Chapter 11 act confident

The eminent psychologist William James wrote: "Action seems to follow the feeling, but in fact the action and the feeling go hand in hand, and the action is directly controlled by the thought. Likewise, by conditioning the action, we can indirectly condition the feeling." , which is not directly controlled by the will. "So if we lose our natural joy, the best way to get there is to sit up and talk happily and act as if the joy is there. If that doesn't make you feel Be happy, then there is no cure. "So, if you make people feel brave, act like you're really brave. Use all your willpower to get there, and courage will probably replace fear."

Take the advice of Professor James!In order to develop courage, you might as well act as if you really have courage when you are facing the audience.Of course, unless you are prepared, otherwise no matter how much performance is useless.If you know what you're talking about, say it lightly, and it's even better if you take a deep breath before you say it.In fact, taking a deep breath for 30 seconds before facing your audience, increasing your oxygen supply can refresh you and give you courage.The great tenor Jan Lesky used to say that if you could "sit with breath" in your chest, the tension would just melt away.

Stand up straight, look your audience in the eye, and start speaking with confidence as if each of them owes you money.Imagine that they owe you a debt, and imagine them gathering there to ask you for an extension of time to pay it.This psychological effect will help you a lot. If you suspect that this theory does not make sense, you can ask a student who has attended my training class, and they have already accepted the opinions of this book.In just a few minutes, they can change your mind.Just take an American at his word, often held up as a symbol of courage.But in fact, he was very timid at one time, and then spent a period of time training his self-confidence, and finally became the most brave.He is the President of the United States - Theodore Roosevelt.He wrote in his autobiography:

"Because I was a crooked and clumsy kid, I used to have little confidence in my abilities when I was young. I had to train myself hard and toil, not just in body, but in soul and spirit as well. . "As a child, I read a passage in one of Mariott's books that struck me so deeply that I never forget it. In this passage, the captain of a small British warship explains to the main character How to remain fearless. He said that at the beginning, when it comes to taking action, everyone will be afraid, but he should follow a rule-control himself and make himself appear to be fearless. As long as he persists in this way, the original pretend will be will become a fact, and he has only become a fearless warrior without knowing it by practicing a fearless spirit.

"That's the theory I trained myself on. At first, I was afraid of so many things, from grizzlies and wild horses to gunmen, but I always acted like I wasn't afraid, and gradually I Stop being afraid. In fact, everyone can be like me if they want to." Overcoming the fear of speaking in public will have a huge subtle effect on everything we do.Those who take up the challenge discover that they are very good characters, and that once they overcome their fear of speaking in public, they transform themselves into a richer, more fulfilling life.