Chapter 82 Handshake is important

Handshake is a common meeting ceremony in interpersonal communication and business activities. It is an open and mysterious messenger in social and business activities. It can express various feelings such as welcome, friendship, congratulations, thanks, respect, apology, sympathy, and farewell.In the process of communicating with others, paying attention to the detail of shaking hands will make you make a good first impression. Among all communication etiquettes, shaking hands is the most commonly used and common etiquette.In prehistoric times, human ancestors lived by hunting, and the world was full of dangers for them.Therefore, when strangers meet, if both parties have good intentions, they will stretch out a hand with the palm forward, indicating to the other party that there are no stones or weapons in their hands. After approaching, the two will touch each other's right hand to show friendly.In this way, it has been inherited, and it has become the handshake that people express friendship today.

Another theory about the source of the handshake ceremony is: in the Middle Ages, knights were all wearing armor. After covering their whole body, except for two eyes, the rest were wrapped in iron armor, ready to rush to the enemy at any time.If you want to show friendship, you should take off your right hand armor when approaching each other, stretch out your right hand, indicating that you have no weapons, and shake hands with each other, which is a symbol of peace. Shaking hands can express various emotions such as welcome, friendship, congratulations, thanks, respect, apology, sympathy, and farewell.We all shake hands when we gather and part, worry and joy, at this time, silence speaks louder than sound.Whether it is a reunion separately, meeting by chance, or daily communication, people always shake hands.Being able to shake hands easily and freely on various occasions is a communication etiquette that everyone in modern society should learn.

Shaking hands is a recognized etiquette, but in some cases, if you don't know how to shake hands, you may make a joke or put the other party in an embarrassing situation.When some people meet and shake hands with friends, they are not very particular, or they are casual, or they are too rash.This is a disrespectful attitude and leaves a very bad impression. Mary Kay Ash is a famous American businesswoman.After she retired, she founded a cosmetics company. When the company opened, there were only 9 employees, but 20 years later it has developed into a large company with annual sales of more than 300 million US dollars.Why did Mary Kay achieve such great success in her later years?

Mary Kay said she started by understanding the power of the handshake.In the past, she worked as a salesman for a company.Once, the other company held a meeting for a whole day. In order not to lose this sales opportunity, she waited for 3 hours, hoping to shake hands with the manager. But the manager didn't even look at her when he shook hands with her.This greatly hurt her self-esteem, and her enthusiasm for work could no longer be mobilized.At that time, Mary Kay made up her mind: "If one day there are people waiting in line to shake my hand, I will focus all my attention on the person shaking my hand, no matter how tired I am at that time!"

That day has indeed come.Since the day she founded the company, Mary Kay has shaken hundreds of hands many times.The handshake moment, Mary Kay always thinks back to the cold reception she received in the past, so she always shakes everyone's hand warmly, kindly and attentively. In interpersonal communication, when people meet and shake hands, who should "hands out" first?Strictly speaking, it should be determined according to the social status, age, gender, and status of the host and guest of both parties shaking hands, and generally follows the principle of "decided by the lord".The basic etiquette is as follows:

(1) Among friends of the same generation, when meeting each other, strike first to show respect; (2) The elders reach out to the younger first; (3) Those with high status reach out to those with low status first; (4) The elders reach out to the younger ones first; (5) The lady reaches out to the man first (if the lady does not intend to shake hands, the man can nod or bow to pay tribute; if the man is the age of his ancestors, it is also okay for the man to extend his hand first); (6) The teacher reaches out to the students first; (7) Married people reach out to unmarried people first;

(8) Superiors reach out to subordinates first; (9) In social situations, the first comer first reaches out to the late comer; (10) When visiting, the host usually extends his hand first to express his welcome; (11) When saying goodbye, the guest should extend his hand first to express his gratitude and ask the host to stay; (12) If you shake hands with many people, you should start with seniors and then young, first high and then low, first female and then male, first teacher and then student, first married and then unmarried, first superior and then inferior (and so on); (13) When receiving foreign guests, the host has the obligation to extend his hand first to the guest, regardless of whether the other party is a man or a woman, the host should extend his hand first to express welcome;

(14) In official occasions, the order of shaking hands mainly depends on the position and identity (for example, if a male general manager shakes hands with a female secretary, the former should reach out first). In the process of shaking hands with others, you should pay attention to some details. When you shake hands with others, remember not to have the following behaviors: don’t disrupt the order and take the first shot; Keep your palms down and look at no one; don't use improper force and perfunctory recklessness; don't shake hands for too long, making people feel at a loss. The activeness and passivity of the handshake, the magnitude of the force, the length of time, the pitch of the body, the expression of the face and the direction of the line of sight often show the different courtesy and attitude of the handshake person towards the other party, and can also peek into the secrets of the other party's heart.

Shaking hands is not only a means of expressing affection and communicating with each other, but also can reveal the mentality and personality characteristics of both parties from the gesture of shaking hands.In short, some skills should be paid attention to when shaking hands. It is necessary to shake hands actively, enthusiastically and in a timely manner, which will increase the intimacy of both parties.