Chapter 81 good manners are wealth

Bad manners can screw everything up.On the contrary, good manners will make up for everything.It tinges gold with our "no," sweetens truth, and makes us a third more beautiful. While creating a beautiful material environment, people should also create a harmonious interpersonal environment.The meaning of life lies in continuous creation and progress.At the same time, you should also express, appreciate and develop yourself in complex interpersonal relationships, and enjoy endless fun from it.Whether a person can have a good and positive adaptation to the real society or the surrounding environment is an important criterion to measure his mental health.

A good upbringing has a huge role in promoting a person's success, and upbringing can even replace wealth.All doors are open to educated people.Even if they are penniless, they will be warmly received by people anytime and anywhere.Suppose there are two people who are otherwise identical except in how they behave: one is friendly, helpful, and behaves like a gentleman; while the other is rude, critical, and uncooperative Spirit.Obviously, the career of the former will flourish, while the career of the latter will only decline. From the perspective of communication, etiquette can be said to be an art applicable in interpersonal communication, a way or method of communication, and a customary practice in interpersonal communication to show respect and friendliness.

As a kind of culture, social etiquette is a symbol used by people to deal with interpersonal relationships in social life and express friendship and goodwill to others.Etiquette can make a person moral, etiquette can shape an ideal personal image, etiquette can make your career successful, and etiquette can make society more stable.Etiquette is an important part of an individual and even a nation's quality. (1) Etiquette is a sign of a good personal image. Etiquette is a concrete manifestation of a person's internal quality and external image; etiquette is the guarantee of personal psychological peace, spiritual purification, physical and mental pleasure, and personal enhancement of self-cultivation.When everyone behaves with the motive of being kind to others, and restrains himself with the principles of civilized citizens, then all people will experience a feeling of magnanimity and joy in mind and body.

(2) Etiquette is the foundation of harmonious interpersonal relationship. Society is a collection of different groups, and a group is formed by the confluence of many individuals, and the differences between individuals are absolute, such as: gender, age, wealth, status, etc.Etiquette is the lubricant and glue of social interaction, which enables different groups to respect each other, understand each other and live in harmony. (3) Etiquette is the key to the development of various undertakings. Occupation is a means for people to make a living and gain a foothold in society.Paying attention to etiquette can help people realize their ideals and move towards success, can promote solidarity and mutual assistance, dedication, honesty and trustworthiness among all employees, can enhance people's communication and competitiveness, and thus promote the development of various enterprises and undertakings.

Locke was a famous British political thinker, philosopher and educational thinker who lived in the middle of the 17th century and the beginning of the 18th century.He pointed out that a man's clothes may be made to fit by a tailor, and his movements may be taught to be well coordinated by a teacher, but though these things may make him presentable, none of them will make him a well-bred gentleman. .Even if he has knowledge, it is not enough, because if done wrong, knowledge can make him more unreasonable and more uncomfortable when interacting with others. Courtesy, then, is an embellishment added to all the other virtues of man, to make them effective for him, and to secure for him the respect and favor of all those who are near him.Without good manners, all other achievements will be seen as boastful, conceited, useless or stupid.

Locke said that when an uneducated person has courage, courage will take on a savage color, and others will treat him as barbaric; learning will become pedantic; wit will become funny; frankness will become vulgar ; gentleness becomes flattery.Without etiquette, every virtue is altered.Virtue, he said, is a treasure of the mind, but it is good manners that give birth to them. The American success scientist Malden also said: civilized behavior, and the understanding and concern for people behind it are a great wealth in our life.Different behaviors can make us angry or calm; cheerful or ashamed;This kind of thing is like the air we breathe every day. Usually we don't feel its existence, but it moistens things silently and works on us bit by bit for a long time.This kind of power of hiding a needle in the cotton is unmatched by the courage of ordinary people.It is the lubricant of our daily social life and the booster for the whole society to reduce losses and operate efficiently.