Chapter 50 Good mood comes from self-management

No one is born with a good temper, and good emotional control is more achieved by self-management.As long as you pay attention to practicing emotion regulation in your daily life and take every emotional class well, you can naturally manage yourself and win good interpersonal relationships. A person who knows how to manage himself will not be dejected when he suffers setbacks, he will not be arrogant when he is successful, and he will not be rampant when he is impulsive. He will quickly and effectively eliminate bad emotions and continue positive emotions, so as to maintain a good attitude.With a good attitude, you can face everything optimistically, and naturally have a good mood every day. With such an emotional state, difficult things are not difficult, and everything is often under control.

Why is self-management so magical?Because good self-management can cultivate a good mood, and good mood can help you manage your behavior well, thus forming a virtuous circle that continuously promotes your own progress and growth.A person who can manage his emotions well will of course have more chances of success and be favored by more people. Ada is a cosmetics salesperson.One day, she met a lady who was very picky.Ada has recommended several cosmetics for her, but she either thinks they are too expensive or not good enough, and finally she starts to curse Ada: "Miss, as a salesperson, you are too unprofessional to choose cosmetics for customers." It's your grave fault that you didn't get the right thing."

Everyone felt sorry for Ada, thinking that Ada would definitely scold this unreasonable customer severely.But Ada still smiled and said to the lady: "I'm really sorry, I didn't find a suitable product for you. Why don't you explain your requirements in detail and let me recommend some more for you?" A few days later, Ada was promoted to the department manager of the cosmetics. It turned out that the difficult lady that day was the general manager of the cosmetics brand.When the general manager asked Ada why she was not angry, Ada said: "I was really angry at the time, but my quarrel is not the best way to vent my bad emotions, so I have to manage it well and don't let it come out and affect I work."

In fact, everyone will have some bad emotions, which is normal.But a mentally healthy person will not deny the existence of his emotions, but choose the right time and place to vent his negative emotions, and try to minimize the bad effects of this bad emotion. This is how self-management affects emotions. importance. So how do you manage yourself?You may wish to try the following methods: (1) Observe your own emotions. That is to remind yourself from time to time to pay attention to "what is my emotion now".Many people believe that people should not have emotions, so they refuse to admit that they have negative emotions.You must know that people must have emotions, and suppressing emotions will bring worse results.Learning to be aware of your emotions is the first step in emotional management.

(2) Express your emotions appropriately. How to express emotions appropriately is an art that needs to be experienced and figured out carefully, and more importantly, it must be actually used in life. (3) Relieve emotions in an appropriate way. There are many ways to relieve emotions. Some people will cry bitterly, some people will find three or five friends to complain about their grievances, and some people will go shopping, listen to music, take a walk or force themselves to do other things, so as not to think of unpleasant things. (4) Bask in the sun. Psychiatrist Muller pointed out that sunlight can improve the condition of depressed patients.Studies have found that when night comes, the secretion of melatonin in the pineal gland of the human brain is enhanced, which can affect people's mood, while light can inhibit the secretion of this hormone.

(5) Strengthen physical exercise. Physical exercise can adjust the autonomic nerve function of the body and relieve the tension, irritation, anxiety, depression and other states caused by autonomic dysfunction. (6) Use color to adjust mood. From clothing to home and office environments, consciously change or add some bright and warm colors in winter to help yourself become cheerful and confident. (7) Pay attention to dietary regulation. Eat more fresh vegetables and fruits rich in vitamin C, as well as beans, milk, peanuts, animal offal, etc. rich in vitamin B1 and B2.If vitamin C and B vitamins are deficient, it can affect brain function and mood.Professor Padel, a German nutritional psychologist, found that bananas contain a substance that can help the human brain produce serotonin, which can reduce the secretion of bad hormones and make people quiet and happy.

(8) CRYING LOUDLY. Find a secluded place and cry as much as you want.Japanese psychological experts have found that this kind of crying can make the depressed psychology fully vented; at the same time, the toxins produced by bad emotions can also be "cryed out". (9) LISTEN TO MUSIC. Music can make the brain produce a calming and soothing substance, but choose the "right" music. (10) Appreciate flowers, plants, mountains and rivers. The color and smell of flowers and plants have the effect of mediating people's emotions.As for the green mountains and green waters, Yinggeyanyanwu will put you in a beautiful situation, and your mood will be "happily activated".

(11) PUPPET PLAYING. Stick the puppet with the name of the person who made you unhappy or the name of the event, and then beat it hard.Afterwards, people will no longer be depressed, and their mood will naturally improve. (12) SELF-COMFORT. You can find some appropriate reasons to tell yourself, which can help you accept the reality before setbacks, so as to maintain your optimistic attitude. (13) SLEEP BETTER. Sleep helps to overcome bad emotions and stabilize the mind.When you wake up, you will feel much better.