Chapter 30 choose your partner

I think there is nothing more frightening for a woman than choosing the wrong partner.Indeed, every woman hopes that she can have a good partner, and she also hopes that this partner can accompany her for the rest of her life.However, many women find out after marriage that their original choices and decisions were actually wrong.It is true that the responsibility for this kind of thing cannot be completely shifted to the man, because he did not force you to marry him after all, it is just because you do not have enough judgment.Because of this, after discovering the problem, many women either choose to endure in silence, or choose to resist and divorce.

There is a saying in the medical field: "The best cure is prevention." If women can strengthen their judgment and enable them to choose their partners soberly according to their own wishes, I believe there will be less misfortunes married. Now, ladies still have to give up those unrealistic fantasies!From now on, you should give up the original dream of "only marrying a man like the hero in the novel is considered happiness". You have to understand that there is no perfect man in this world, so please don't be too overbearing with your partner. picky.The characters in the novel are fictitious and impossible to find in real life.

So, how can we make ourselves have a pair of "distinguish right from wrong" eyes?Here are a few suggestions that should help ladies choose a good partner: If his home is messy, then ladies had better prepare their minds before marriage and consider whether they can live with a man who doesn't like tidiness. Because the quality of a person can be seen through the friends he makes.In addition, if a man has too many female friends around, then ladies should think carefully. Because a man who can get along well with children will definitely be a good father in the future.On the contrary, a man who is very tired of children and does not want to be close to them will definitely not be a good father.

If he's late every time he goes out with you, it's proof that your place in his heart doesn't matter.Because dating you should take the back seat compared to other things. If he likes to talk about family, then it proves that he is a family-oriented person; if he wants you to share the pain with him, then he is a relatively selfish person; if he is the kind of supercilious man, it is best to stay away from them. Because a man who respects his ex-girlfriend is magnanimous, if he deliberately slanders his ex-girlfriend, then ladies should be careful. A man's attitude towards his mother can directly reflect his attitude towards women.If he treats his mother very well, it means that he respects women more.However, you need to pay attention, if he obeys his mother, it means that he is likely to have a strong dependence.

A man must never be unambitious, but if he is too ambitious, he will spend very little time on his family and you.Moreover, men who are too obsessed with their careers mostly have the desire to command others (including women).Getting along with men who are too enterprising in life will cause the greatest harm to the spirit.For example, if you want him to go shopping with you, he says it's boring; if you want him to watch a movie with you, he says he doesn't have time.He has achieved success in his career, and you have followed suit, but that is what others see. What others cannot see is your loneliness in the long time.

Outlook on life is also an important factor in marriage.It doesn't matter who you are in marriage, the most important thing is to find someone with the same outlook on life as you, so that your married life can be happy. In addition, as a smart woman, you must polish your eyes before marriage.Several types of men are listed below, you must be vigilant! This kind of man is extremely playful and casual, he will pursue beautiful women at any time, and when he catches up with him, he will have sex with her.Maybe this kind of man did love each other deeply at the beginning, but usually it won't take long before he will definitely fall in love with another woman again.This kind of man is the least worthy of love for girls.

This kind of man speaks hypocrisy, and outsiders don't think there is much wrong with him. In essence, he is cruel and intolerant. To achieve his goal, he can use despicable means without being ashamed.Living with such people, you will feel that life is eerie, dangerous, and cast a shadow on your heart that cannot be erased for life. Arrogant men are always arrogant and domineering.This kind of man is pretentious, ambitious, and has no practical ability. He is an irresponsible person in his bones.At the same time, although this kind of men seem to be excellent, they are often not convinced by the success of others, but they themselves are often underachieved and unable to make any achievements.After marrying such a man, in addition to listening to him complain every day, he has to take on the responsibility of supporting the family alone.Living with such a man, a woman has no sense of security and happiness at all.

This kind of man will usually refuse to change after repeated persuasion if he has a bad habit, and he is easy to be manipulated by others or the environment.They naturally lack tenderness for their wives, and when they do what they like, they will completely forget the existence of their wives.Such men are often irritable, aggressive, and love to use coercive violence to dominate others.If a woman lives with such a man, she will never have peace. When a man tells you that he loves you so much that he can't stand you talking to other men, don't be moved by his affection.If you want to marry such a man, it is equivalent to sending yourself into an invisible prison with your own hands, and your every move will be under his surveillance.

This kind of man is pretentious, ambitious, and has no practical ability.They like to boast and show off, and they are complacent when they have a little achievement, and they brag everywhere.In essence, he lacks a steady temperament and appears vain, which makes people lack trust in him.This kind of man will not have much promise in his life, and he is definitely not worthy of a woman's lifelong trust. In fact, men with careers and status are most favored by women, but if they value fame and fortune too much, especially men from poor backgrounds who want to get ahead, they will often sacrifice their feelings and choose those who can help them in terms of money, power, ability, etc. Women in their arms.This kind of man's mate selection is conditional, not a real partner who can share weal and woe.

Many women commit themselves to marrying men who have a contemptuous and mocking attitude towards material enjoyment.However, the seven things that you have to face after getting married—chai, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, tea, etc., make you and your husband-in-law unable to pass the past in ridicule.Because of the physical body, how can it live forever just by breathing air? It is very difficult to make a clever woman who "cooks without rice"! This kind of man is definitely not the first choice for girls.If a girl falls in love with such a man, she will often get deeper and deeper in the process of falling in love, and such a man will often throw out such a sentence in the end: You are not the kind of woman I imagined.In fact, this kind of man probably doesn't even know what kind of woman he loves.However, no matter what the ending is, it must be the woman who is hurt the most.

A disagreement or a trifle that offends him can lead to a beating - my God, it's a nightmare that you would choose to live with such a man!You have to understand that violence is not the same as masculinity, a man who can even put his fists on the woman he loves, at least once loved, such a man... Also, don't hold anything you can use His own love to influence his beautiful fantasy.If you always submit to it, after a long time, when beating becomes a habit, it is impossible for him to change his habit.Even if he loves you, he can't control his fists.