Chapter 49 Learn to overcome anger with effort

When you can't control your anger, you might as well declare loudly that you are wrong. This statement forces yourself to be responsible for your words and actions, and it is a kind of pressure to get angry.Before you are about to get angry, divert your attention in time, find something easy and meaningful to do, think about it, and then use new efforts to make it serve you. Everyone is unique in this world.As we grow older, we need to face different environments, deal with different interpersonal relationships, and engage in different occupations... Many things in life need us to face alone.All of this is inseparable from being a person and doing things.

Being a person and doing things is a unique art, and it is also a rich knowledge.It involves all aspects of life, and it can even be said that it is all-encompassing and all-encompassing.The philosophy of life reflected by a seemingly insignificant matter may affect your whole life and thus change your entire destiny.And a small mistake can also make you lose all your previous efforts and lose your great future. The same group of people stand on the starting line of fate and start a marathon race of life.After a period of trekking and hard work, some people will slow down due to hard work, some will feel frustrated due to improper methods, some will give up halfway due to lack of self-confidence, and some will persevere and move forward until Get the last victory.Why the same beginning, but showing a completely different ending?This contains many philosophies about being a person and doing things.These philosophies can enrich people's hearts, change people's behavior, and enable a person to stand out from the mediocre crowd and step into the ranks of outstanding people.

Being a person is the foundation of life, and it is a comprehensive manifestation of image building, self-improvement, and interpersonal relationships; doing things is the key to persevering, overcoming adversity, and marching towards career glory and success.In daily life, the philosophies of being a person and doing things are often interpenetrated and closely blended.Learning to be a person will naturally affect the development and take-off of the career; learning to do things will also benefit being a person in turn.The two promote each other and complement each other. Life is created by oneself, and destiny is in everyone's own hands.Although we will face all kinds of pressure and difficulties from life, society and work, if we can start from ourselves and try to make our way of life, work attitude, effort, way of thinking and mentality and beliefs all be positive and positive. , Beneficial aspects to move forward, to learn with heart, to listen, to hone, to feel, success will eventually belong to you.

In life, we often encounter such things unavoidably: when someone excitedly goes to a lover’s date, he is stuck in traffic on the road; someone accidentally steps on the bus; when shopping, the waiter is extremely rude to people .At this time, people often feel angry involuntarily. Anger doesn't help people solve any problems.On the contrary, whether in interpersonal communication or self-physical and mental health, anger can make people depressed and hinder emotional communication between people; from a physiological point of view, anger can lead to diseases such as high blood pressure.

Some people may think that this is alarmist talk. Anger is just a human nature. At least getting angry is better than sulking alone, which is better for physical and mental health. , there is no other way.In fact, a better method should be adopted... Try to overcome anger, not get angry, and use understanding and humor to bring your mind into a state of balance. If we are at a time when we are junior and inferior, we will not have a sense of depression and disappointment. If we become angry and neglect our duties in vain, we will not only be disgusted by others, but also dig our own grave in career. You might as well use an objective attitude and reflect on it, so you won't be fooled by your emotions.

When the New York electrical magnate Alterridge was furious, he wrote a letter to vent his anger. Once he wrote it, his anger immediately relaxed.But he often kept this kind of venting letter, and never sent it out immediately, and took some time to think about it, what kind of consequences would this cause? Objective things are always independent of people's will.No matter how good one's wishes are and how correct one's ideas are, in most cases, one must act according to the objective reality.You can dislike a person, but this person does not exist because you don't like it; you can also have objections to some things, but they will not disappear just because you have objections to these things.This shows that you must learn to work hard to overcome anger.