Chapter 40 Section 6 Use Humor to Resolve Crisis

If you don't like being taunted and are vulnerable to snipers, you're actually a pretty easy target for snipers. Psychological research shows that not all people are highly aggressive, and that some people simply want attention.Sometimes they just want to make people laugh, to get compliments, and they use mocking tactics to get attention. Sometimes this "ridiculous humor" can actually increase mutual friendship.With the ubiquity of the television medium today, it's called a sitcom.In this comedy, everyone mocks everyone else mercilessly, and the audience laughs, but laughs off the real mockery.But sometimes a joking snipe can cause fatal damage.

Let us first look at the following example. Darren and Jay are both engineers, and both work for a high-tech company.Darren is 5 years older than Jay, and has worked in the company for 3 years longer than Jay. Everyone thinks that Darren is more likely to be promoted.But Jay is easygoing, hard working, proactive, and creative.Later, his efforts were finally appreciated by his superiors and paid off - he was promoted to regional business manager. In the first week after taking office, Jay stopped the car and walked into the office building. As he was walking towards the new office, he saw the whole class standing around Darren in the aisle. They seemed to say to Darren He cares about every word and smiles happily.But when Jay approached the group, their laughter stopped abruptly, but Jay could clearly hear Darren's vicious sniping at him.Noticing that his audience had stopped laughing, Darren turned his head in the direction of the crowd's gaze, only to see Jay's embarrassed expression. "Oh, it turns out that a big man has come!"

"How could I be treated like this?" Jay asked himself, wondering how to respond to the "sniper" attack? The motives behind the sniping actions vary.Some are angry at how things turned out, while others are vindictive and sniper at those who stand in the way of their plans.Some will use sniping to hit anyone who might get in the way of their plans.Some people snipe for nothing more than to get attention. People who want to get things done may use sniping to eliminate dissidents if things don't go according to plan, or if they are obstructed by others.To avoid reprisals, snipers often resort to stealth, using surreptitious criticism, sarcastic humor, harsh tones and glances.The sniper will also say some irrelevant words, which make people confused and make a fool of themselves. That is to say, he will use confusion as a weapon.

In the case of Darren and Jay, Darren was angry because he didn't get a promotion and blamed Jay for it. If you don't like being taunted, and you're vulnerable to snipers, you're an easy target for snipers.Once this personality is spread, someone will use your personality to snipe you.If you're the type of person who can't stand a snipe, the opponent will take advantage of your weakness and become uninhibited.After being teased like this, you may want to blindly fight back or run away.If you choose either of the above two, maybe you can change the situation, but be careful, if you haven't learned to say unpleasant things to difficult people in a humorous way, you will most likely fail, so You better face the sniper bravely.To stop sniping, it's best to learn to live with them in peace.Because sniping is pointless if you don't react.To deal with snipers, you must first cultivate a curious attitude and take the attitude of a bystander to see such behavior.If a sniper attacks you, don't take it personally, hope you are curious enough.Focus on the sniper, not yourself.Because the appearance of sniping behavior may be a sense of insecurity, you can regard the behavior of the headache character as the behavior of an insecure elementary school student.Perhaps you remember that the best response to sarcasm was "I know you are; what about me", followed by "We're both the same, so calling me names is the same as calling you names".It's helpful to do that, it's unbelievable, but it's amazingly powerful, and it's equally powerful to say it.

Humor is one of the best attitudes a person can have in dealing with a crisis.Once when Socrates was discussing philosophical issues with his students, his wife broke in suddenly, pointed at Socrates and scolded Socrates in front of everyone. A basin of cold water was poured on Socrates' head, and everyone was stunned.Unexpectedly, Socrates wiped the water off his body quietly, and said with a smile: "It's nothing, I know it usually rains after a thunderstorm." Everyone was amused by Socrates' humor and wisdom. The embarrassment disappeared in a blink of an eye. Similarly, we will inevitably be attacked and hurt by some words in life. If we can respond with a smile and wash away our unhappiness with humor, we will become a wise man who will not be hurt by words.