Chapter 64 look at each other with appreciation

Appreciating each other is a huge spiritual power, which is hard to buy with money, and is a wealth with a higher value than all money.If a family is full of admiration, it will be hard for you not to be happy, and it will be hard to reach the sky. Appreciating each other is a profitable thing.Every man knows that by flattery he can get his wife to do anything and do nothing.He knew that if he only praised her a few words, saying how well she managed the family, how she helped him without costing him, she would lose every penny of her private money. Every wife thinks her husband knows exactly what to do, because she has told him all about how to treat her.But he would rather disobey her, spend money on bad food, and waste money on new clothes, new luxury cars for her, than spend energy on flattering her a little bit, in the way she wants to treat her.She really didn't know whether to like him or hate him.

Husbands should speak more to their wives.What are you talking about?Say words of appreciation without question.For example, a husband should show his appreciation for the care his wife puts into looking good and dressing well.All men know that women pay great attention to what they wear, but they often forget it.For example, there is a man and a woman who meet another man and woman on the street. The woman rarely looks at the other man. She usually pays attention to how the other woman is dressed. Most of the gay men present can't remember what suit or shirt they were wearing five years ago, and almost never have the idea of ​​remembering these things.

But women—they're different, and we men should really realize that.Men of the upper class in France, well educated in this respect, not only compliment women on their hats and dresses, but do so several times in an evening, not once.Tens of millions of French men do this, and there must be a reason for them. I once saw an interview with Eddie Konta in a magazine.The record reads: "I have received more help from my wife than from any other person in the world," Eddie Konta said, "When I was young, she was my best friend and made me On the right track. After we got married, she saved every dollar she invested and reinvested, and she built me ​​a huge fortune. I used to have five lovely children, and she used to clean up the house for me. Comfortable. If I can achieve anything, it's all due to her."

In Hollywood, marriage is a risk. Even Louis Insurance Company in London would not dare to insure it, but Warner Best's marriage is one of the few particularly happy marriages.Mrs. Baxter, whose maiden name was Winifer Bryson, had given up her flourishing stage career to marry, but she never spoiled their happiness by her sacrifice. "She lost her chance to be applauded on the stage," said Warner Baxter, "but I did everything I could to make her know that I applauded her. If a woman is to get pleasure from her husband, then It must come from his admiration and faithful love. If the admiration and faithful love come from his heart, he will be happy."

Therefore, if you want to maintain a happy family life, one of the most important principles is: sincerely interested in each other, sincerely express appreciation. Appreciate the wife, very important content is to appreciate the contribution that she has made on bearing and raising children.Since ancient times, people have believed that childbearing is the exclusive property of wives, and men only need to sit back and enjoy their achievements.This notion leads to two misconceptions: First, women must have an innate gift for giving birth and raising babies without learning.In the early days of big families, eldest daughters usually gained experience by taking care of their younger siblings, but today they have no practical experience at all, except for some references provided by the "mother-to-be classroom".Second, the roles of husband and father are not easy to integrate. Although they are fathers in concept, in fact all the parent-child feelings fall on the mother after childbirth. The father can only stand by and watch, unable to establish a sense of participation.

The correct relationship between husband and wife after childbirth must be established to the extent that both parties can accept the new role.In the new role, the life of husband and wife is different from before, the relationship between them is more alienated than before, and the division of labor between men and women is more equal.But modern women often have to juggle their careers and children, and few of them can do both well.Ms. Ann Daly, a psychologist, pointed out in her book "Mother's Rights and Influence": Although a woman does not necessarily have to do one role well, if she can do both, she should be regarded as a woman. Superman.

After the second child is born, "married life" will completely transform into "family life", and women will also feel forgotten by society.All the effort they put into their children may involve some kind of self-sacrifice.So encouragement from a husband is important if he can say, "I know you've been dragged down by the kids and you don't feel like an independent person anymore; but your work is great and I appreciate you His love will never change" will make his wife very touched and feel that no matter how hard it is, it is worth it, but how many men can be so careful?

Even after passing through the busiest reproductive period, for a long time, women still face such problems: excessive work load, mental stress, conflicts between husband and wife, jealousy due to aging, interests of children The adjustment between self-interest and self-interest, as well as the educational problems brought about by the growth of children, etc.Although they have returned to work in the outside world, it is impossible for the vast majority of women to ignore their families. As for men?Do they get satisfaction from children?Do they also feel dependent?Today's society offers few answers to this.

Modern women can combine the three roles of professional women, wives and mothers, but what is the contribution of fathers?Are they superfluous?At least the society doesn't paint their importance clearly.However, we can be sure that today's women still regard bearing children as their bounden duty, and they regard the family as a place for long-term spiritual investment, and the satisfaction and encouragement it brings is enough to make up for their hard work. Many people have overemphasized the fact that the marriage relationship is unstable, coupled with the fact that most modern women are unwilling to give up their careers and ideals, and many women are unwilling to have many children or even have children at all, which has led to the decline in the birth rate in many countries in recent years trend, even lower than the death rate.It should be said that even so, for most women, building a happy and warm family is still their goal.Husbands should not blindly blame their wives, but from now on, they should bravely shoulder the responsibilities of the family and work together with your wife to create a warm and harmonious family.It is easy for a wife to behave well as long as the husband does what he is supposed to do.This point, men can rest assured.

Therefore, everyone who wants to be a future leader should spend more wisdom on building a happy family!