Chapter 20 Confidence and sincerity are the most impressive

Confident people create a strong aura around them, which is inspiring; sincerity is the key to earning the trust of others and the cornerstone of building trusting relationships.A confident and sincere person will burst out with attractiveness and win the support of more people. Many people are looking forward to success, but they don't pay attention to the cultivation of character and quality to achieve the other side of success, thinking that successful people are either gifted by nature, or they have grasped opportunities well.What is the most important thing for a person to succeed?I thought it was confidence and sincerity.Only with these two elements, you are qualified to march towards success.Because self-confidence and sincerity can move people the most, win you a harmonious interpersonal relationship, let you have a good time everywhere, and raise the sails for your career.

Whether a person is successful depends on his attitude.The difference between successful people and losers is: successful people always use the most positive thinking, the most optimistic spirit and the most brilliant experience to dominate and control their lives.Losers, on the contrary, live their lives guided and dominated by past failures and doubts. Our attitude largely determines our success or failure in life: (1) Life treats us as we treat life. (2) How we treat others is how they treat us. (3) More than any other factor, our attitude at the beginning of a task determines how successful it will be in the end.

(4) The higher a person's status in any important organization is, the more optimal attitudes are achieved. How high a person's status is and how much he can achieve depends on the thoughts that dominate him.As a result of negative thinking, it is most likely to form a person who is bound by a negative environment. An emperor once asked a philosopher: who is the happiest and happiest person?The philosopher's answer was beyond the emperor's surprise. He said: Whoever can think and do this is the happiest and the happiest. Professor Emerson said: "This world only opens up roads for two kinds of people, one is those who have a firm will, and the other is those who are not afraid of obstacles." He also said: "Those who 'tightly drive his four wheels The man who rides his car to the planet' can more easily achieve his purpose than the man who falls on the muddy track and follows the trail of snails."

Indeed, a determined person will not be afraid of difficulties.Although there is an obstacle in front of him that stops him, it can stop others, but it cannot stop him.The determined person removes this obstacle and moves on.Although there are slippery stones on the road that make people stumble, they can only make others stumble. A person with a strong will walks steadily on his heels, and slippery rocks can do nothing to him. Confidence is the source of success.As long as we have self-confidence, we can increase our talents and double our energy.A person's self-confidence can control the blood of his own life, and can run his "belief" firmly.This is indeed a capable person who can take on arduous responsibilities. Such a person is reliable.

If a person can understand the power of firmness, and can firmly grasp what he wants in his heart; and then work hard and unremittingly towards this ideal goal, then he will be able to eliminate all kinds of misfortunes and difficulties, and achieve the ideal. of the highest peak. There is no more important moral factor in human relationships than sincerity.Sincerity is the foundation of building interpersonal relationships. In 1968, American scholar Anderson listed more than 500 adjectives describing human qualities, and asked college students to choose their favorite qualities.As a result, of the 8 highest rated qualities, 6 were related to "sincerity".

So how to achieve "sincerity"? "To be sincere, you must first be honest." Being honest, reliable, credible, and trustworthy is the foundation of all interpersonal relationships and the prerequisite for winning friends.Whether others can have a sense of trust in you depends not only on your own quality and character, but also on your own initiative.The methods described below can enable you to leave an image of honesty and reliability to others: (1) Arrive at the agreed place in advance. (2) Answer the questions frankly. (3) No excuses after mistakes. (4) Be a loyal listener to those in adversity.

(5) Keep promises. (6) Strictly punish small things, forgive big mistakes. Practice has proved that truly successful people follow a set plan and work hard to make friends and win people's hearts.High-ranking people don't talk about how to treat others well, but really famous people have a complete plan to "win people's hearts". This complete set of plans can be summarized in the following ten elements: (1) Remember other people's names.If you get poor grades in this area, it means that you don't pay enough attention to this. (2) Be generous.Others will be very comfortable, and I am also very calm.

(3) Cultivate a relaxed and lively personality, and don't be too nervous when doing things, so as not to be out of breath. (4) Do not be arrogant.Don't show the arrogance of "knowing everything", but be polite and corporal. (5) Humorous words and deeds will make your friends like spring breeze. (6) Find out your own shortcomings and correct them. (7) Eliminate your misconceptions and don't complain casually. (8) Learn to like people until it comes naturally. (9) Congratulate those who have achieved and comfort those who are sad.These opportunities are not to be missed.

(10) Let people feel your vitality at any time, so that they will treat you differently and love you more. The great figures in history and those famous people in business, art, science and politics are easy-going, and they all have the characteristics of "like others" and "be kind to others".