Chapter 28 don't worry about little things

Generally speaking, we are brave enough to face the major crises in our lives, but we are often overwhelmed by the little things. This is exactly what Admiral Bader discovered in the cold and dark Antarctic night-some of his subordinates often lose their temper over small things, but don't care about big things.For example, they can face dangerous and hard work without complaint, working in the cold of minus 80 degrees Celsius.Admiral Bader said, "However, I know that there are several people in the same office among them who don't talk to each other because they suspect that the other party has mislaid things and taken their place. I also know that there is a person in the team. He is very particular. He insists on eating on an empty stomach and chewing carefully. Each mouthful of food must be chewed 28 times before swallowing. There is another person who must find a seat in the hall where he cannot be seen. Let's eat."

Admiral Bader said: "In the Antarctic camp, anything can drive the most trained people crazy." It can also drive people crazy, and even cause "half the world's heartbreaks."At least, these words come from the mouth of authority.After arbitrating more than 40,000 unhappy marriage cases, Judge Joseph Schamas of Chicago said: "The root causes of unsatisfactory married life are usually small things." New York County District Attorney Frank Hogan also Said: "More than half of our criminal cases are caused by small things: heroism in a bar, quarrels over small things, insulting speech, inappropriate words, rude behavior, etc. That's it. Little things lead to bodily harm and murder that shouldn't have happened. Few people are truly cruel by nature, and even those who make big mistakes do so because of a little damage to their pride, or a little humiliation , or unsatisfied vanity, which results in half the sad things in the world."

The following very dramatic little story may make you unforgettable.The man who told this story was called Rob Moore. In March 1945, the most important lesson of my life was learned at a depth of 276 feet in the ocean near Indochina.At the time, I was on the Beja SS318 submarine with 87 other people.We spotted a small Japanese fleet heading our way on radar.As daylight approached, we attacked.I spotted a Japanese destroyer escort, an oil tanker, and a minelayer through the periscope.We fired 3 torpedoes at the destroyer escort, but none of them hit the target.The destroyer escort, unaware that it was under attack, continued on its way.We're going to attack the last minelayer.Suddenly, it turned its head and rushed straight towards us.It turned out that a Japanese plane saw us in the deep water from above and radioed our position to the Japanese minelayer.We immediately dived to a depth of 150 feet to avoid being detected by it, and at the same time prepared for depth charges: we added several layers of iron bolts to all hatch covers, in order to make our submarine absolutely safe when it sank. Steady, we turned off all the fans and the whole cooling system, all the power generating equipment. Three minutes later, something terrible happened when six depth charges exploded all around us, causing the world to shatter and crush us to a depth of 276 feet.We were all petrified. Being attacked in less than a thousand feet of water is very dangerous, and at 500 feet, almost all doom.And we were attacked at half a depth of 500 feet, which in terms of safety is only up to the knees.The Japanese minelayer kept dropping depth charges, and the attack lasted 15 hours before it stopped.If the depth charge is within 17 feet of the sub, the force of the bomb explosion can blow a large hole in the sub.About 10 to 20 depth charges exploded just about 50 feet away from us, and we were ordered to "hold," that is, to remain calm and still in bed.I was so scared I could barely breathe and I thought, "This is going to die." I kept saying to myself, "...this is going to die... this is going to die." Electric fans and cooling systems After everything was turned off, the temperature inside the submarine was almost over 100 degrees Fahrenheit, but I was so scared that I shivered all over my body. Although I was wearing a sweater and a jacket with a leather collar, I was still shivering from the cold.My teeth were chattering constantly, and my whole body was breaking out in cold sweat.

The Japanese minelayers continued to attack for 15 hours before stopping.Apparently, the Japanese minelayer had exhausted all its depth charges before leaving.To us, being attacked for 15 hours felt like 15 million years.All my past life unfolded before me, reminding me of all the bad things I'd done, all the little things I'd worried about.Before I joined the Navy, I used to worry about not being able to buy my own house, not having money for a new car, not having money for nice clothes for my wife.I was a bank clerk at the time, and I used to worry about working too many hours, too little pay, and not many opportunities for advancement.I hated my old boss very much because he was always making trouble for me.I still remember that when I came home every night, I was always tired and sleepy, and I often quarreled with my wife over trivial matters.I even spent a long time worrying about the scar on my forehead from a car accident.

Years ago, those worrying things had seemed like big things, but at the moment when the depth charges were about to kill me, they seemed very insignificant, even absurd.That's when I promised myself that if I had the chance to see the sun and the stars again, I would never worry again.forever!forever!Never!In those 15 horrible hours in the submarine, I learned more life lessons than I ever learned in 4 years of college. "The law doesn't care about the little things." Everyone knows this famous legal saying!Nor should a man be troubled about these little things, if he wishes to be peaceful and happy in life.

Generally speaking, if you want to overcome the troubles caused by small things, you only need to shift your perspective and focus, that is to say, let you have a new perspective that makes you happy.My friend, Homer Croy, is a writer and has written several books.He gave us a good example of how this can be done.In the past, when he was writing, he was always driven crazy by the sound of the water heater in his New York apartment.For there would be a bang of steam, and then another clatter.After hearing these voices, he would cry out in front of the desk angrily. Homer Croy said: "Then, once when I was out camping with some friends, I heard the sound of wood burning very loudly, and it occurred to me how much these sounds were like the sound of a water heater, but why would I like it? This sound, and that sound so annoying? When I got home, I said to myself: the sound of wood cracking in the fire is very good, and the sound of the water heater is similar. I should just bury my head in sleep and ignore these noises. As a result, I Really did, the first few days I might still pay attention to the sound of the water heater, but, after a while, I forget about these things. Same with a lot of other little anxieties, because we don't like it, it ends up messing us up Depressed, and that's because we exaggerate the importance of the little things..."

The following story is told by Dr. Harry Emerson Fostic, and it is very interesting.It's about how a giant of the forest wins and loses in battle: On the slopes of Long Mountain in Colorado lies the dead limb of a great tree.Naturalists tell us that it used to be more than 400 years old.When it first sprouted, Columbus had just landed in America; when the first settlers came to America, it was only half grown.In its long life course, it has been struck by lightning 14 times. In the past 400 years, countless storms have attacked it, and it can overcome it.But at last a small army of beetles came and made it fall to the ground.Those beetles bit into the tree from the root, gradually hurting the vitality of the tree, but they only relied on small and continuous attacks.Such a giant of the woods, which age had not withered, nor storm nor storm, nor lightning could knock down, was brought down by a horde of beetles that could be crushed between a thumb and forefinger.

Many times, we are the same as the battle-hardened tree in the forest.We have also experienced countless storms and lightning strikes in our lives, but we have survived.But we are bitten by the little beetles of worry—the same little beetles that can be crushed with a thumb and forefinger, and they do us harm too. So, before worrying destroys you, get rid of the habit of worrying, which requires us to remember the fourth step: Don't allow yourself to worry about little things that should be thrown away and forgotten. Remember that life is too short to worry about little things.