Chapter 41 things are not what you think

The guesses and imaginations in people's minds are not the presentation of the real world.Many times, this kind of strange thinking will lead us in the wrong direction, and finally do many stupid things.Things are not as you imagined, don't be misled by false self-suggestion, everyone should have this vigilance. No emotion is so powerful that it cannot be overcome. As long as you know how to see them clearly, don't zoom in or zoom out, we can overcome them.Bad emotions are often not caused by objective conditions, but from human subjectivity.A matter that was not very serious at first became extremely terrifying when people's bad emotions were brewing.

In fact, after going through the crisis of things, many people will find that things are not as bad as we imagined, just because we are in it, let emotions influence the direction of our cognition, and always only see the bad side. There is a man who likes to travel and explore very much. Once he traveled alone in the mountains. When he was resting on the side of the mountain road, his foot was stung by a wasp.However, he did not find the wasp.He touched the swollen bump on his ankle, feeling terrified.Because, he once heard people say that there is a kind of poisonous insect growing in this mountain.Moreover, he also knew that after being bitten by a poisonous insect, as long as he took ten steps, he would die.

Thinking of this, the man's ankle became more and more swollen and painful, and it began to spread to every nerve in his body.He was pretty sure he had been bitten.Fortunately, when he heard people talking about this incident, he once asked them how to save him: as long as he stays still and recites the mantra "poisonous insect, poisonous insect" silently in his heart, the poisonous insect will be relieved naturally when the sun sets. So, he just stood there, chanting the incantation silently.However, he was still very scared in his heart.The scorching sun made him dizzy, and he was just eagerly looking forward to the sunset.As a result, he fainted on the mountain before sunset.

He was sent to the hospital at the foot of the mountain for treatment. After examination, the doctors found that he had fainted due to heat stroke.After he woke up, the doctor asked him about his heat stroke.He told the doctor that he might have been bitten by a poisonous insect while visiting the mountain.After hearing this, the doctor laughed out loud.Then the doctor told him that the poisonous bug was just a legend. This story tells us that many times we are not defeated by our own abilities, but by our imagined fears.Fear is a very contagious germ. Maybe things are not as bad as you think, but once the germs of fear enter your body, you will become depressed and timid.

Fear is a psychological state that each of us will have. Fear is also a major contributor to human survival. Because of fear, human beings can learn to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and then pay attention to protecting themselves.But if we are overly fearful, we will become paralyzed, afraid at any time, and avoid any problems. If we want things to be fully presented to our emotions, we must learn to look at these issues with a correct attitude. What are the correct attitudes? (1) Happiness requires you to be proactive. The way to pursue happiness has a major premise: that is to understand that happiness is not easy to get.It is neither a gift nor a right; you have to seek it out and work hard to get it.When you realize that you can't just sit around and wait for happiness to come, you've taken a big step in the pursuit of happiness.

(2) A question has many answers. There are many sides to everything, not just the one you're obsessed with.Be flexible about things, don't be stubborn, and remember that there is not necessarily only one best thing about anything.Of course, this is not to ask you to give up practical, feasible, and dreamy goals, but to encourage you to go all out and find a variety of methods that suit you to make your dreams come true. (3) Only compare with yourself. Since we are sensible, we have felt the pressure of "achievement", and this pressure has become stronger and stronger as we grow older.Therefore, young people always want to perform well, thinking that they must be perfect in order for others to accept and like themselves.Once you find that you are not as good as others, you will start to feel sad and inferior, and of course there will be no happiness in the end.

So you should use yourself as the standard of measurement, think about where you went wrong at the beginning, and whether you have made progress now.If you have really tried your best, I believe that today will be better than yesterday, and tomorrow will be better than today. (4) Care about the people and things around you. If you care about certain people, things, and things, your view of life will definitely be greatly changed.If you live only for yourself, believe that your life will become very narrow and limited.Self-centered people may make continuous progress, but they are never satisfied.

(5) Don't be too confident, and don't have no confidence. People who are overly optimistic always think that they can achieve all their goals because they ignore the dangers along the way. People who are extremely pessimistic always think that the hope of success is very slim and dare not move forward.Both kinds of people have lost many opportunities because of this. When choosing a target, the attitude should be objective and the judgment should be practical. Don't be too sure and take it lightly, and you must also be confident and timid. (6) Slow down your pace to enjoy the scenery along the way.

You may be busy with this and that from morning to night, turning around like a clock.But when you stop and think for a moment, don't you feel uncomfortable and unsatisfied?Many people only care about the result, but lose the opportunity to enjoy the process of success. Walking slowly can not only enjoy the scenery but also achieve success, isn't it more fulfilling?