Chapter 58 Make friends with people who are better than yourself

The reason why successful people are successful is that they set an example for people in a certain aspect, which is worth learning and admiring.Excellent talents always follow the example of successful people, make friends with better talents than themselves, so as to reach a higher level. Everyone will have their own circle.It is unlikely that a beggar will have a large number of entrepreneurial friends to help him succeed; likewise, a successful businessman is unlikely to be happy to befriend a street beggar, because they belong to different circles.When a person makes friends with another person, he will judge whether this person belongs to his own circle, and then decide whether to associate with him and the depth of the association.If your value is equal to that of the other party, then you belong to the same circle of people, and the two parties have a basis for establishing a network of contacts. In the future, it is possible to cooperate deeply and help each other; if they are not equal, then don’t expect them to be in your life. Help you on the "turning point".

Therefore, the prerequisite for establishing an efficient network is how much value you have that can be used by the other party.This requires you to have a clear career direction in your daily life and work, and constantly improve your overall quality around this direction, build your core competitiveness, and become a valuable person.In this way, it is possible for you to build your own network of contacts. Looking at those who have successfully established a career, they are often good at changing a person's opportunity and destiny, and making friends who are better than themselves.In fact, getting acquainted with people is not as difficult as it is usually imagined, and the same is true for making friends with people of higher status, especially young people, who can approach people of higher status without any worries.

There was a farm boy in the United States named Arthur Huaca. He read the stories of some great industrialists in a magazine. He wanted to know more details and hoped to get their advice. One day, he ran to New York and arrived at William B. Asda's office at 7 am regardless of what time he started working.In the second room, Huaca immediately recognized the sturdy, bushy-eyed man in front of him.The tall Asda began to find the boy a bit annoying, but when the boy asked him, "I really want to know, how can I make a million dollars?" His expression softened and he smiled, and the two talked for an hour.Then Asda also told him how to visit other celebrities in the industry.

According to Asda's instructions, Huaca visited first-class managers, editors-in-chief and bankers.In terms of making money, the advice he received did not necessarily help him, but being treated like successful people gave him confidence, and he began to imitate their successful practices. After two years, this 20-year-old youth became the owner of the factory where he was apprenticed. At the age of 24, he became the manager of an agricultural machinery factory.In less than five years, he got his wish to own a million-dollar fortune. This teenager from a rough wooden house in the countryside finally became a member of the bank's board of directors.

In the 67 years that Huaca has been active in the industry, he practiced the basic belief he learned when he came to New York when he was young, that is, to make friends with beneficial people. He firmly believes that meeting successful predecessors can change a person's luck. When you are young, frankly expressing your admiration for heroes will not only please the other party, but will also encourage you and increase your courage. In fact, it is not shameful to take capable people as your role models. Friends are like books. A good friend is not only a good friend, but also a good teacher.Forging a friendship with a great person is as difficult as trying to make a million dollars the first time.The reason for this is not their superiority, but your own uneasiness.

The reason why young people fail easily is because they are not good at communicating with their predecessors.Field Marshal Foch of France said: "Young people should know at least one old man who is well-versed in the world and ask him to be an advisor." Sagaret also said the same thing: "If I am asked to say something that is beneficial to youth, then I ask you to always act with people who are better than you. In terms of learning or in terms of life, this is the most beneficial. Yes. Learning to respect others properly is one of the greatest joys in life."