Chapter 12 Low self-esteem is the biggest mistake in life

A strong person is not born, and a strong person is not without weakness. The reason why a strong person becomes a strong person is that he is good at overcoming his weakness and keeping himself confident at all times.The way for successful people to overcome low self-esteem is to know themselves, reshape themselves, and become themselves. On the road of life, we often set one goal after another for ourselves, and through the continuous realization of the goals, we will make ourselves more successful.However, the road to success cannot be smooth and straight. While accepting the baptism of success, we must also withstand the test of failure.Those who lose confidence in repeated battles and defeats will achieve nothing; only those who are good at understanding and dealing with failures correctly, summing up experience from failures, and seeing the light can climb the dangerous peak of success.

Inferiority is a complex emotion of involuntary and weak.People with low self-esteem despise themselves and feel that they cannot catch up with others.In my personal opinion, inferiority complex refers to a complex psychology composed of subconscious desires and emotions centered on the inferiority concept of a person who thinks that he or his environment is not as good as others.At the same time, inferiority complex is also a cosmetic effect formed by a person's inability or unwillingness to struggle. Low self-esteem is a defect in character.The performance is that the ability and quality of oneself are underestimated, accompanied by some special emotional manifestations, such as: shyness, anxiety, guilt, depression, disappointment, etc.

For those who fail, they often have an inferiority complex, start to doubt their own abilities and qualities, and then doubt themselves, deny themselves, and lack confidence in everything they do.Thus falling into the vicious circle of "failure-inferiority-failure". Inferiority has become a "psychological devil" that hinders a person's success. Edison, the inventor of the light bulb, and his assistants persevered in more than 8,000 experiments in order to find a suitable material as a filament.At the initial stage of the experiment, they found 1,600 kinds of heat-resistant materials, repeated nearly 2,000 experiments, and fought for five or six months. The result is that only platinum is more suitable, but platinum is more expensive than gold. How can it be used to make popular and cheap Where's the light bulb?That is to say, nearly two thousand trials failed.

Therefore, he discovered the ideal filament material from plant fibers, and tried more than 6,000 kinds of plants, even horsehair, hair, and beard. Finally, he found that the carbonized bamboo filament is very good for filament, and can emit light for 1,200 hours.But he was not satisfied, and sent people to collect thousands of bamboos from all over the world, conducted experiments and comparisons, and finally determined that a Japanese bamboo was the most suitable.So far, the bamboo filament light bulb has been officially developed. (Later, others improved it and used tungsten wire as the filament, which has been used until today.) When the experiment failed and the cynicism in the newspaper hit him head and face, despite the pain and anxiety, his face turned gray and his temples His veins were jumping, and his disheveled hair was falling down his face, but he was not overwhelmed by the pain of failure, and still firmly believed that his invention would succeed: "The incandescent lamp must be able to light up, this is the right way."

In the long-term scientific experiments, he is good at learning lessons from failures, discovering the factors of success from failures, and seeing the prospect of success, so he always maintains full confidence in the whole invention process.When the electric light experiment was carried out from early autumn to early winter, and the best effect obtained could only be on for 8 minutes, his assistant was a little discouraged: "Oh, it's a waste of effort!" Edison saw the success of these small progress. Hope, retorted: "Why waste your energy? It's been on for 8 minutes, isn't the life span several times longer than last time?" Edison's dialectical viewpoint inspired the assistant, who turned his sorrow into joy: "Yes, just like As you said, once you do an experiment, you will gain once!" "If you do an experiment, you will gain once", this is the key for Edison to turn failure into success.

Just imagine, if Edison had a strong sense of inferiority after experiencing many failures, then who should bring us the light.It is thanks to Edison's perseverance that Edison's life has been achieved.Low self-esteem will only make people achieve nothing, and it will only increase the sense of failure. Low self-esteem is the biggest mistake in life. A morbid sense of inferiority usually hides deep-rooted self-doubt. The biggest secret to getting rid of this mentality is to strengthen your beliefs.To maintain a kind of loyalty to our own beliefs, time tells us that if we can deeply plant self-confidence in our hearts, it will be of great help to cultivate self-confidence.

Generally speaking, the reason why people have a sense of insecurity or powerlessness in their hearts is mostly due to negative ideas that have dominated their thoughts for a long time.In order to overcome this obstacle, positive ideas must be brought into the mind.But what must be noted is that we must be persistent and uninterrupted in order to truly achieve our goals. Everyone wants to live in good times, but ups and downs are inevitable, but the number and degree vary from person to person.In fact, when we feel pressure, the negative impact of stress is often caused by our own cognition. Maybe when you think that the pain is unbearable and there is no way out, if you change your cognition a little, you will see another piece of life. scene.