Chapter 57 Friends need to keep a certain distance

Making friends is originally a matter for both parties. You can't let your own wishful thinking, but you should respect each other and wait patiently for each other.Friendship needs the measurement of distance, only with distance can there be attraction, and only the soul can maintain a unique space. Not everyone can be friends in life.Everyone has their own attitude towards life, way of dealing with the world, hobbies and personality characteristics, and they also have their own standards and conditions for choosing friends.I often think that people cannot live in this world without friendship, mutual assistance, caring, and support.

When friends encounter difficulties and setbacks, if you extend a helping hand to help each other survive and overcome difficulties, it will be much more useful and reliable than giving expensive gifts.As friends, it means that we undertake the obligation to solve problems and share joy with each other.Only in this way can friendship last forever. However, the way friends get along is also very artistic.Between friends, you need to keep a certain distance.No matter what kind of friends, no matter how close the relationship is, distance is so important. To a friend, regardless of male and female friends, you can't pay too much attention to it, otherwise the other party will feel a lot of pressure and will be overwhelmed by your attention, but you can't be too negligent. If you are too negligent, you may not be in contact again. .For some friends, if you attach too much importance to him, he will feel that it is very tiring to make friends with you. It is because you attach too much importance to him, which makes him feel pressure and makes his life very hard.

Whether it is between friends or lovers, the feelings for each other must not be equal.There will always be someone who gives more, and it is often the one who gives more who is vulnerable.Therefore, many times now when I get along with my friends, I will warn myself to control my own contributions, so that neither myself nor my friends will be hurt.So I will not force others now, and try not to bring pressure to others. Keeping a certain distance between friends also has another meaning. No matter how good friends are, they should not occupy too much time of each other, should not interfere too much with each other's family affairs, and should not visit frequently or be uninvited guests. .

Many people mistakenly think that friends should talk about everything and be intimate, but they don't know that knowing too much about other people's privacy and intervening too much in other people's lives is a burden to both others and themselves!No matter how close you are with your friends, you must understand the truth that "blood is thicker than water". In fact, in the real society, the value of friends lies in "regulating mistakes and encouraging good".Criticism and self-criticism, mutual correction and understanding of mistakes, mutual correction of faults or shortcomings, mutual learning and encouragement, and common development are true friends.However, there is a certain standard for regulating the past and persuading the good, especially for some friends who are now doing business in partnership, they must pay more attention.Many times, when it is difficult to change a friend's behavior, then don't force it anymore, let the friend understand it by himself, maybe his idea is correct, even if he is wrong, it will be helpful to the friend of.In this way, we can still maintain the relationship of friends and not hurt each other's feelings.

In everyday life, even best friends have frictions that may drive us apart.But whenever we look at the starry sky in the dead of night, we always see fond memories of the past.Some trivial memories brought infinite shock to my lonely heart!It is this feeling that makes me understand the importance of friends to me!The same is true for interpersonal relationships. If you are too close, the relationship will become complicated. If you are too far away, you will lose contact. It is just right if you are not close or far, and you can only feel each other's sincerity and friendship.Everyone has their own paradise, so when you are depressed, when you are discouraged, when you feel that your friends are getting colder, please cherish the sincere friendship of your friends, and don't feel it until you lose it precious.

Therefore, cherish every friendship around you, no matter whether it has passed or not, no matter whether it will have a future.Maybe it won't last forever, maybe it will fade away, maybe it will be alienated, but it should never be forgotten.It is a seed, if cherished, it will germinate in your heart, sprout leaves, bloom and bear fruit.And the fragrance when it blooms will accompany you for a lifetime. Every indifference also hides deep loneliness and longing.Everyone has their own struggles and mental journeys. Tacit understanding is just understanding each other because of understanding yourself. Only harmony is the smile that remains unfailing when the body and mind are exhausted.Missing each other, caring for each other, and loving each other is the rarest emotional comfort in the world, and the most difficult true love between friends.The long-term coexistence between friends is precisely because of this mutual understanding and interdependence between souls. Only in this way can the lonely life become rich and profound.

If you can have a friend, a best friend in life, you will have the emotional needs of your life. Friends are like food and clothing, like the sun and the moon, like your own shadow. Even if they are silently facing each other without saying a word, the feeling is nourished by the rain and dew, the mind is as calm as a mirror, and the state of mind is like a cloud.