Chapter 38 Become a master at dealing with emotional storms

Mr. Locke has been very strange recently, as if he has changed.In the past, he was a carefree and sloppy person, but recently he suddenly began to pay attention to his appearance.In the past, he would only consider whether it was necessary to change his shirt under the repeated urging of his wife Polly, but now he consciously changes it every two days.Not only that, every morning, Mr. Locke would dress himself up carefully, and even polish his leather shoes.Faced with all this, Polly didn't feel anything wrong, but praised her husband and said: "Look, my Locke has finally become a gentleman."

However, just as Polly secretly rejoiced at her husband's change, Locke suddenly proposed to divorce her because he was going to marry another young lady named Mary.It wasn't until this moment that Polly realized that her husband's strange behavior some time ago was a herald of the coming emotional turmoil. About three months ago, Mr. Locke's work seemed to suddenly become busy. The time to get off work was getting later every day, and he often worked overtime on rest days.Not only that, but Mr. Locke will take his work home to do it, because he often secretly answers calls from the "company" in another room at night.It may be that he is busy with work and has more entertainment, so Mr. Locke's wallet will always become empty in a short period of time.

Faced with all this, Ms. Polly was very worried because she was afraid that her husband would not be able to work with peace of mind.Therefore, she tolerated her husband's pickiness and forgave him for being impatient with her.Polly knew in her heart that it was because of her husband's work pressure.In addition, although Polly and her husband have not had sex for three months, she never asks for it because she knows her husband is too tired. It wasn't until now that Polly realized that her husband's changes were not because he was busy with work, but because he was busy dating his lover.However, it was too late now, because Mr. Locke had made up his mind to divorce Polly, and everything had become irreversible.I believe that if Ms. Polly could have noticed her husband's "derailment" earlier and taken corresponding measures, the result may not be what it is now.

In fact, many women will act as "detectives" and start secret investigations on their husbands after discovering their husbands' infidelity.When they found that the situation had changed, they first took control of their husband's pockets, and then ordered him to go home on time every day, and asked him to hand over a detailed daily whereabouts list.They thought their plan was foolproof, but they didn't want to be betrayed by their husbands. What is wrong with this kind of thinking is that it turns myself from a lovely wife into a boring inspector, and makes life of myself and her husband lose fun.In the face of her husband's empathy, she did not think of a way to make her husband loyal to her, but adopted methods of controlling her body and behavior to restrain her husband.Although this approach did play a certain role, it couldn't control the husband's heart at all.As a result, it is obvious that a married life without feelings has no meaning in its existence.

In fact, ladies, long before you start your married life, you should consider that marriage also faces challenges and competition.A really smart woman is never afraid of competition, nor will she give up easily.Most importantly, they know how to compete.In fact, this method of keeping tabs on your husband's whereabouts is the worst, stupidest, and most ineffective method.At the same time, the wife tried in vain to force her husband to change his mind by making a fuss or threatening, which is undoubtedly a mistake. So, what should women do when they encounter emotional turmoil?In my opinion, the first thing women should do is to reflect on themselves.When most women encounter this kind of problem, they will always push all the responsibilities to their husbands.In their view, it is never excusable for a husband to be unfaithful to his wife for whatever reason.However, the American Association for the Study of Marriage and Family Relations once conducted a survey of 500 men who had cheated, and found that only one-fifth of them were because of "lusty" and "playful" reasons, while the rest were all because of Their wives cannot provide them with the warmth of a home.Therefore, before blaming and complaining, ladies, you might as well think carefully about whether there is a problem with yourself, whether the shortcomings of nagging, complaining, rudeness, chattering, etc. are reflected in you.If it is, then ladies, correct it immediately, because this is the best way to win back your husband's heart.

After correcting their shortcomings, ladies should take some measures to "control" their husbands.However, don't use the above methods, because it will only make things worse.In fact, a master who really knows how to deal with marital turmoil is very good at using the "play hard to get" technique, even at the most tense moment.In fact, women can keep their husbands by their side because of their love for them, not because of their fear of them. Just like Ms. Nasha, although she already knew that her husband was having an affair outside, she did not show up with her husband immediately, nor did she have any quarrel with him.She just prepared dinner and bath water for her husband, who was coming home late, as usual.Nasha's husband felt very strange because he was bumped into by his wife when he was shopping with his lover two days ago.Originally, he thought that he would definitely be scolded by his wife, but he didn't expect his wife to act as if nothing had happened.

That night, Nasha's husband couldn't bear it any longer, so he asked Nasha, "Why haven't you asked me since you saw me shopping with others?" Nasha said flatly, "I'm waiting You, because I don’t know how you will handle this?” The husband said embarrassingly: “I, I haven’t thought it through yet.” Nasha smiled and said: “Then think about it for a few days, I will respect you Choice. When I saw you with her, my heart really hurt. But after thinking about it, maybe it is really my problem, maybe I have lost the charm of the past. Seriously, I later I remembered the scene of our love. At that time, you always made various excuses to ask me out. In fact, it was just to see each other more. I understand your difficulties. After a man falls in love with a woman, he will not consider the consequences .I believe that you must feel the same about her now as you did about me."

A few days later, Nasha's husband told her that he had broken up with the woman.The reason is that he can't make his wife who loves him so much sad, and at the same time, he has carefully asked himself if he still wants to live with her.In the end, Nasha's husband discovered that what he loved the most in his heart was still his wife—Nasha. This is probably the most perfect example of dealing with marital turmoil I have ever seen.I clearly remember that when Nasha finished telling the story in class, all the female students present applauded.Yes, Nasha is indeed our role model, because she skillfully used the technique of "playing hard to get" to perfectly solve all the problems and keep her husband by her side.

In addition, here are some tips for ladies, which can also help you deal with the emotional turmoil in your marriage. There is a saying that "distance produces beauty". Maybe it is because the distance between you and your husband is too close, which makes your husband feel bored with you, which makes him want to seek excitement outside.Therefore, ladies may wish to find some things they like to do or go to work, so that they can keep a certain distance between themselves and their husbands, so that they will not make them feel bored so quickly.In addition, it is easy for two people to lose their beauty after being together for a long time, so ladies should pay attention to their dress anytime and anywhere, and dazzle your husband so that you don't think about going outside to make trouble.

Finally, the two most powerful weapons to keep your husband's heart, one is the sense of responsibility to the family, and the other is love for you.Let's talk about the first point first. Children are undoubtedly the hope of the whole family, so raising children is an important responsibility of both husband and wife.If the women can use their children to arouse their husbands' sense of responsibility, then I believe they will be happy to return home.Of course, using your child is somewhat "coercive", but using your love to arouse his love is completely sincere.I think every couple has had the best time in love, and using these things to arouse a man's love for you is undoubtedly the best way.