Chapter 65 Forever with my lover

When communicating with your lover, the most important thing is to learn the special method of not interfering with the other person's happiness, but to do your best to walk with your lover and help your lover succeed.Put your interest in your lover's interest, share the joy of victory with the other person, and when difficulties and troubles come, you will accompany your lover to face them, help your lover succeed, give each other happiness, and then share this happiness, is a The most valuable and meaningful "lifetime career" for family members. If you have your own job or career, but giving up it will bring many benefits to your loved ones, are you willing to give up this job or career?If you don't want to, you've heard this lesson right.You must only want to make yourself successful, not to help your lover's successful.

Helping a loved one succeed is a job in itself that requires professionalism.Unless you believe that helping a loved one is something so important that it demands all your attention, you cannot help your loved one. Disris, who once served as the British Prime Minister, believed that he might make many mistakes in his life, but he would never marry because of love. He would never make this mistake.He did.He lived a single life until he was 35 years old, until that year he met a rich, gray-haired widow 15 years older than him.So he proposed to her.She also knew that he was looking for her for her money, so she told him that she would observe him for a year.They actually got married a year later.This story sounds too utilitarian and unromantic.What happened afterwards was surprising.

Their marriage was very successful.His wife, a rich woman, is neither young, nor beautiful, nor smart.There are frequent typographical and historical errors in her speech.She had an odd interest in clothes, an odd interest in room decorating, but the important thing she did very well was that she knew how to handle a man.She never confronted her husband. When Desris came home exhausted from talking with other wives outside, Marianne could make him relax in a light and pleasant chat.Gradually, he became more and more homesick.Because at home, there is Marianne's love and warmth.Home became a place where he found peace of mind and basked in the warmth of Marianne's love and affection.She was his partner, confidant, and advisor, the person he trusted most, the one he could safely turn to for advice.So he hurried home every evening after his work in the House of Commons to tell her the daily news, and above all Marianne always encouraged him with confidence.

For more than 30 years, Marion put all her body and mind on Disris, and she respected her property, because it would make Disris live more comfortably.She was willing and thought it was all worth it.At the same time she got it, he regarded her as his master, and he asked Queen Victoria to make Marion a nobleman.So in 1868, she was made Dame Biekenfeldt. Although Marianne sometimes behaves badly in public, he never criticizes her.When someone laughed at her, he would immediately rise up and defend her fiercely and loyally.Marian is not perfect, but for 30 years, she has never tired of talking about her husband, and she has encouraged and cared for him for 30 years, which made Desris feel that Marian is the most important person in his life.

Marian had many flaws, but Desris was always very wise not to piss her off.Therefore, their marriage will be so long-lasting. As Henry James said: "Don't interfere with the happiness of a person if he doesn't seriously affect you." Fanster Ude also said in the book "Growing Together in the Family": "To have a happy marriage, in addition to being suitable for the other party, you must also make the other party feel suitable." Beautiful, blue-eyed, blond-haired Caitai Wells, wife of the famous explorer Cavis Wells, already had a very obsessive career when she met her future husband.

Chae-tae is a successful public speaking agent who enjoys business contacts with many celebrities.Kavis Wells also met her because of a business relationship. Kavis fell in love with her and married her-according to Caitai's conditions, she can continue to work on the work that fascinates her, and she can be free and independent. The wedding takes place in March.In June, Cavez Wells was leaving for Russia and Turkey to climb Mount Ararat.Caitai originally wanted to stay at home and work, but when the time approached, she couldn't make herself stay alone. "Just go with you this time," she said.So they set out on an adventure, a nightmare of hardship and frustration—although the adventure led to Cavis's best-selling book, The Caput.

When Caitai returned to her job, she found that these jobs were too tasteless compared with the experience of this expedition. She had shared the experience of going through life and death with Kavis.So a year and a half later, she went to Mexico with Cavez to climb Papacati Baitel Mountain.This is another rigorous physical test. Caitai spent most of her time cold, hungry, exhausted and extremely frightened.But she was also very excited. The icy cold wind on Mount Yesuo blows away Caitai's last thought of insisting on independence.She learned that being the wife of Cavis Wells was worth more than any degree of success she might have had in her own work.When they returned from Mexico, Cai Tai closed his office.She now has time to follow her husband to the farthest corners of the globe—and that's exactly what she does.The jungles of the Malay Peninsula, Africa, Japan, Iceland, and the Kashmir Valley—the Wells couple traveled to various places, and their lives are like a colorful travelogue.

Caitai Wells said: "At that time, I thought it was important to have my own business. I wondered how I could be so childish at that time. Compared with these rich experiences I shared with Cavis, I myself How dull and narrow life is in my life. I merge my interests with his, share the victories and successes with him, and when disappointments and troubles come, we face them together. "I think the greatest tribute I have ever received was the dedication Cavez wrote to me on his Caput; 'To my best friend, my wife, Chae Tae. 'I've never felt so much fulfilled and fulfilled by someone's compliments like my husband's words of love."

Caita Wells had a change of heart under very dramatic circumstances, but many women find that promoting the happiness and best interests of their beloved husbands is the most rewarding career any woman can have Yes, Caitai is a typical example. I do not ignore the many wives and mothers who, driven by circumstances, have left the home to work outside the home.I salute them with the deepest respect.I believe that women should be able, by their own efforts, to earn and sustain themselves, and may at some point become the breadwinners, responsible for the food, rent, and clothing of the family.Sickness, death, unemployment, and disaster can wreck the best-laid plans.