Chapter 13 Chapter 3 Don't Worry About Trifles

It's the little things that bother us.We can hide from an elephant, but we cannot hide from a fly.People live in this world for only a few decades, but they waste a lot of time worrying about small things that will be forgotten within a year. Let me tell you one of the most dramatic stories ever, with a hero named Rob Moore. "In March 1945, I learned the most important lesson of my life at a depth of 276 feet near Indochina. At the time, I was on a submarine. We spotted a Japanese fleet on radar - a Destroyer escort, a tanker, and a minelayer - heading our way. We fired three torpedoes, none of which hit. Suddenly, the minelayer was coming straight at us. (A Japanese aircraft , radioed it our position.) We dived to a depth of 150 feet to avoid detection, prepared for depth charges, and shut down the entire cooling system, and all generators."

"Three minutes later, the world fell apart. Six depth charges exploded in all directions. They pushed us straight to the bottom of the sea-276 feet. The depth charges were dropped continuously, and for a full 15 hours, a dozen or twenty were just away from us. It exploded about fifty feet away. If the depth charges were within 17 feet of the sub, the sub would have blown a hole. We were ordered to lie still in our beds and stay calm. I was so scared that I couldn't breathe, no I kept saying to myself, 'This is a dead end'. The temperature of the submarine was almost 100 degrees, but I was so afraid that my whole body was cold and I was sweating. After 15 hours, the attack stopped. Obviously the minelayer I ran out of bombs and drove off. For 15 hours, it felt like 15 million years to me. My past life came before my eyes, and I remembered all the bad things I did and the things I worried about Some very boring little things. I used to worry about not having money to buy my own house, no money to buy a car, and no money to buy good clothes for my wife. When I came home from work, I often quarreled with my wife over a little sesame. I also worried about my forehead. Little Scar—a scar from a car accident—was worried.

"Years ago, those worrying things seemed so absurd and small when the depth charges were life-threatening. I swore to myself that if I had the chance to see the sun and the stars again, I would never worry again. In these 15 hours, I have learned more from life than I have learned in four years of college." We are generally able to bravely face the big crises in life, but we are often frustrated by some small things.Mr. Bader noticed this too.The people under him can do dangerous and hard work without complaint, "However, I know that there are several roommates who don't talk to each other because they suspect that others have messed up their things and occupied their place. One The guy who eats on an empty stomach has to chew every bite 28 times. The other guy has to find a seat where he can't see this guy before he can eat."

Judge Joseph Shabas of Chicago, after arbitrating more than 40,000 unhappy marriages, said: "The basic causes of unsatisfactory married life are often small things." When Mrs. Roosevelt was first married, she was worried every day because her new cook was doing poorly.But if it happened now, she would shrug her shoulders and forget about it.Great, that's what an adult does.Even the most authoritarian Queen Catherine just laughed at the chef's bad cooking. Once, we went to a friend's house in Chicago for dinner, and he didn't do some small things well when sharing the food.Everyone didn't care, but his wife immediately jumped up in front of everyone and accused him: "John, what's wrong with you! Don't you never learn how to divide dishes?" She said to everyone: "Old It’s just making mistakes again and again, without paying attention.” Maybe he really didn’t do a good job, but I really admire him for being able to get along with his wife for 20 years.Honestly, I'd rather have a mustard-smothered hot dog or two -- as long as it's comfortable -- than listen to her ramblings while eating Peking duck.

Soon after, my wife and I invited some friends over for dinner.As the guests approached, the wife noticed that there were three napkins that did not match the color of the tablecloth.She later told me, "I found three other napkins in the wash. The guests had arrived at the door, and I nearly burst into tears. Why did I make such a stupid mistake and let it ruin my evening? It occurred to me , why ruin me? I went in for dinner, determined to enjoy it. I would rather have my friends think I was a lazy housewife than a neurotic grumpy woman. And. As far as I know, no one noticed those napkins at all."

Everyone knows: "The law doesn't care about those small things." People should not worry about these small things. In fact, all it takes is a shift in perspective and focus to get over the annoyances caused by small things.This will give you a new, happier perspective.My friend, the writer Homer Croy, told me that he used to be driven mad by the blaring of the hot water lamp in his New York apartment when he was writing. "Then, I was out camping with some friends once, and when I heard the sound of the firewood burning, it occurred to me that it was the same sound as the hot water lamp, and why I liked this sound and hated the other. Well, I told myself when I got back that the crackling of the wood in the fire was very nice, almost like the sound of the hot water lamp. I could have slept with my head covered and ignored the noise. As a result, I paid attention to it the first few days sound, but before long I completely forgot about it."

"It's the same with a lot of little worries. We don't like little things that make us depressed. In fact, we all exaggerate the importance of those little things..." Disraeli said: "Life is too short, stop caring about little things." "Those words," Andrea Morris said in "This Week," "have helped me through a lot of painful things. We often get upset over the little things, the little things that should be dismissed." Distraction... We have only a few short decades in this world, and we waste a lot of time that we can't make up, worrying about little things that will be forgotten in a year. We should put our Live only for worthwhile actions and feelings, to think great thoughts, to feel true feelings, to do what must be done. Because life is too short for little things.”

Celebrity Giblin and his uncle fought one of the most famous lawsuits that ever took place in Wilmont.Kipling married a Valmont woman, and built a fine house in Bratab, where he planned to spend the rest of his life.His uncle, Beatty Barrister, became his best friend.They both work together and play together. Later, Giblin bought a little land from Barrister, and it was agreed in advance that Barrister could mow the grass on that land every season.One day, Barrister found that Boujilin had opened a garden on that meadow, and he became angry and furious.Giblin also retorted, making it dark on Valemount Green.

A few days later, Giblin was out on his bicycle when he was knocked to the ground by Barrister's horse.The person who once wrote "Everyone is drunk, you should wake up alone" also lost his head and sued the official.Barrister was arrested.What followed was a very lively lawsuit, which resulted in Giblin and his wife leaving their American home forever.And all this, just for one small thing - a cart of hay. Harry Emerson Fusdick told such a story: "On the slope of Long Mountain in Colorado, there lay the remains of a big tree. Naturalists tell us that it once had a history of more than 400 years. During its long life, it was struck by lightning 14 times, and storms and storms ravaged it countless times, and it was able to overcome them all. But at the end, it was attacked by a small army of beetles and fell to the ground forever. Those beetles from The roots bite inward, gradually hurting the vitality of the tree. Although they are small, they attack continuously. In such a forest, years have never withered it, lightning has never knocked it down, and storms have never shaken it, but A small army of beetles that can be crushed with a thumb and forefinger finally fell."

Aren't we all like the battle-hardened tree in the forest, we have survived countless storms and lightning strikes in our lives, only to be bitten by little beetles of worry—those who A small beetle that can be crushed with your thumb and forefinger. A few years ago, I visited a Rockefeller house in Teton National Park with Mr. Charles Seyfeld, Commissioner of Wyoming State Highways, and other friends.My car took a wrong turn and was an hour late.Mr. Seefield had no key, so he waited a full hour in that hot, mosquito-infested forest.When we arrived, among mosquitos so numerous as to drive a saint mad, Mr. Seafield was blowing on a little flute made of fallen poplar twigs.I later took this little flute as a souvenir of a man who didn't care about little things.