Chapter 42 Selfishness is a great hindrance to happiness

Life is very simple, but because of human selfishness, it makes life very complicated.With my own loneliness, it also increases the pain of others, but I don't know what's going on, and I will ask others innocently: "Why do you always hide from me?" The feelings of others, only for their own pleasure, and even unable to realize that they have hurt others.Such people are shameful, they don't understand other people's feelings, they don't understand other people's hearts, they just ignore their own desires, and blindly trade other people's pain for their own happiness!

Selfishness is nature, it hides deep in everyone's heart, in our growth process, we know to constantly overcome the problem of selfishness, and gradually make ourselves less selfish, but some people not only do not overcome Instead, selfishness is exacerbated.There is no room for anyone else except myself. Selfish people always think that they are the most important, and only their own things are hard-won, so they cherish themselves and what they have.They would find it unbearable to ask them to give even a little bit, and they would not experience the joy of sharing at all.Will this solitaire life give him everything he wants?Is such a person happy?

There was a rich man who had a lot of wealth, but he was extremely selfish. He kept all the good things for himself. He was very harsh on his wife and children, and he was even more stingy towards others.He never confides his thoughts to others, whether it is suffering or happiness, he feels it alone.After a long time, everyone was unwilling to say a word to him, and gradually alienated him.However, as he got older, he began to feel lonely and unhappy.He wanted the care of his relatives and the closeness of his friends, but he found that others were unwilling to approach him, and even avoided him.

On a snowy night, when his family members were talking and laughing, he was wandering alone. He came to the edge of the cliff and wanted to die, but was stopped by a homeless man who asked him why he couldn't think about it. It was a woman. Unfilial, still helpless, he said no, the tramp asked him many questions, but he kept shaking his head.In the end, he couldn't help crying, and told the tramp about everyone's attitude towards him, and the tramp found the reason in the process of listening.So the homeless man asked, "How are you feeling now?" The rich man stopped sobbing and said, "You seem to feel better." The homeless man continued, "You feel better because you let me share your happiness." Your distress, since sharing with me can make you happy, why not share it with your relatives? If you are willing to share your happiness, your wealth, and your troubles, you will find your happiness. You The previous unhappiness and alienation from everyone were because you took everything too seriously and tightly, and you were too selfish to let others share with you. Therefore, you threw yourself into a dead corner, because of your Selfishness makes your world smaller and smaller, and you feel more and more suffocated. If you want to stop being alone, you must say goodbye to selfishness and learn to share."

After hearing this, the rich man thought deeply, thanked the tramp and went home.Since then, he has changed from being stingy and selfish in the past.Slowly, everyone finally accepted him, and his world became wider and full of laughter. Once a selfish person faces a conflict between his own interests and others, he will use various methods to satisfy his own interests, even ignoring the losses of others; Harm the interests of others, and will still do whatever it takes for your own interests.These people may get temporary gratification, but the final result is not what they want. The selfish one will only play his own little calculations, his eyes are only asking for, and he will not give anything.Think about it, how can a small abacus calculate a big account?How can there be greater gains if you don't pay?

My neighbor Jem is an explorer. Jem once brought back a very rare flower from afar. He wanted to make a lot of money in a few years through his own cultivation.Jem takes good care of these precious flowers, watering and fertilizing them every day and never daring to neglect them.Soon, the news that he got the precious flowers spread, and many relatives and friends came to ask him for flower seeds, but Jem, who was originally generous, was reluctant to give any.He plans to have tens of thousands of plants after three years of breeding, and then start selling and giving gifts at that time. In the spring of the second year, all the flowers that Jem planted were in bloom, and his garden was full of purples and reds, especially those rare flowers bloomed very beautifully.By the spring of the second year, there were thousands of these precious flowers, but what worried him was that the flowers were not as good as last year. Not only were the flowers smaller, but their colors were not pure, and there were some variegated colors.Another year passed, and tens of thousands of flowers had been bred, but the businessman was even more worried. All the flowers became smaller and worse in color, completely losing their original grace and nobility.Of course, he failed to make a fortune from these expensive flowers.These flowers grow in a large area in the original place, and they are planted year after year, but this has not happened.What the hell is going on with these flowers?He couldn't figure it out.He went to ask a gardener, and the gardener came to his garden to have a look, and asked, "Does this kind of flower grow next door?" He shook his head and said, "No one has this kind of flower here except me." The gardener pondered for a long time and said: "I already know the reason. Although your entire garden is full of this precious flower, there are other flowers planted in the garden near you. Your precious flower is pollinating. In the process, it was polluted by pollen from nearby gardens, so your flowers will not bloom every year.” Jem asked the gardener what to do, and the gardener said: “Who can stop the wind? The precious flowers are still the same, only let all the gardens near you be planted with this kind of flowers.” After hearing this, Jem was ashamed, so he distributed the seeds of the precious flowers to his neighbors and friends, and when the flowers bloomed in the next spring , the garden of the whole village has almost become a sea of ​​flowers, the flowers are gorgeous and elegant.Jem really made a fortune, and of course, the neighbors who liked flowers also made a fortune with Jem.

There are too many things in life that need to be shared. Only by sharing can we gain more, and only by sharing can we have happiness.It is difficult for selfish people to establish an intimate relationship with others, and such a selfishness will only lead them into the ranks of losers.Especially in today's society, it is difficult to achieve a career without cooperation, let alone a greater success. Self-interest is also altruistic, and only by achieving a win-win situation can things be done successfully.Sharing can broaden our minds and make our lives more exciting.This is a joy that the selfish man will never know.Say goodbye to selfishness now!Happiness will come back to us.