Chapter 21 Pay attention to each other and let the aura match

When faced with all kinds of dissatisfaction and grievances, please show an open mind and learn to empathize. You will find that the world can be so beautiful, life can be so rich, and spirit can be so fulfilling. Everyone, no matter whether he is in India or in the United States or in China, whether he is unknown or famous, civilized or barbaric, young or old, has the desire to be important.This desire is one of the strongest and most urgent goals of human beings.Just fulfill this desire in others to make them feel important, and you'll be on your way to success in no time.It is indeed a treasure in your "success treasure chest".Although this approach is worthless, there are many people who are worth using.

Now, let's take a look at what we should do in life.Most people tend to forget the idea of ​​"the importance of the individual" when they transfer their thoughts from academic research to practical life.At this time, please pay attention to the attitude of people. This attitude seems to say: "You are a person who does not exist, you are a nobody. Who are you? Your words are worthless and have no effect on me." "You don't Why is the attitude of "important" so serious?That's because most people tend to look at another person and think, "You can't do anything for me, so you're not important."

In fact, that other person, no matter what their status, status or salary, is important to you, and as long as they think they are important, they will work harder. When I lived in Detroit, I took the bus to work every morning. There was a grumpy driver. The driver revved up the gas and walked away, ignoring the passengers who were only two seconds away from catching up.But he took special care of a passenger, and the driver would definitely wait for him to get on the bus. why?Because the passenger figured out how to make the driver feel important.He would greet the driver every morning and say, "Good morning, sir." Sometimes he would sit next to the driver and say something innocuous that made the driver feel important.

Cultivate an attitude of valuing the importance of others, and others will be much more enthusiastic about it.If you pay attention to the other party, there will be resonance in the aura, and it will produce unexpected effects, which will be of great benefit to your success. How to pay attention to each other?May wish to start from the following aspects: (1) Take the initiative to greet and greet the other party; (2) Guide the other party to talk about their pride; (3) Support each other with laughter; (4) Find out what you have in common with the other party; (5) Show that you care about the other person;

(6) Seek the other party's opinion first; (7) Remember each other's "special day"; (8) Well-intentioned suggestions; (9) Point out minor changes in the other person. Empathy is a basic moral lesson. The Gospel of Matthew said: "Treat others as you would like them to treat you." Truth's body is full of scars.Empathy is a golden rule summed up by human beings after a long-term game and a heavy price.No man is an island, society is a community of interests.We cannot use our left hand to injure our right hand, we are the leaves and fruits of the same tree.Russian revolutionary and geographer Peter Aleksevich Kropotkin proved in Mutual Aid: Only biota with strong mutual assistance can survive. For human beings, empathy is mutual assistance premise.

When you learn to empathize, you will look at problems from the perspective of others when you encounter problems, and put yourself in other people's shoes.When we encounter different opinions with others, we should consider certain issues from the perspective of the other party, put ourselves in the position of the other party and deal with the problem from the perspective of the other party and the environment in which we are in. There may be some conflicts that we cannot reconcile before our eyes. At the end of the day, because of our empathy, we entered the realm of "another village with dark willows and bright flowers".When we do this, we can understand and tolerate others more.In life, learn to empathize, turn hostility into friendship, and turn negativity into hope. We will find that life is actually very beautiful, and our mood is very good every day.

If you want to complain, everything in life will be the object of your complaint; if you don't complain, everything in life will become better.Complaining blindly not only doesn't help, sometimes it can make things worse.Therefore, no matter what the reality is, you should not complain, but rely on your own efforts to change the mentality of complaining.