Chapter 44 Six emotional positive energy

When you have a certain understanding of the mystery of emotional changes, you will no longer let your own kaleidoscopic personality change.Be a person and do things without being emotional, so that your actions can be done step by step and meet the requirements of your goals. Only in this way can you control your own destiny and achieve a brilliant career. Emotions don't matter good or bad, it's just a signal from the body.It tells us: our deepest expectations, desires, yearnings.It will add joy and color to life with good feelings such as joy, lightness, and intoxication.It also uses uncomfortable feelings such as anger, disappointment, and anxiety to urge people to adjust, act, change, and strive for what they really want.Emotions are our most loyal and considerate friends.

Don't be afraid of your own emotions, we just need to see it clearly, accept it, care about it, vent and deal with it in a wise way.Anthony Robbins said: "The secret of success is to know how to control the forces of pain and pleasure instead of being countered by them. If you can do this, you can control your life. Otherwise, your life is out of your control.” Many times, the bad thing is not your ability or intelligence, but your failure to control your emotions.Because only by controlling your emotions can you do things with ease and remove obstacles on the road to success. Strengthening the ability to manage emotions at work can be improved from two aspects: one is the ability to perceive emotions. Only by discovering the emergence of emotions in time can one consciously control emotions in the early stage; the other is the ability to understand emotions. Only by understanding the meaning behind the surface emotion can it be truly melted.

The emergence of strong emotions usually has a process, and the initial small waves are relatively easy to deal with.For example, in daily life, many emergencies will make us feel impatient, and the inner waves will keep surging until we can't bear it and "explode suddenly".If you can feel the emotional changes and stop yourself in time, it is likely that the result will be different. When there is a change in mood, the body sends signals.When anger comes, we usually have shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat, tense jaw muscles, numbness in the arms, and a feeling of congestion in the limbs. We may involuntarily clench our teeth and fists... If you find these body language, the first thing to do is to Time to give yourself a slap in the face: I have been influenced by others and controlled by emotions!

After a good drink, often a Jiling will wake up.If you find that your emotional index is still soaring after a great drink, drink your saliva quickly, or get up to go to the "bathroom"... In short, in any possible way, divert your attention from the stimulus source to avoid further deterioration of your mood. Usually, we should consciously strengthen the training of emotion awareness, pay attention to observe what state we will appear in different emotions, and gradually train ourselves to be more sensitive and perceptual. Don’t blame yourself when negative emotions come uninvited, tell yourself, “I have a right to be angry (depressed, sad, lonely, etc.). I..." Gently comforting myself, I found out what thought touched this emotion.

Then, you need to keep asking yourself, "How can I best make up for my loss? What can I do about it?" With this in mind, you can take positive action to turn the situation around.For example, let your mind work and actively think about the way out, instead of nameless anxiety; find ways to increase your skills, instead of being embarrassed by lack of self-confidence; take the initiative to talk to people, instead of being sad because of loneliness; Dive into the void. People who achieve great things follow an eternal secret: the weak let their thoughts control their actions, and the strong let their actions control their thoughts.If you want to be happier in life, smoother in work, and more successful in career, you must first be a person who controls your emotions, so that under the guidance of rational thinking, you can tell right from wrong, know how to advance and retreat, and even turn bad things into good things.

(1) Acknowledge your emotional vulnerability. We must recognize the weaknesses and shortcomings in our emotional world, don't avoid them, don't turn a blind eye.Be sure to carefully analyze what is the reason for your irritability?Under what circumstances are you easily agitated?Then find some way to overcome it.The advantage of this is that you can remind yourself to overcome this emotional weakness anytime, anywhere. (2) To relax your mind. When you find that your emotions are agitated, in order to avoid an immediate outbreak, you can consciously change the topic or do something else to distract yourself, transfer your thoughts and feelings to other activities, and relax the tense emotions.This will not only relax your emotions, but also make you more rational and more likely to succeed.

(3) Learn to correctly evaluate the people and things around you. Learn to observe problems in an all-round way, conduct multi-faceted observations from multiple angles and viewpoints, and be able to go deep into reality.In this way, we can discover the meaning and value that we could not discover before, make ourselves more optimistic, increase our courage to overcome difficulties, increase our hope and confidence, and will not be discouraged or retreat even if we encounter serious setbacks. With more rational thinking and less willful attitude in everything, you can lock the devil of bad emotions in a cage and defeat those forces that try to destroy you.