Chapter 48 Section 7 Build a garden of spiritual joy

A major event in the field of psychology in recent years is that there are many exciting discoveries in the research on "happiness".All the relevant research indicates that in the near future, human beings will uncover the mystery of the brain, just as we lifted the veils of the universe in the past.Everyone has their own problems and troubles, but have you ever noticed that even when dealing with some nerve-wracking problems, some people are less woebegone than others and more optimistic?Not all of these happy people were lucky. On the contrary, most of them had been hit by a string of bad luck and were not rich.The frustration of falling out of love, the distress of unemployment, the pressure of debt, the eyes of the boss, hard work but not getting the rewards they deserve...all kinds of helplessness can knock a person down, but why do they still look like optimists? ?Why can you still have fun?How did they do it?The point is that they master the joy and motivate themselves to do better.Because they often have a contented heart, which illuminates their own world and cushions the blow of setbacks.These happy people have plenty of reasons to be happy and life is always full of hope.They can, why can't you?

A good way to build a garden of spiritual happiness is to find the birthplace of happiness and expand these sources of stored happiness.You can collect and store these sources in many ways.Let us not see the source of pleasure as a particularly unusual event or act, but as the cumulative result of various "satisfaction".The value of happiness cannot be measured by money, it depends on how much influence it can bring us. Stimulation is one of the greatest sources of happiness, and it comes to us in many ways, including novel feelings and experiences from new foods, new people, new ideas, and even from the process of mysterious and amazing adventures. etc.

Experiments with animals show that "excitement" is a powerful and irresistible weapon.If an electric current is connected to the center controlling pleasure and excitement in the brain of the orangutan, and a button to connect the current is given to the orangutan, so that the orangutan can be in an excited state, the orangutan will inevitably press the button continuously until he is exhausted and then stops. The opposite side of excitement, relaxation, is not so easy for ordinary people to do.We find it difficult to bring relaxation into our lives, and total relaxation is a luxury.Inability to relax yourself is a great threat to happiness.If you want to be happy, you have to take a break from stressful worries, to isolate yourself for a period of time, to get out of the daily routine, and to be completely calm and balanced.

Everyone should have their own way to achieve the balance between excitement and relaxation. In general, if your sense of contentment increases, you are bound to be happier.Suppose one day, you are upset and unhappy because everything is not going your way, I suggest that you might as well have a contest with the worrying things, intentionally accumulate satisfaction, until you find that the satisfaction is better than your original dissatisfaction, That way you won't feel so sad. Also suppose you had an argument with a friend and were stuck in traffic and were late for an important business meeting.After the meeting, the company announced that it will not give you a salary increase this year.What an unpleasant day when you have to take time off from work to go to the dentist with a toothache, only to get home and find your mailbox full of bills!The best way to do this is to plan a fun-filled evening.You can make a phone call to chat with some close friends, play a game of golf, and enjoy a dinner in an elegant restaurant; after dinner, you can watch a movie and relax.In this way, your accumulated dissatisfaction during the day will be replaced by the satisfaction at night, and you will appear happier.

Some people may think that this method is too simple and will not be effective, but many experiments have proved that it is quite effective.Although it won't solve all your problems, it can at least stabilize your emotions so that you can deal with them calmly. Some people will deliberately create happy situations on bad days, just like the methods mentioned above, but usually they don't continue to think: "What should I do now to make me the happiest?" We should cultivate Create a good habit of happiness, so that happiness can appear automatically anytime and anywhere, instead of blindly letting yourself indulge in laziness and passivity.For example, when you want to entertain yourself, it's easier to think about having a drink or turning on the TV to watch a show than going for a bike ride or taking French lessons, which often brings We have more fun, but the average person tends to ignore them.

It is also very important to cultivate sources of happiness in many ways.Because multiple sources of pleasure can bring multiple layers of pleasure, and if you only have a few sources of pleasure, they may not be suitable for repeated use in the long run, and relying too heavily on only a few sources can also cause boredom.If you only rely on one thing or thing to find happiness, when you lose it, trouble will follow.After all you cannot find something that can replace or fill it in a short period of time.Just like a person who only concentrates on work and has no other hobbies, once he is fired or has to retire in old age, he will definitely be very unhappy.

This is why the more sources of happiness the better, because there are many types and we will not easily get bored. If unfortunately one of them is lost, there will be other sources to replace it immediately, so that happiness will not be affected. In addition, when we use a source, we must invest enough time that the source is actually effective and actually gives us pleasure from it.We have to actually "enter" the source to appreciate it.Sports are like this, how can a layman experience the fun of sports?You have to be quite familiar with a certain sport before you can enjoy it.Another example is that work must be in contact for a period of time before it can make you feel happy.Some people have many sources of happiness, but because they cannot concentrate on one thing and become one with it, they still feel bored and of course become unhappy.Many of us have experienced this: If we try to do a lot of things in a day, even if these things are fun in themselves, because of too many distractions, the happiness of the day will be reduced a lot.

Now is a good time to look at your sources of happiness and make an assessment to see if you are getting too attached to any one source.Let's work hard to increase the source!Perhaps some of the things or activities that make you happy cost money, but when you examine carefully, you will be surprised how many sources are obtained through circumstances, friends, knowledge, or other sources that have nothing to do with money.If you have money troubles, remember, no matter how much it is worth, the goal is always the goal, the expectation is still the expectation, the novelty is still a novelty, and relaxation is still relaxation; it is not necessary to deliberately create a rich environment to be happy.How is a luxury holiday home different from a park, or a city from a forest?As long as you want, there are different activities for you to enjoy everywhere!