Chapter 46 don't cry over spilled milk
What has happened, just face it rationally, cry over spilled milk, there is no practical meaning to admit the reality, keep yourself plain, this is the realistic attitude towards life.
In life, we must not only learn to remember, but also learn to forget the past.Forgetting is a relief for pain, a relief for fatigue, and a sublimation for self.On the journey of life, if you keep all love and hatred, fame and fortune, kindness and resentment, right and wrong, etc. in your heart, it is tantamount to carrying a heavy cross. The invisible shackles will make life very painful. If you are very tired, so that your spirit is listless and exhausted, the boat of life will have nothing to depend on, and you will be lost in the vast sea, and there is even the danger of capsizing.If we learn to forget the past and forget all the things that should not be remembered, it will bring us a happy mood and a relaxed spirit.
Learn to forget, get out of the shadow of failure, get out of the quagmire of inferiority, get out of the abyss of pain, re-know yourself, and learn to forget.Therefore, we must often carry out self-psychological adjustments, think bigger, think farther, and think opener.For the irrelevant things that have passed, be a little confused, lighten up, be tolerant, and hazy, and "clear" these things out of the warehouse of the brain in time to prevent them from occupying a place in memory.If we learn to forget, we are a healthy and mature person, we can let go of the increasingly heavy burden of the past, pack lightly, face the present energetically, welcome tomorrow with full confidence, and create a beautiful landscape of life.
Tagore said: "When you are sad because you miss the stars, you will also miss the moon." Whether you are happy or miserable, life will not slow down because of it.Life is a process, not a result, so a person's life is the process of turning countless tomorrows into today, and then turning today into yesterday.
Even if we missed yesterday, there are still many things we can grasp today.
Dr. Paul once gave an unforgettable lesson to his students.Most of the students in this class feel uneasy about their past grades.They are always full of worries after handing in the test papers, worrying that they will not pass the test, which will affect the next stage of study.
One day, when Dr. Paul was giving a lecture in the laboratory, he first put a bottle of milk on the table and remained silent.The students didn't understand what the bottle of milk had to do with the lessons they were studying, and just sat quietly.Suddenly, Dr. Paul stood up, knocked over the bottle of milk into the sink with a slap, and shouted loudly: "Don't cry for the spilled milk!" Then, he asked all the students to gather around the sink and carefully Look at the broken bottles and runny milk.
Then, the doctor said word by word: "Look carefully, I hope you will always remember this truth. The milk is gone, no matter how much you regret and complain, there is no way to get back a drop. If you think about it in advance , take precautions, the bottle of milk can still be kept, but it is too late, all we can do now is to forget about it and pay attention to the next thing."
In life, people often do things that run counter to each other.It should be said that you can try to change the consequences of what happened three minutes ago, but it is impossible to change what happened three minutes ago.The only way to make the past worthwhile is to calmly analyze the mistakes that were made, learn from the mistakes -- and then forget them.
The famous baseball player Connie Mark talked about his troubles about losing: "I used to do this, worrying about losing. Now I don't do such stupid things. Now that it's in the past, why bother Immersed in the abyss of pain? The water that flows into the river cannot be taken back."
It is true that water that has flowed into a river cannot be taken back, and spilled milk cannot be collected again.But you can take a positive approach after something happens instead of wallowing in sentimentality and regret.
A former heavyweight champion said of his defeat: "During the fight, I suddenly felt as if I had aged a lot. By the tenth round, my face was swollen, my body was bruised, and my eyes were almost sore. Couldn't open, just didn't fall down. I vaguely saw the referee lift the opponent's right hand high and declare him the winner of the fight. I'm not the champion anymore."
How will you live in the future?The former boxing champion tried to fight again in an attempt to regain his confidence, but failed.Then, he faced the reality and told himself that he didn't have to live in the past, he had to bear the blow, and he must not let failure bring him down.
The former heavyweight champion kept his promise.He admitted the fact of failure, jumped out of the abyss of troubles, tried to forget everything, and concentrated on planning the future.His accomplishments are running competitions, promotions and exhibitions.He keeps himself busy with constructive work and has no time to worry about the past.This makes him feel that his current life is happier than his life as a boxing champion.
He was unknowingly practicing a quote from Shakespeare: "Wise men never sit and bemoan their losses, but rather seek to make up for their losses."