligations to the family, the most important thing is you, especially whether you can set an example for them and create a romantic and warm family atmosphere for them.” Yes, almost all men dream of having a family where they can relax and enjoy themselves after a busy day at work.Waking up every morning, they can have full energy to meet the work.The careers of the men are closely related to this family atmosphere, which in turn is directly related to the knowledge of the wives.

We also know that every housewife hopes to keep the house in order and to bring her husband a relaxed family environment.However, many wives often do not think of the principle of "too much to be too late". It is precisely because of their over-critical and strictness that their husbands cannot relax well at home. I used to have a neighbor who was a housewife with very strict requirements on the family.She wipes the floor very clean every day, so the children are not allowed to bring friends to the house to play, because the children are likely to dirty the floor.At the same time, in order to keep the air in the house fresh, she does not allow her husband to smoke at home, because it will smell like smoke.What is even more unacceptable is that even the books, periodicals and newspapers at home must be returned to their original places exactly.OMG, the ladies must think I have a psychotic neighbor!But the truth is, there are some ladies in life who behave far worse than this.

At the 20th annual meeting of Christian Family Life in America, a doctor of psychiatry described it this way: "The wife in the family always demands to be spotless. God, this is simply the most oppressive thing in American culture." Husbands always have some bad habits. They throw cigarette butts, newspapers or other things around, destroying the results of your careful packing.At this time, the wife must not choose to remain silent, she must stand up and have a big fight with those troublemakers.But before you ladies add words like "selfish" "stupid" "stupid" to your husbands, you better think about this: "What is a family? It's a place where people can relax."

With a relaxed environment, comfort becomes the most important thing.Almost all homes are set up by wives, so you should not forget that comfort is the most desirable aspect of a home for a man.Due to gender differences, what many women find very classy is overwhelming to men.In fact, men were not at all interested in fancy trinkets, pretty little tables and chairs, and nice textiles, all they wanted was a place to put their ashtrays and newspapers.Therefore, before setting up a family, ladies must first understand what kind of environment is the most comfortable for men. In addition to comfort and relaxation, tidiness is also very important to a home.Although men often "destroy" the home environment, they also like a tidy home.If he sees a mess everywhere in the house, then he is likely to go straight to the bar or the bowling alley.Men are like this. They can tolerate their own laziness and messiness, but they cannot tolerate others.

If a relaxed, comfortable, and clean environment is tangible, then a peaceful and pleasant atmosphere is intangible.However, the effect of these intangible things is far greater than that of tangible things, because the family atmosphere has a considerable impact on a man's career.A man will always be under a lot of pressure outside, because everyone is looking for his shortcomings and mistakes with a critical eye.Only at home can a man receive the highest treatment, because there is an angel who can discover his beautiful side.Angels never burden him, nor do they specifically create trouble.All she does is to give him emotional care, spiritual comfort, so that he has the energy to face a new day, and this angel is the wife.Ladies must understand that in order to be a conscientious wife, they must be able to create a peaceful and happy family atmosphere for their husbands.

So, how to create romance in marriage? In married life, if the other party takes you on a trip, or drinks coffee at a music cafe, or buys a bouquet of flowers to make you happy.These actions are called special actions, which are unexpected and reasonable. After marriage, it is very important for the wife to maintain the restraint and dignity she had when she was in love before marriage, and try to maintain her beautiful image.However, many women are very ladylike and dignified when they are in love, but they don't pay much attention to their image after marriage.If the wife persists in her virtuous and virtuous self-cultivation to the end, she will have a happy marriage.

Humor, humor, and frequent laughter can not only make oneself appear full of vitality and charm, but also skillfully resolve family conflicts and enhance family cohesion. Keeping a certain distance between husband and wife, that is, maintaining the relative independence and freedom of both parties when they are married can greatly increase mutual attraction.This distance can be divided into two types: one is tangible and the other is intangible.The former refers to the intermittent temporary separation of husband and wife in time and space, while the latter refers to the fact that husband and wife respect each other's privacy on the basis of full trust, do not interfere with each other's normal social activities, and give each other sufficient and reasonable social freedom. "Distance produces beauty", keeping a proper distance between husband and wife can get twice the result with half the effort to care for the marriage effect, and can avoid the conflict and boredom between husband and wife caused by long-term mutual affection.

After marriage, as a wife, you should give your husband some "romantic" tricks from time to time, and moderately give him a little suspense, which can effectively arouse his curiosity and attract his attention.Under normal circumstances, the small "trap" of love can create unexpected surprises and create a romantic atmosphere in marriage.Besides, the wife maintains the shyness and reservedness of "still holding the pipa and half covering her face" when she was a girl, and can also give the husband room for reverie, so that the husband can see flowers in the fog from time to time. This kind of hazy beauty can make the wife more attractive.

If the wife acts like a baby in moderation, the husband will not only not get bored, but will also develop a sense of love and affection.It can be said that in front of the husband, the wife's squeamishness has nothing to do with age, no matter how old a woman is, she can always be her husband's sweet wife.When the husband and wife have disagreements or quarrel, the wife's moderate acting like a baby will get unexpected results, and the husband will make concessions out of love and accommodation, and the conflict between husband and wife will disappear.Therefore, it can be said that the wife acting like a baby is a "buffer" to mediate conflicts between husband and wife.But there is one thing that must be paid attention to, that is, acting like a baby should be moderate, and refrain from interpreting "Jiao Didi" as "savage".

As long as there are no changes in a person's marriage in his life, he will face his lover day and night, and he can devote his whole life to it. It doesn't matter if he stays together for less than a few hours. Don't be together all the time.For example, some young couples disband the "duo" group and socialize independently when they meet with friends, colleagues, or even go out to play.This method is a respect for their respective natures, hobbies and independence, and is conducive to maintaining the relationship between husband and wife.Of course, this kind of independent behavior cannot replace the "two-person world", otherwise marriage will lose its meaning, so we should know that it is fundamental to ensure the subjectivity of the "two-person world", and the proportion of separation and combination must be properly distributed.

A gentle hug can melt a defensive heart. When he is busy outside for a day, you don’t forget to pour him a glass of water and give him a thoughtful hug (note, hugging too excited or too hard will make him feel uncomfortable). counterproductive), which is far more important than countless rhetoric. A parting kiss can often grasp the other person's heart, even the ice can melt, it can make the other person feel sweet and happy all day long.