Chapter 78 Ten image positive energy

If you don't pay attention to the maintenance of personal impression and the huge influence of the first impression, you will fail in interpersonal communication.Only by improving one's self-cultivation to decorate one's image can one lay the foundation and build a good stage for future success. The first impression is also called the first impression, it refers to two strangers, the initial impression of each other obtained in the process of communication.There are two ways to get the first impression: one is to get an impression of the other party’s appearance through direct contact with the other party, such as appearance, figure, expression, manners, attire, etc.; Newspapers, radio, television and other mass communication tools get to know the other party's situation, which is to get someone's first impression through indirect means.From the nature of the first impression, it can be divided into static first impression and dynamic first impression. The former is the general external impression of the other party's appearance, figure, appearance, etc. The impression produced by the behavior manifested in an event.

Psychologists have found that the formation of people's first impression is very short, only a few seconds to tens of seconds.Dr. Sinna Zuoning once described in the book "Communication": "When you meet a stranger in a social situation, you should focus on him in the first few minutes. Many people encounter It will change because of it.” Therefore, when you first interact with people, you must first leave a deep and good first impression on others. In social psychology, due to the formation of the first impression, the phenomenon that the information obtained initially has a greater influence on the formation of the overall impression than the information obtained later is called the primacy effect, also known as the initial effect.

Psychologist Asch conducted an experiment in 1906 with seminary students as research objects.He asked two groups of college students to rate their overall impression of a person.For the first group of college students, he told the characteristics of this person to be "intelligent, hard-working, impulsive, critical, stubborn, and jealous."Obviously, the order of the six features is from positive to negative. For the second group of college students, Asch still used these six characteristics, but the order of arrangement was just the opposite, from negative to positive. The results of the study found that college students' impressions of the evaluators were highly influenced by the order in which the characteristics were presented.The first group of college students who received positive information first had a far better impression of the person being evaluated than the second group who received negative information first.This means that initial impressions are highly stable and cannot even be fundamentally changed by subsequent information.

A good first impression is the best business card, especially when meeting someone for the first time.Our facial expressions, posture, appearance, clothing, conversation, etiquette, etc. form the other party's first impression of us. If others can feel happy, natural, and comfortable when they are with you, then most of them will take the initiative to care about you and give you a warm welcome. Pleasure to assist you.Among them, decent appearance and behavior will add a lot of points to you.These aspects seem to be small issues in life, but if they are not handled properly, they will also affect your social image.

First impressions are hard to change.Therefore, in the process of daily communication, we will put a lot of effort into our image.For example: the clothes should be decent and clean, and the meeting place should be agreed in advance, including the purpose of the meeting, etc. It is nothing more than wanting to leave a good impression on the other party.The first time with a good impression, there will be a second time with further contact. If there is no good first time, how can there be a follow-up?This is why I emphasize the importance of the first impression, because it is a beginning, and if you want to continue, you must pay attention to the first impression.

So, how can you leave a good first impression on the other side? (1) Play to your own strengths. If you play to your strengths, others will enjoy being around you and will find it easy to work with you.Therefore, when interacting with people, you must be confident and give full play to your strengths as much as possible. (2) Adapt to different occasions. The person who knows how to communicate with people best will change his performance according to the situation.Standing still doesn't leave a good impression.Whether it's talking intimately with people or giving a speech, you must change from time to time while remaining yourself.But be careful not to create the impression of dishonesty that words and deeds do not match.

(3) Relax. To make others feel at ease, you have to appear at ease yourself.No matter what serious things you encounter, try to relax mentally.Use some humor and don't always look grim or act like you're always depressed. (4) Be good at using eyes and eyes. Whether you are talking to one person or a hundred, remember to keep your eyes on each other.When you enter a room full of people, you should naturally look around, smiling and taking care of all the people with your eyes, which will make you look relaxed.Don't avoid the public eye. Of course, although the first impression is very important, you can't suddenly change your personality in order to win a good first impression. Don't put on a false posture, as long as you keep your true self, the best true self is enough.In fact, you already have the uncanny power to make a good impression, because no one can make a good impression better than yourself.