Chapter 54 Respect others, win people's hearts

Everyone wants to be respected by others, but the premise is that you also need to respect others first. If you only know self-respect but look down on others and hurt others' self-esteem, you will inevitably be retaliated by others. Only by respecting others can you win respect from others. When people live in society, they will encounter all kinds of people and things. Everyone has their own thinking and ideas, but don't impose your own thinking on others. People should respect each other with sincerity. , smooth communication and caring and understanding.The most important thing for people to live in harmony with each other is to know how to respect, learn to respect, respect both yourself and others.

In real life, there are often many people who do not pay attention to respecting others: between classmates, between teachers and students, between colleagues, relatives and friends, and even family members, sometimes they are completely self-centered, do not pay attention to other people's feelings, and do not give respect to others. The other party leaves enough time for mental activities. When talking with others, he only cares about himself and does not give the other party a chance to interrupt; , to act impolitely, uncivilized, or even rude to those who criticize oneself, these are uncivilized behaviors that do not respect others.

Everyone should learn to respect others. A person who does not respect others will never be respected by others.In fact, your every word, every language, and even every look in your eyes will have a profound impact on others.An encouraging look from you may make a person with low self-esteem full of confidence from now on, on the contrary, a harsh word may make a confident person completely depressed. The famous American scholar Rogers once said: "I have never met a person I don't like." This sentence may be a bit exaggerated, but for Rogers, this is not an exaggeration.This is how he feels about people, and because of that they open up to him as flowers open up to the sun.

Being respected is a human need.Only when a person fully respects others and communicates with them in a warm and friendly manner can he truly win the full respect of others.The following fairy tale confirms this point of view. One day, the ostrich and sparrow in the animal world met unexpectedly.After being polite, they chatted. "We ostriches are giants among birds! We are the most powerful birds in the world!" the ostrich said proudly. The sparrow looked the ostrich up and down, and said unhurriedly: "You can be proud of your tall and strong body! But, compared with your size, we are more like a bird!"

"Is there anything wrong with us being tall? Aren't we a bird?" The ostrich asked the sparrow. "Can you ostriches fly? Although you are extremely tall, strong as an ox, and called birds, you can't fly. Isn't this a human tragedy?" The sparrow asked the ostrich, then flapped its wings and flew away. The ostrich lowered its haughty head and began to think about what the sparrow said. Here, there is no need to comment on who is more reasonable, the ostrich or the sparrow.But you must know that people who are conceited are always self-respecting and look down on others; on the contrary, only those who respect themselves will win the respect of others.

When dealing with people, if you respect others, others will respect you; if you like others, others will like you.Getting people to like you is, in fact, another way you like people. Respect is a kind of great wisdom, because you know, you are merciful.It is not difficult to respect the similarities between others and yourself, but the difficult thing is to respect the differences between others and yourself.You think smoking is harmful to your health and pollutes the environment, but he thinks it is a kind of adjustment; he said that life should be aggressive, lively and strong, but you only want a life of peace, tranquility and comfort. Everyone is different, and the differences are far more than a thousand Ten million, respect is to keep one's own life creed and look at the other party from an objective point of view with appreciation, not demanding the same, but facing the difference squarely.

Therefore, those who know how to respect others have realized the great wisdom of life, have enough self-confidence to support themselves, and have enough tolerance to examine others. Respect will make people feel happy and breathe smoothly. Respect can change strange or sharp relationships. If there is enough respect for each other, wars can be completely avoided.People long for the respect of others in their hearts, but you can only win respect if you respect others first.As the saying goes: The person who gives flowers is surrounded by flowers, and the person who grows thorns is surrounded by thorns.Let each of us respect others first.