Chapter 47 divert attention when in a bad mood

We often fall into the quagmire of emotional anxiety in our lives. The best way to solve this is to divert your attention and focus on other things.This way, you can stay out of pain and avoid making bad decisions. Human beings are affected by emotions all the time and everywhere.Emotional quality directly affects people's health.Human emotions are closely related to health and longevity. Emotions such as tension, excitement, anger, grievance, sadness and joy can cause changes in a series of physiological functions of the human body.They can cause symptoms such as tachycardia or bradycardia, precordial pain, and elevated blood pressure, causing coronary artery occlusion, myocardial damage, and even cerebrovascular rupture and death.In terms of gastrointestinal tract, it can cause loss of appetite, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea and so on.In terms of the respiratory tract, it can cause symptoms such as rapid breathing, wheezing, and chest tightness.When it is manifested on the skin, it can cause neurodermatitis, rash, white hair, hair loss, alopecia areata, juicy and so on.In terms of endocrine, it can cause irregular menstruation, decreased milk secretion, diabetes, etc.Bad emotions make people fall ill, not directly like germs and viruses, but quietly through the cerebral cortex, nerves and endocrine functions.

The story of human beings dying violently from trauma has been around for a long time.For as long as written records have existed, there have been accounts of people dying suddenly in times of fear, rage, humiliation, or ecstasy.When a person loses a loved one, or is faced with events such as sadness, panic, failure or celebration, the blood pressure in the body will increase.At this time, he died suddenly because the heart could not bear the pressure.Therefore, when there are events that easily cause emotional changes, restraint should also be exercised.Developing a good habit of dealing with emergencies, and staying calm is the best rule of life.

When you are emotionally aroused, in order to prevent it from breaking out and becoming uncontrollable, you can consciously divert your attention from the stimulating situation that caused the adverse emotional response to other things or activities. If you focus on those bad things, you will fall into a state of thinking obsession and emotional disorder; if you divert your attention, the original painful experience will be blocked.The emotional sailing boat needs to be steered by oneself. When encountering bad emotions, turning to another aspect can avoid emotional hitting the rocks and maintain a good mood.

Many years ago, an American opened an auto repair shop in the west.But he was harassed by a group of young people who ran to his store every day shouting "you are not welcome here".For this reason, the American is very depressed.But soon he thought of a way.The next day, he announced to the group of young people who patronized again: From tomorrow, anyone who welcomes him to open a store here will get one dollar. The next day, the Americans smiled and handed out money to these cheerful young people who came shouting "Welcome", but only gave each of them five cents, saying that they could only pay so much today.The group was happy even though they didn't get a dollar.

On the third day, the Americans only gave each of them a penny.Since a penny was too little to motivate anymore, they protested to the Americans.The Americans still smiled and said to them: "I can't pay more money. You can either take a penny or leave." So this group of young people left angrily, and before they left, they were still looking at the United States. People say, "Who do you think we are? We're not so stupid to want us to welcome you for a penny!" The reason why this clever American was able to successfully "repel" these young people is that he cleverly used the method of diversion of attention.Obviously, instead of getting angry with these young people, it is better to divert their attention, avoid confrontation, and make the conflict invisible.

When encountering troubles, people are used to getting angry, which not only disturbs their xinxing, but also makes wrong decisions, which does not help to solve the problem.Therefore, it is wise to divert attention, calm yourself down, and find a solution to the problem. Diverting attention is a very effective self-control method, but many people don't really understand how to do it. In fact, diverting attention can be done in the following ways: (1) When a bad mood occurs, turn your attention to things that interest you. Such as walking, watching movies, TV, reading, playing ball, chatting, these things that make people feel relaxed can divert your attention to a large extent.It not only effectively suspends the effect of bad stimuli and prevents the spread of bad emotions, but also achieves the purpose of enhancing positive emotions by participating in new activities, especially activities of interest to oneself.

(2) To shift attention to another aspect of the matter is to look at the same matter from a different angle. The same sentence, when looking for a reason to dislike, this sentence is a bad word and has no good intentions; when looking for a reason to like, this sentence is a good word, a word from the heart.The source of such a big difference lies in one point, your attention.So, one of the most effective and easiest ways to change our emotions is to change our attention on it. (3) Divert attention by reciting poems. It is said that in many pharmacies in Italy, some medicine boxes contain not medicines, but poems jointly designed and edited by psychologists and writers, and patients can relieve pain by reciting aloud.

(4) Counting colors is also a good way to divert attention. When you feel overwhelmed, stop what you are doing as soon as possible and find a place alone where no one is around.First, look around at the surrounding scenery, and then say to yourself in your heart: that is a white wall, that is a light yellow table, that is a dark chair, that is a green filing cabinet... all the time Count to 12, and talk for about 30 seconds. In this way, you can free your attention from bad emotions, so as to prevent you from sinking deeper and deeper in bad emotions.