Chapter 5 Learn to relax and relieve fatigue

Can you think of a quick and effective way to banish worry?That is, the method that can be put into practice immediately? If your answer is "no", then please allow me to introduce you to this method invented by Carus.Careus was a brilliant engineer who founded the air conditioner manufacturing company and is now the head of the world-famous Careus Corporation in Seresy, New York. I was having lunch with him one day at the Engineers Club in New York, and I heard him explain this approach: "Twenty years ago, I lost my weight from 170 lbs to 90 lbs. .One night, I had a stomach bleed and was taken to the University of Chicago Medicine Hospital. I was so sick that the doctor told me to lie still without lifting my head. The doctors thought my disease was incurable Yes. Besides the baking soda, I can only eat a spoonful and a half of liquid food per hour.

"This went on for several months... Finally, I said to myself, 'Since you have nothing to do but wait to die, just drop those concerns and make the most of the rest of your life. You Didn’t you always want to travel the world before you die? If you still have this idea, you only have to do it now.'” "When I told the doctors I was going to travel the world, they were all taken aback. They warned that it was absolutely not allowed. They had never heard of such a thing, and if I went to travel the world, I would probably only be buried. In the sea." "'No, it won't,' I said, 'I have promised my friends and family that I will be buried in our hometown cemetery in the state of Resca, so I intend to take the coffin with me.'"

"I bought a coffin, shipped it on board, and made an agreement with the shipping company that if I die, I will put my body in the ship's freezer and send me back to my hometown." "I embarked on a journey, thinking silently of the poem by Orenke: "When I boarded the President Adams cruise ship in Los Angeles and sailed east, I felt better than I was in a hospital bed. Gradually, I stopped taking medicine. Before long, I could eat any food—even many exotic foods. local foods and condiments - things that I was told would kill me. A few weeks passed and I could even smoke a long black cigar and drink a few glasses of wine. I haven't enjoyed it like this in years No. We had monsoons in the Indian Ocean and typhoons in the Pacific, but I had a lot of fun with this adventure."

"I played games, sang songs, made new friends on the boat, and chatted with them until midnight. After arriving in China and India, I found that the private affairs I had to take care of when I went back were nothing compared to the poverty and hunger I saw here. Not worth mentioning. I let go of all the boring worries and felt lighter than ever. Back in the States, I gained 90 pounds and I have never felt more comfortable and healthy in my life." "I found that when I accepted reality, everything changed. First, I asked myself: 'What's the worst thing that could happen?' The answer was: death.

"Secondly, I prepared myself to die and I had to because I had no choice and several doctors said I had no hope of surviving." "Third, I try to improve the situation. Here's how: enjoy the little time I have left... If I get on the boat and continue to worry, I will undoubtedly end the trip in my coffin. Luckily What’s more, I was completely relaxed and forgot all my troubles, and this mental balance gave me a new vitality and saved my life.” He also told me another thing: "When I was young, I worked for the Buffalo Steel Company in Buffalo, New York. At one point, I had to go to the Pittsburgh Glass Company in Crystal City, Missouri—the plant cost a lot of money. Millions of dollars to install a gas cleaning machine to remove impurities present in the gas so that it does not burn the engine when it burns. This is a new method of cleaning gas that has only been tried once before, and at the time The situation was not the same as at this time. When I went to Crystal City, Missouri to do this work, unexpected difficulties occurred. After some adjustments, the machine was finally usable, but it did not reach As much as we promised. I failed, and at the time, I felt as if someone had punched me hard on the top of the head. My stomach and my entire abdomen started to ache. For a long time, I couldn't sleep because of it. Finally , I realized that, in fact, worrying can't solve any problems, so I came up with a way to solve problems without worrying, and it turned out to be very effective. I have used this method of eliminating worry for more than 30 years, and this method It's so easy that everyone can use it. It has 3 steps:

"Step one: I give up my fears, analyze the situation honestly, and find out what the worst-case scenario would be if I failed. No one is going to lock me up or shoot me, that's for sure. Except, I Likely to lose my job, or my boss could tear down the whole machine and lose $20,000." "Step 2: After identifying a lot of worst-case scenarios that could have happened, I dared myself to accept it. I said to myself, this failure is a big blemish on my life record, and that I might lose it because of it." and lose my job. But even if that were the case, I could still find another job, and things could be worse than that. As for my boss, he also knows that I am now experimenting with a new method of cleaning gas, and if this The experiment costs twenty thousand dollars and he can afford it. He can charge that to the research because it's just an experiment. After I analyze the worst that could happen and make myself accept it , I immediately relaxed and felt a peace that I hadn't experienced in a few days."

"Step 3: From then on, I calmed down and devoted my time and energy to improving the problems and difficulties I faced." "I'm trying to find ways to reduce the $20,000 loss we're facing. I've done a few experiments and found that if we spend an extra $5,000 and add some equipment, then our problem will be It can be completely solved. After we followed this method, instead of losing $20,000, the company made $15,000." "If I had been worrying all the time and hadn't pulled myself together, I'm afraid I would never have been able to do this again. Because the worst thing about worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate. In fact, when we worry, our thoughts will wandering around, thus losing the ability to analyze decisions. However, when we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it mentally first, weighing all possible scenarios, we can focus on solving the problem. This The method is so good that I use it all the time. I hardly have any worries in my life now."

Why is the method invented by Karius so valuable and practical?Psychologically, it pulls us out of a great gray cloud and puts our feet firmly on the ground.How can we get things done if we don't have solid ground under our feet? Professor William James, the father of applied psychology, has passed away for many years. If he is alive today, he will definitely appreciate this formula, because he once said: "Accepting the established facts is the process of overcoming the consequences that follow. first step in any misfortune." A philosopher once said, "Mental peace can withstand the worst and rejuvenate you." That was so true.After accepting the worst outcome, we have nothing to lose, which means that everything lost can hopefully be recovered.

However, there are thousands of people who have ruined their lives because of anger, because they refused to accept the worst situation, refused to salvage something useful from the disaster, did not have the confidence to build their own new buildings, and became Victim of anxiety disorder. So, would you like to see examples of other people's use of the Carius formula?The following example is from a student in my class who is currently an oil merchant in New York. I was blackmailed, and I don't believe that this kind of thing can happen, let alone in real life outside of the movie, but I was blackmailed.Here's how it happened: My company has several oil trucks and several drivers.At that time, the regulations of the Price Management Committee were very strict, and we could only give each customer a limited amount of gasoline.I didn't know the truth of the matter at first, but there are indeed some gas delivery drivers who secretly reduce the amount of gas for customers, and then sell the stolen gas to others privately.

One day, a man who claimed to be a government investigator came to me and asked me for a red envelope.He said he had evidence of our oil delivery drivers cheating.He also threatened to turn this evidence over to the District Attorney if I didn't comply with his demands.Only then did I discover that the company had such illegal transactions.Of course, I don't have to worry about anything, because this matter has nothing to do with me.However, I also know that the law states that companies should be held accountable for the actions of their employees.I knew that if the lawsuit went to the courts, the company's bad name would ruin my business.I'm actually very proud of my business, which was the foundation my dad laid down 24 years ago.

I was very contradictory and worried, and soon fell ill. I couldn't eat or sleep for three days and three nights.I've been worrying about that and I've been very scared inside, so I decided to pay that person $5,000, but I've been so worried, I can't make up my mind, and I'm having nightmares every day. Then, one evening, I happened to pull out a little book, "How to Stop Worrying," which I had been given while listening to Carnegie's public lectures.I started reading it, and I read Caris' story, "Facing the worst" and I asked myself, "If I don't pay that guy, and he turns over his evidence to the D.A. What's the worst that could happen?" The answer: "It's going to kill my business - that's the worst it can be. But I'm not going to be locked up. All that could happen is that I'm going to be ruined by this." So I said to myself, "Okay, even if the business is ruined, I can live with it. So what?" After the business is ruined, I may have to find another job.Of course, that's not a bad thing either, because I know a lot about oil and several big companies would probably be happy to hire me.So, I started to feel better.Over the next few days, my worries began to fade away.My emotions have also stabilized, and I can also think. I clearly see the third step - improving the worst case.So I decided to go to my lawyer and tell him the whole thing, thinking he might be able to help me find a solution I never thought of.I know it sounds stupid, but there was really nothing I could do at the time.Of course, I admit that I didn't really think about it at first, I just kept worrying about it.I decided to see my lawyer early the next morning.I slept soundly tonight. However, the next morning, my lawyer sent me to the District Attorney and told him the whole story.Of course, I did as he suggested.After I told what happened, I was surprised to hear from the district attorney that this kind of extortion case had been going on for several months, and that the person who claimed to be a "government investigator" was actually a criminal wanted by the police.After three days and three nights of worrying about not being able to decide whether to hand over the $5,000 to this criminal, I was greatly relieved to hear his words. This experience taught me a lesson I will never forget.Now, whenever I'm faced with a problem that worries me, I use Karius' All Souls formula. In summary: If you have a worrying problem, apply Karis's panacea formula, so that you can get peace and happiness.