Chapter 83 Cultivate your own unique temperament

Everyone should cultivate their own unique temperament.Only when you have your own elegant demeanor and swim in the sea of ​​social interaction, will you be free and easy, and you will no longer have lingering fears and pressures about your own demeanor.Cultivate your temperament!Constantly exercise yourself in social practice and become a leader in the social field as soon as possible. Temperament refers to a person's relatively stable personality traits, style, and bearing.Cheerful, unrestrained and generous people often show a kind of intelligent temperament; cheerful, gentle and refined people often show a noble temperament; straightforward and unrestrained people usually have a rough temperament; gentle personality, beautiful and dignified demeanor, Temperament is manifested as quiet... Whether it is intelligent, noble, or rough and quiet, it can produce a certain sense of beauty.On the contrary, a tricky, treacherous, aloof, or despicable temperament has no beauty at all except disgusting.

If you are a caring person, you will find that the beauty of temperament is not limited by age, clothing and dress.A person's true charm lies mainly in a peculiar temperament, which attracts both the same sex and the opposite sex.This is an inner charisma.The beauty of temperament is first manifested in the rich inner world. Temperament is externalized in a person's gestures.The gait of walking and the demeanor of dealing with people are all temperament.When friends make friends for the first time, they look at each other and immediately create a good impression.This kind of goodwill comes not only from speech, but also from style and behavior.Enthusiastic but not frivolous, generous but not arrogant, it reveals an elegant temperament.Fanaticism, impetuosity or pretentiousness are signs of poor temperament.

In addition, the beauty of temperament is also reflected in the character.This involves ordinary self-cultivation.Avoid anger and madness, be able to endure humiliation and humiliation, and be considerate of others.Forbearance is not silence, let alone submissiveness, without assertiveness.On the contrary, a cheerful personality often reveals an awe-inspiring demeanor, and it is easier to express inner emotions.And emotional people, of course, are more elegant in temperament.Elegant interest is another manifestation of temperamental beauty. For example, love literature and have a certain ability to express, appreciate music and have a good sense of music, like art but have a basic sense of color, etc.Many people are not beautiful women and handsome men, but they are full of attractive temperament and beauty: serious, persistent, intelligent, and sensitive.This is the real beauty of temperament, the inner beauty of harmony and unity.Pursue beauty without misunderstanding or desecrating beauty. This requires every one of us who loves and pursues beauty to comprehend the true meaning of beauty from life, combine beautiful appearance with beautiful temperament, beautiful virtue and beautiful language, and show personality, A complete and beautiful image of temperament and appearance.

So, how should we cultivate our own unique temperament? (1) Free and easy appearance, thoughtful etiquette. Appearance and etiquette are the information that people need to receive when they meet for the first time, and the first impression is made from here.A person with a dignified appearance, handsome and unrestrained, can make people have the charm of being willing to approach.This charm comes not only from appearance and clothing, but also from human temperament.Thoughtful and appropriate etiquette is the expression of a person's inner quality.Proper etiquette makes communication go smoothly. You respect others, and others respect you.A good beginning is half the battle. If the first impression is good, then the emotional distance will be much closer in the future.

(2) Full mental state. Only when a person is in good spirits, full of energy, appears confident and energetic, can he better stimulate the communication enthusiasm of the other party.If you are listless and weak, it will make the other party feel that you are not willing to communicate and feel uninterested.Even if you have the sincerity of communication, it will be difficult for the other party to understand, because your words and deeds are inconsistent. (3) Sincere attitude towards people: You should be sincere and frank with people. There should be no condescension or groveling towards people, it is neither proper nor necessary.The sincerity of the attitude can also be seen when talking.Avoid hesitating and contradicting yourself in words and expressions.A more appropriate and pertinent attitude towards others is dignified but not reserved and indifferent, humble but not artificial.However, although you should pay attention to the principle of honesty in socializing, you don’t have to take it too seriously. As long as you don’t harm others and benefit yourself, and you can achieve the purpose of socializing, you might as well be “insincere”.It is better to deal with problems flexibly than blindly pursuing honesty.

(4) Appropriate facial expressions. People's posture and facial expressions are the non-verbal forms of communication between people and the concrete manifestation of social demeanor.In terms of posture, the upper body leans toward the other party, expressing interest and enthusiasm, and it is also polite; the body leans back, which appears calm and casual, but sometimes it appears too arrogant; turning sideways, expresses disgust and contempt; turning the back to the other party is very uncomfortable. Politeness means ignoring it.In terms of facial expressions, a natural smile is an expression of friendliness and enthusiasm; if the muscles are tense and the face is frosty, it is either hostile or too reserved, so it is difficult for others to approach.