Chapter 42 accept the imperfections in life

There is no absolute perfection in the world, only relative perfection. Don't waste and waste our precious time for so-called imperfections.Many things in life are not worth remembering because of perfection, but are worth moving precisely because of shortcomings.Remove the regret of not being perfect from your heart, and you will lighten a lot of life's load. In this society and human history, no one has ever been perfect, so we don't need to ask ourselves to be perfect, and we will never be perfect.Don't be discouraged because you are not perfect, don't be afraid to show yourself because you are not perfect, and don't be reluctant to communicate with others because you are not perfect. Always tell yourself that imperfection is also a kind of beauty.

If we have a piece of candy in our mouth all the time, after a long time, you will not feel the taste of sweetness.Goethe once said: "Perfection is the measure of heaven, and the desire to achieve perfection is the measure of human beings." The world is not perfect. Perfection is a subjective imagination of man himself. Wishes are not reality after all. Everyone's real life may be imperfect all the time and everywhere. If you have to use your imagination to collide with reality, and if you have to be true to perfection, you are asking for trouble.There was such a story: A man was very lucky to get a large and beautiful pearl, but he felt sorry because there was a small spot on it.How perfect it would be, he thought, if the spot were removed!So he scraped off part of the surface of the pearl, but the spots were still there; he scraped off another layer cruelly, but the spots were still there.So he kept scraping down.In the end, the spots were gone, and the pearls were no more.The man became ill, and before he died, he said to his family with great regret: "If I didn't care about that little spot, I would still be holding a huge and beautiful pearl in my hand now!"

In fact, each of us has colorful shells at our feet and pearls in our hands, but we don't know how to cherish them, and we are not good at enjoying them, so we miss so much good luck and let down so much beauty. The pursuit of perfection is not perfect.In life, so much loss, pain and misfortune stem from it.There is a proverb in the East: "There is no gold, no man is perfect." The reality is so cruel. If you are too persistent and unwilling to be flexible, you will inevitably fall into the psychological misunderstanding of perfectionism.The one who wants to get rid of the pearly spots must be the one who suffers the most.Because in his eyes, most of what he sees is imperfect, so he misses opportunities again and again, looks far away from success, and finally ends up empty-handed.

Mistakes and shortcomings are a major part of life. Only after experiencing countless mistakes and shortcomings can we see the rainbow after the storm.Most of the time, we are pursuing the so-called perfection, wanting to have a perfect family relationship, a perfect love, and a perfect life.In fact, the sun rises in the east and sets in the west, the moon waxes and wanes, and even the stars have eternity and fall.Our so-called perfection is nothing but perfection under the contrast of various imperfections and beauty.Imperfection is life.This is a "civilian truth".Accepting imperfection is the wisdom of survival and the skill of creating a happy life.Those who are good at accepting imperfections will surely have fate everywhere and have a happy life.

God is the fairest, when he closes a door, he will open another door for you.Imperfection in life is precisely the greatest charm of life. Because of imperfection, people always want to do better, and there are many outstanding people because of it. Because of imperfection, people can cherish the life they have now.It is the imperfections in life that make people pursue perfection. And those who are so ambitious and deliberately pursue perfection can only be depressed, impetuous, worrying about gains and losses, and moody all their lives. "If you don't want to do small things, you can't do big things." Liang Yimeng ended up in poverty for the rest of his life.

Only those who are truly ordinary but not negative, positive but not demanding can truly achieve success and happiness.To accept the imperfections in life calmly, and to find beauty and happiness in these imperfections is the secret of happiness that life tells us. Happy life is not in the ends of the earth, not in the vast ocean, five simple magic weapons can let you find the most real happiness: (1) Make a spring for your own goals. There are ups and downs in a person's life, we cannot guarantee that we will always move forward and always walk on the right path, so don't be too demanding on yourself, set goals according to your ability, excessive demanding will only make you fall into an unattainable anxious.

(2) Find perfection all the time. Many times, beauty is right in front of our eyes, but we are too rigid, thinking that flowers are beautiful only when they are whole. In fact, flowers whose petals have been knocked down by wind and rain are also very beautiful. (3) Only by combining work and rest can we go further. Humans are not machines. They not only need to rest, but also need to rest well. Only after rest can we have a good mood and constantly cope with the imperfections in life. (4) Think positive about everything. Disadvantages in life are inevitable. When encountering any difficulties, you have to think more about the experience that the difficulties will bring to you. This is also a kind of gain.

(5) Learn to compare. When your self-confidence is low, look back at those who are not as good as you, and then think about your advantages, so that your self-confidence will quickly recover.Of course, when your self-confidence increases, you should also look forward. After all, the world is developing by leaps and bounds every day.