Chapter 37 A lesson from your mistress

In life, why do some men look for mistresses, and what can they expect from them?Now let's explore the secrets of mistresses. As the saying goes, knowing yourself and knowing your enemy will win every battle. What do mistresses have in common? A．She is a confident woman, she is not only envied by women, but also appreciated by men.Men appreciate their independence and being able to take responsibility for their actions gives them a sense of security that they can continue their relationship with her.She is not tough, and she behaves gracefully and gracefully in dealing with people, neither humble nor overbearing, never sloppy in doing things, and behaves very assertively.

B．She loves life, and her enthusiasm is enough to make men burn.She enjoys herself to the fullest, and can pass this passion on to men.She has delicate and rich feelings and understands the joy of life. She is considerate to people and full of innocence. She likes to meet challenges, loves boldly, and she likes to explore life to the fullest.With her who is passionate, men will feel relaxed and don't have to live with a mask. C．She may not be beautiful, but she has temperament, which is inseparable from their acquired cultivation.Some women rely on their natural beauty to be slovenly, but she is smart, she knows how to dress up well, and she always appears in front of men with high spirits, making men fall in love with her unconsciously.

D．She's sexy and has great body language.Whether it's sitting posture, tone of voice, or the shape of the lips when opening the mouth, it makes a man's heart surge.She is good at conveying feelings and expressing one's feelings, and she has a good sense of body language at the right time, making men feel mysterious and open, thus arousing men's infinite reverie. E．She is gentle, affectionate, considerate, has keen observation skills, and knows how to do what she likes in men.She can not only carefully discover the needs of men, but also satisfy him quietly. Then we look back now, what are the commonalities of women who are wives?

A．She thinks of everything for her family, puts all her energy into the family, and takes care of her family very much.She didn't give the focus of life to the man. On the contrary, she took all the responsibilities of the family on herself, making her husband feel that she could do nothing. After a long time, he would think that you should do everything.When you try to ask him to do something someday, he will be very disgusted. B．She put the money in the hands of her husband, because she didn't want him to feel that marriage was restricting him, so she simply let him manage her own money.Listen to what those mistresses say: "I am the baby in his heart, and he is also my ATM. If I don't have money, I will be unhappy, and I will not be with him. So! The way he pleases me is Spend money for me." Here, your thoughtfulness and generosity are a kind of connivance to him, so you have to plan ahead.Even if a man earns very little money, he should manage it together.Even though he gave less than what he took away, you have to know exactly where the money is going and be aware of it.

C．She takes care of the child's basic necessities of life, housing, transportation, and study, and she is extremely busy, while the child's father spends a lot of time under the guise of working and socializing. You think that if you don't need him to worry about everything, you just support the man's work, but you don't know He won't appreciate your affection at all, and what's more, he thinks that you don't care about him enough and don't consider him.So his way to pass the boring time is to go outside for excitement. D．She does not love herself, and is indifferent to her own health and beauty.When she is at home, she always wears the same set of clothes, which has long annoyed her husband. She walks around the house unkempt, without combing her hair or washing her face.No wonder he looks good at other people's wives, why don't you dress yourself up more brightly, you must know that when your mental outlook improves, not only will you increase your friends, but it will also make your husband worry.

Did the above comparison inspire you?What you should do is: A．Strive to improve yourself.A smart woman, she wants to keep a man with the strong fighting spirit of a conqueror, but also make him irresistible to your charm.It is very important to grasp the scale well, neither to make men afraid of disappointment, nor to make men feel that it is easy to get.Instead of struggling to manage your relationship, it is better to increase your charm value.You are attractive, and will there be a stage for a mistress?Even if there are, there are countless men lining up behind you. B．Fight for yourself.It is not advisable to sacrifice one's career, studies, friends, relatives, etc. in exchange for love. This approach is blind.The meaningless sacrifices you make in your wishful thinking will bring pressure to men. It is better to be yourself and fight for yourself.

C．Leave yourself a way out.In love, there is no eternal victorious general.No one can avoid making mistakes, so in marriage, it is very important to let him have a little sense of crisis, so that he can improve his behavior spontaneously. D．Hui quality orchid heart.Making good use of a woman's nature can make your marriage more stable.After marriage, you should not be ignorant of his long-term dissatisfaction. You should keep abreast of his needs and know his thoughts are very important.You know, the most deadly weapon a woman can have on a man is your tenderness. E．There are some things you don't need to worry about.A man also needs to pay a lot for cheating. Not only does he have to spend a lot of time and energy, but also for him to divorce, he needs to divide his property and pay alimony.He is also not sure about the durability of the new relationship.So it takes a lot of courage for him to start the change of heart project!

Now you should know why your marriage is in trouble, right?The main reason why your husband left you and the family is because of you: because you don't wear makeup, don't dress up, don't groom yourself, don't know the power of tears, don't know the charm of acting like a baby, and keep using killer tricks" Knife mouth"...and all of this finally pushed the marriage to the cliff. In married life, you should pay special attention to the following aspects: A．If you think that being obedient to your husband will make your marriage happy and long-lasting, you are very wrong.No one wants to live with a simple-minded person for a long time. Sometimes, he will even regard you as an ignorant person who doesn't know right from wrong. In the end, he will look down on you and abandon you.

B．If your husband is a capable person or even a successful person, while congratulating you, he should also remind you that you must constantly improve yourself, and your lack of progress will make him alienate you.Think about it, if your career is growing stronger, your horizons are constantly broadening, and your ideas are constantly being updated, but he is still standing still and does not ask for progress, how will you feel?It is your lack of progress that gradually distances you from each other, not him. C．Home is quiet and a shelter from the wind, and husband and wife need each other's help.If you have a pampered way, please get rid of it.Don't think that your husband is a big tree that you can rely on and never lean. He will also have troubles and troubles. For him to grow up healthily, you need to water and loosen the soil for him, and you must know how to measure each other.

D．Don't always treat your husband as an ignorant child, your domineering style should be restrained.As a successful career, you may inadvertently bring a growing pride into your marriage.His opinion is not listened to and respected in dealing with anything in the family.You will only hasten the breakdown of your marriage by doing so. E．Punishing him by not giving him sex is the stupidest thing a woman can do.If you think you can’t gain the upper hand in other aspects, so you threaten not to have sex, your approach is stupid and ridiculous. Not only will the other party not succumb to you, but it may also cause him to have psychological barriers to sex. Even pushed him into someone else's arms.

F．You are like a scout, watching his every move all the time.You always questioned him about his late home, even if you had a few more words with colleagues of the opposite sex, you suddenly became jealous, and you didn't give him any freedom.Call his office to check on the guard at any time. If you do this kind of thing often, it's no wonder that your marriage is not in crisis. G．He was cold to his family and friends, and never gave her husband face in front of them.You are very disrespectful to his family and friends, what right do you have to ask him to respect your family.Haven't you heard of "Love a house and a bird"?What you are doing is accelerating the deterioration of your relationship. If you love him, you should love his family. H．Always compare blindly with others and be too demanding.As his partner, you not only do not support and encourage him, but you always pour cold water on him. How can you maintain your marriage relationship well? I．It is undeniable that with age and your slovenliness, you are not as exciting as you were before marriage.You think that in your own home, no one can see you except the other party anyway, so you always don't pay attention to grooming and sloppy in front of the other party.Don't be surprised, then, that he's enamored of other beauties. J．You put all your energy into caring for your children, thinking that by doing so, you're done.You ignore the emotional and emotional communication with him, which not only reduces the communication with each other, but also ignores and loses the content of your own life.One day, you will find that you have nothing but children. K．Don't know the power of tears.In front of him, you never show weakness, you are extremely strong.You know, men are easily moved by women's weakness, incompetence, and helplessness, and tears are undoubtedly the best way. L．I don't know the charm of acting like a baby.You mistakenly think that it would be inappropriate and inappropriate to act like a baby to him as a mother.Actually otherwise, not only will they not be disgusted, but they will think you are more charming, which is very useful to him. M．The knives of the knife's mouth are amazing.Constantly criticize and accuse him, with an attitude of "hating iron but not steel", and you constantly put some standards and requirements on him, your role is destined to be thankless.Talk less, do more, and let his ears be quiet!