Chapter 10 Always be grateful

There was a report in Time Magazine about a non-commissioned officer who was wounded in a certain place. He was hit by shrapnel in the throat and had a total of 7 blood transfusions.He wrote a note to the doctor asking, "Can I live?" The doctor replied, "Yes." He wrote another note asking, "Can I still talk?" The doctor answered him again: "Yes." Then he wrote another note and asked, "Then why should I worry about it?" Then, why don't you stop right away and ask yourself: "Then what else should I worry about?" At this time, you are likely to find that the things you worry about are really trivial.In fact, about 90% of the things in our lives are right and 10% are wrong.If we want to be happy, all we should do is to focus on the 90% right things and ignore the 10% wrong things.If we want to be sad, worry, or get sick, we only need to focus on the 10% of the wrong things and ignore the 90% of the good things.

In life, we only need to count the favors we have received, and we don't have to ask for too much.Many new churches in the UK are engraved with the words "Thought much, much gratitude", and these two words should also be engraved in our hearts. I once asked Eddie Burke what was the most important lesson he learned when he was lost in the Pacific Ocean, drifting with his companions on a life raft for 21 days with no hope of being rescued ."The most important lesson I've learned from that experience is that if you have enough fresh water to drink and enough food to eat, stop complaining about anything," he said.

I have known Harold for many years and he used to be my Dean of Academic Affairs.One day he met me in Kansas City and drove me to Bell City, Missouri, where my farm is.I asked him on the way how he was happy, and he told me a story I will never forget. He said: "I used to worry about many things before, but one day in the spring of 1934, I was walking on West Douti Street in Weber Town, and there was one thing that made me no longer have to worry about myself. Before and after this incident It's only been 10 seconds, but I've learned more about how to live in those 10 seconds than I've learned in 10 years."

Harold told me this story: "I ran a grocery store in Weber City for two years, and not only did I lose all my savings, but I also had so much debt that it took seven years to pay it off. My The grocery store had just closed the previous week, and I was about to borrow money from ICBC to get a job in Kansas City, and I was walking down the road like a total loser. At this moment, a man without legs came to meet him. He was sitting on a small wooden platform with pulleys removed from skates. He held a piece of wood in each hand and slid on the ground. When I saw him He just crossed the street and was about to lift himself a few inches onto the sidewalk. Our eyes met as he tipped the little wooden cart up. He grinned at me and said cheerfully: "You sir! It's a nice morning, isn't it?" I stood there looking at him, only to realize how rich I was: I had two legs and I could walk. I was ashamed of my self-pity. At the time , I said to myself: If he, a man without legs, can do something, I can do it too. At this time, I gained courage and confidence, and felt that my chest was straight. I was just planning to go to Kansas City to see if I could get a job, but now I can say with confidence that I'm going to Kansas City to get a job; originally, I was just going to borrow $100 from ICBC, but I Now I have the courage to borrow $200. As a result, I have both borrowed money and a job.”

The author Swift once said: "The three best doctors in the world are diet, quiet and happy." You and I can get the free service of "Happy Doctor" every hour of every day, as long as we put energy Focus on so much incredible wealth that we have.How much would you sell your legs for?Would you sell your eyes for $100 million?And your hearing, your two hands, your family... put all your assets together, and you will find that you will never sell everything you have now, even if you put Rockefeller, Ford, and Morgan The gold owned by the three wealthiest families was added together and not sold.But can we appreciate these?Unfortunately, it is difficult for us to do so.As Schopenhauer said: "We seldom think of what we have, but always of what we do not have." This is arguably the greatest tragedy in the world, and it may cause more pain than any There are many wars and diseases.Palma is a good example.

Because it almost turned Palma "from a normal person into a cranky old guy" and almost destroyed his family.What exactly is this matter about?Let's take a look.Mr Palmer said: Shortly after I got out of the military, I started a business.I've been busy day and night and everything is doing great.Then, the problem came, I couldn't get parts and ingredients.Fearing that I might be forced out of business, I quickly changed from being an ordinary person to a very bad-tempered person, very mean.Here is an explanation. I didn't know it at the time, but I understand it now.At that time, I almost lost my happy home.One day a young wounded soldier who worked here said to me, "John, you should really be ashamed. You look like you're the only one in the world with trouble. Even if you close up , so what? When things get back to normal, you can still make a comeback. You have so much to be grateful for, why keep complaining. God, I wish I were you! Look at me, I only have one Broken arms, half of face, and yet, I'm not complaining. If you go on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on like this, you're not only going to lose your business, you're going to lose your family, your friends and your healthy."

These words of the young wounded soldier made me suddenly realize that I had gone astray.I decided right then and there that I had to change and get back on my feet, and I did. There should be two goals in life: First, to get what you want.Then enjoy it to the fullest when you get it.Of course, only the smartest people can do the second step. There was a woman named Brooke Dale who was such a smart person.She wrote an inspiring book about incredible courage. Brooke Dyer, who has been blind for 50 years, wrote in her book: "I have only one eye, and the eye is full of scars, and I can only see the outside world through a small hole on the left side of the eye. Sometimes I have to move the book very close to my face, and I have to tilt my other eye to the left."

Although she is physically disabled, she refuses pity from others, and she does not want others to think that she is "different from ordinary people".As a child, she wanted to play hopscotch with other children, but she couldn't see the lines drawn on the ground.So, after the other children went home, she lay down on the ground alone, and put her eyes on the ground to look for it.She looked so carefully and carefully, and memorized every detail of the place, that before long she was a master at hopscotch.When reading at home, she held the large-print book close to her face, almost touching the pages with her eyelashes.Her efforts paid off when she earned two degrees: a bachelor's degree from Minnesota State University and a master's degree from Columbia University.

Of course, she also has fears due to her physical disability.She writes in the book: "In the back of my mind, I often harbored a fear of total blindness. To overcome this fear, I adopted a joyful and almost playful attitude towards life." However, In 1943, at the age of 52, a miracle happened.She went to the famous Meiyu Hospital for an operation, which made her vision 40 times clearer than before. A lovely, new and exciting world unfolds before her eyes.Now, she finds that even washing dishes in the kitchen sink makes her happy.She also writes in her book: "I started playing with the soap suds in the sink, and I reached in and grabbed handfuls of little suds and held them up to the light, from every Saw the bright colors of a tiny rainbow in the soap foam."

After reading this story, you and I should feel ashamed.For so many years, we have been living in a beautiful fairy tale kingdom every day, but we have nothing to do, turn a blind eye to it, eat too much to enjoy the joys of life. Starting today, please completely delete all pessimistic and negative concepts from your mind, always be grateful for everything God has bestowed on us, and cherish the beautiful life.I would like to share the following words with my dear friends: Think diligently and learn to be grateful, get rid of the dilemma of self-pity, even if you have encountered thousands of setbacks, you must bravely count 1,001 blessings.Your life will therefore enter a new realm of boundless seas and sky!