Chapter 31 Woman, untie your skirt slowly

A few days ago, my wife and I traveled to Utah to visit one of my nieces, Suzanne.We brought her a lot of daily necessities, and of course we did not forget to bring a gift to her 5-year-old son Tom.Suzanne was very happy to have us here, but she also felt a little guilty because we had been helping her for several years.Frankly, I didn't want to write about it because it hurt Suzanne too much.However, in order to attract enough attention from the ladies, I still decided to tell everyone the whole story, and this was also agreed by Susanna. Suzanne used to be a happy and lively girl and the apple of her parents' eye.Suzanne was in high school at the time, and there were many beautiful things waiting for her, but the appearance of a person ruined all her dreams.

At a party, Suzanne met Weber.The two soon fell in love and began to get along.After getting along for a while, Suzanne ate the "forbidden fruit" together, unable to withstand Weber's repeated demands.At that time, Suzanne and Webb had no knowledge of sex or how to prevent pregnancy. As a result, Suzanne soon found out that she was pregnant.After Weber knew this, he strongly urged Susanna to have an abortion, but the power of motherhood drove Susanna to refuse abortion.In the end, Suzanne gave birth to a boy, and Weber never saw them again. From the beginning of the pregnancy, Suzanne had dropped out of school.After the child was born, she had to shoulder the burden of supporting the family.If Suzanne could finish college, she might be able to find a good job, but now she can only rely on odd jobs to make ends meet.If it weren't for her parents giving her a little cash every month, Suzanne would have been living on the streets long ago.

Whenever talking about this incident, Suzanne said with regret: "I can't blame others, not even Weber. I caused everything by myself. If I could stick to my position and not casually ask If Weber compromises, there will be no end today. Now, I have paid the price for my sloppyness, and all of this is caused by myself." We have to admit that there are more and more women in Suzanne's situation now, and it is quite common.For young women who have had sex before marriage, the price they pay is far greater than the consequences of STDs or pregnancies out of wedlock.Lu Carr, an expert on social issues, once said: "Premarital sex has become a very serious social problem that plagues the United States, and the resulting unmarried pregnancy is even more terrifying. Illegitimate children have become the most important issue in today's era." Social problems are even more difficult than crime, drugs, illiteracy, poverty, and homelessness. I am not alarmist, because the root of all these is because of illegitimate children." Relevant agencies have done relevant statistics to prove that in recent years, youth The probability of premarital sex between men and women is increasing at an extremely rapid rate.Many young people even regard this kind of behavior as fashion or trend, and think that not having sex is a kind of outdated performance.

Of course I am against this point of view, because this kind of premarital sex is mostly irresponsible.Premarital sex, especially unmarried pregnancy, often brings great harm to women's bodies.If a woman becomes pregnant when she does not want to, the only remedy is to have an abortion.However, under pressure from themselves, family and society, many women cannot enjoy the treatment that women who undergo normal abortion should enjoy, and as a result, they suffer from lifelong diseases. Roald Parker, chairman of the American Association for Reproductive Health Research, once published an article in a magazine, which reads: "Even in a regular hospital, abortion is dangerous. Abortion is likely to cause women's future Irregular menstruation, frigidity, habitual abortion, genital inflammation, infertility and even cervical cancer and other diseases.”

If physical diseases can be cured, then the psychological harm caused by premarital sex to women will be endless.In all premarital sex, most of them are initiated by the man and passively accepted by the woman.When things happen, many women will have thoughts such as fear, inferiority, and conflict in their minds, which will lead to heavy psychological burdens on women. At the same time, before premarital sex, both men and women are in a state of equality and independence, and both parties have the right to choose independently.However, once the two parties have sexual relations, the sexual charm of women to men will disappear, causing men to lose interest in women.This is secondary, and more importantly, before the man has a relationship with the woman, he often accommodates the woman everywhere.However, once the two parties break through the last bottom line, the man thinks that he has completely owned the woman and can dominate her at will.

In addition, this psychological change also occurs in the woman.Once the woman loses her chastity, she must give her body and soul to the other party.As a result, women often have a kind of psychology, that is, they are afraid of being abandoned by the man.As a result, they began to accommodate the man, and even tolerated any mistakes the man made.As a result, these women ruined their happiness with their own hands. Many women still have this idea before having sex: "He asked to have sex with me. If I refuse, it means that I don't love him. Therefore, I can only choose to agree, because that can show that I love him." Is it really the truth?I'm afraid not.According to the survey, after many lovers have sex, the man starts to suspect the woman, thinking that since the woman can commit herself so casually, she will also commit herself to others casually.If the woman had a boyfriend before, then the man's suspicion will be even more serious.The mild ones will lead to disharmony in the future relationship, and the severe ones may immediately terminate the relationship.

Marriage is something every girl yearns for, and newlywed life should be the sweetest.However, premarital sex has caused the newlyweds to lose their due happiness.Both husband and wife have no sense of freshness, let alone the passion brought by the newlyweds.As a result, marriage becomes a formality and loses its original meaning. In addition, because pre-marital sex is often carried out in a state of "sense of guilt", it will make it difficult for both parties to experience pleasure from it, and on the contrary will leave an unpleasant sexual experience.In this way, it is likely that one party will have sexual dysfunction, which will lead to disharmony in the sexual life between husband and wife.

Numerous facts have proved that premarital sex will indeed bring a lot of trouble to ladies, whether it is psychological, physical or later life conditions.Therefore, it is best for ladies to find a way to calm themselves down when they are passionately in love.Therefore, I advise ladies, if you want to get happiness, please untie your skirts slowly, and don't try to eat the forbidden fruit.