Chapter 72 increase the depth of love

Mr. Ethier H. Wise, a social work expert and secretary of the Board of Directors of Juvenile Families in New York City, said at a social work seminar held in Massachusetts: "One of the main reasons for juvenile delinquency is to feel that someone Don't love him either." My husband and I couldn't agree more on this.Because at the National Reformatory for Juveniles in El Reno, Oklahoma, we taught these teens a lesson in human relations. The longing for love is a common problem faced by these unfortunate children.One kid told me that he never heard from his mother, that he wrote to tell her that he was attending a seminar, and that he felt he had become a better kid through this study.Soon, he received a reply from his mother, but she thought that he could not become much better, and prison was the most suitable place for him!

There is also a 19-year-old boy named Tommy.He spent ten years in an orphanage, prison, and reformatory.He said: "We long for love, that's what we need most. But no one loves me or wants me. I never got a Christmas present until I was 16." It is true that these children who lack family affection often turn to crime to compensate for this defect in life.They are like a very hungry person who, when no good food is available, will go hungry and eat harmful things. For human life, love is the most beneficial food. It is the source of human spiritual growth. If there is no love, human morality will deteriorate.Psychologist Gordon W. Wall put it this way:

"The truest self-expression an ordinary person can make is that he has never felt that his own love and the care given by others have been enough." Indeed, the potential of love is no less important to human society than atomic energy.Love has magical powers, and miracles are created every day.A major factor in your husband's success is the love you give him.Because, if you love him with all your heart, you will willingly do everything for his happiness and success. The love you have for your husband also affects the lives of your children.Dr. Paul Burpino, president of the American Family Relations Association, said at a national teacher-parent association: "If the teacher-parent association is willing to put aside the matter of children in its annual meeting, it will discuss how to promote The husband and wife are more affectionate and harmonious, and may contribute more to the happiness of the child!"

So, how can we deepen the relationship between husband and wife?Here are a few suggestions: There is a very sad thing in life, that is, when things are in the past, you realize that you have enjoyed the precious gift of life.The wife of an old friend of my husband once wrote a letter saying, "Jim is gone and he will never know how much I love him and how much I need him." Indeed, Jim would not know it now, for the past life was gone forever with his shadow! It's a pity, isn't it?Unfortunately, this is not a special case.Dr. Louis M. Terman and his assistants found that among the more than 1,500 married couples they surveyed, the men believed that the main reasons for marital unhappiness were the wife's nagging and complaints, and the second was The wife does not know how to express love.

Quite a few women are able to calmly deal with the crises that arise in life, but on the other hand they are so clumsy that they don't know how to give her husband the spiritual food he most desires—love.A woman may be able to persevere in helping her husband even when he loses his job, becomes seriously ill, and even ends up in prison.But when life is quiet, the busy wife forgets to show her husband how important he is—in her life. As a woman, can you accept this statement?Men were said to marry for love; women married to have their own home, to have children, to gain security, or to avoid being a spinster.

Generally speaking, women believe that they should be loved and love to hear sweet words.However, according to my experience, those women who often complain that their husbands don't value them and forget to appreciate them are mostly the ones who are stingy with praise and love.They are often just critical and critical of their husbands.They can be described as a neurotic woman, as described by Dr. William Berlingill: "They love themselves so much that they rarely give love to others." Love, attention and love from your husband will also be abundant. DeLocie Dix, an authority on marriage, says: "Wives often complain that their husbands ignore them, rarely compliment them, pay little attention to what they wear, or show affection for her in any way. love, so they treat their husbands with the same indifference. Then, they find strangely that their husbands are pursuing other women, women who know how to compliment their handsome and attractive. Men also have the same longing for love, which is not women's monopoly."

A man's need for love can sometimes become a weakness and be exploited by women. They sometimes deliberately indifferent to their husbands in order to get what they want.There was a Maryland Superior Court case in which a woman demanded the money she wanted by threatening not to speak to her husband.As a result, the woman lost the lawsuit, because love does not need to be paid. Some people call the expression of lack of love between husband and wife "spiritual food deficiency".The analogy is apt, because a man needs more than bread in his life, a woman should give him a slice of the cake of love now and then - with a little honey on top!

Some extremely responsible wives tend to make the mistake of demanding perfection too much.Children's words and deeds must be disciplined, dinner must be delicious, and the room must be clean... This kind of perfectionism often pays too much attention to details, but ignores important things. The following words, although exaggerated, are not without reason, and they come from the mouth of Georges Jean Lasay: "It is my experience that perfect housework and love are sometimes difficult to coexist. When I see a tidy When a home is too impeccable, it is common to feel—and then confirmed—that the affections between the homeowners and husband and wife have cooled, as if they had rigidly organized the family. Because sweet love, warm family life, always Little troubles and messes are created, at least to a certain extent. It is true that no woman who loves her husband can do her house perfectly."

From this passage, it is not difficult for us to find that Mr. Lasay is a bachelor, but what he said is really reasonable, especially for those wives who only see the trees but ignore the whole forest, they should think about it carefully up. Is there anything more glamorous than the marriage of people who love each other deeply?Love is giving, but also tolerance and generosity.But some wives have made sacrifices in many things, but they often show their narrow-mindedness in some inconspicuous places-for example, they are jealous of their husband's former girlfriend. If your husband casually mentions that he ran into an old girlfriend and you ask him if that girl is still talking childishly with braids, then you are being too narrow-minded.You should say more good things about her, even if you can't think of them, make them up.

Before my father got married, he was engaged to an attractive red-haired girl.So whenever my mother praised the girl for being beautiful and lovable, my father always smiled shyly and pretended to be nonchalant.Of course we think our mother is very beautiful, and she knows it, but she compliments my father's eyes, which makes my father very happy. Men often do things after they get married, hoping to hear their wives thank them, such as taking their wives to the theater, giving them a bouquet of violets, or even just taking out the trash every morning.If the wife takes it for granted and forgets to say thank you, the husband will stop acting like a fool and stop doing things to please his wife.

Because of living for too long, many things will be taken for granted, and some women can't feel what their husbands do for them every day.I used to think my husband wasn't very helpful - he couldn't change a kid's diaper or tighten a leaky faucet.It wasn't until he went to Europe one summer that I was surprised to find that he silently helped me with many things every day, but I didn't say thank you! If the husband wanted to change into his slippers and take a break, we happily put on our gowns.A caring wife should first think about her husband's needs in the outside world before thinking about her own needs. I learned this the hard way when Dale and I were honeymooning in Oklahoma City, where he was giving a week-long lecture.I still fantasized about the happiness of newlyweds-with words of praise, romantic sentiments, candlelight and the sound of violin playing... But I found that I was just sitting in a hotel room alone, admiring my dowry alone, I The bridegroom sat with the committee members to study his speech and discussed related matters with the sponsor.I even had to make an "appointment" with him beforehand to meet him - he was so busy.So I was pissed off and had a displeasure on my face for the little bit of time we were able to spend together. Now that I think about it, I’m really glad that my husband didn’t say to me: “Please go back to your mother first, and come back when you grow up a little bit and don’t feel childish!” Of course, married life is not like a child’s play like that. So a wife should do everything for her husband, but shouldn't she be rewarded?A wife dedicates her whole life to her husband. Does the husband know? He must know!Now on my desk is a letter from Falwick C. Angus, 30 King George, Victoria.He said what they wanted to say on behalf of husbands who enjoyed happiness like him—— "I always thought that because I married her, I was happier than anyone else. If I went back 32 years ago, I would still want to marry her - as long as she would marry me again! If I still have If anything is achieved, it is because of this lovely wife." Success is meaningless without love!Without love, fame and wealth are like useless waste.If your husband gets peace of mind and happiness from the love you give, then what he brings you is a better life, and happiness will follow your footsteps. Summary-- A wife's greatest contribution is how to give her husband deeper love. 1. Show your affection and love. Second, have a good mood of open-mindedness. Three, have a broad mind. 4. Say thanks. 5. Mutual understanding and consideration.