Chapter 13 don't be too conceited

Conceit is a kind of mental and spiritual blindness.Conceited people are usually self-centered. Aloofness and arrogance are their normal state. Conceited people will eventually make themselves pay a heavy price.Therefore, only by staying away from conceit and waking up from self-admiration can we create the glory of life. Honor is like a toy, you can only play with it, you must not keep it forever, otherwise you will achieve nothing.There is inherently something evil and weakness in every virtue and virtue.Beyond a certain boundary, a transformation occurs between them.Generosity often turns into profligacy, thrift into greed, courage into recklessness, prudence into timidity, self-confidence into conceit, and so on.

Men must be seduced because evil originally wore the mask of virtue.But virtue itself is very good, and people are fascinated by it at first sight, so they make unremitting efforts to equip themselves with more and more virtues.However, things are often too much, and everything must be grasped to a certain degree.Keeping virtue within a certain range will benefit us throughout our lives. Confident people are full of vitality, have a correct judgment and grasp of their abilities, and constantly cheer themselves up; while conceited people overestimate their abilities, and tend to underestimate their opponents in the competition and do not let them go. In the eyes, it is easy to lead to failure.

Confident people are usually rational. They use thinking, judgment, and reasoning on the basis of perceptual knowledge to have a correct understanding of the lost essence and internal connections, and then find the correct way to solve the problem.Conceited people are usually perceptual. They only judge things or situations superficially through the basic forms of cognition such as feeling, perception, and appearance, and believe in themselves blindly and self-righteously. The final result is often far from the expected. far, or even the exact opposite. Conceit should belong to the category of subjective idealism. Conceited people want to influence or even dominate things with their own thoughts and consciousness; while self-confidence belongs to the category of dialectical materialism. Confident people always insist on material first and consciousness second, and do not follow blindly Do not assume, seek truth from facts.Therefore, there is an essential difference in ideology between conceit and self-confidence.

It can be seen that self-confidence is a good quality, but conceit is only one step away from ignorance.The most frightening thing in life is not being able to see oneself correctly, and if a person wants to succeed, he must have a proper understanding of himself, have self-knowledge, and be able to correctly understand and evaluate himself, including his own advantages and disadvantages. There are often such people, in order to show their talents, once they hear someone talking about other things, they will call them ancients, as if the ancients are more important than human beings and modern things.They never forget to keep a classic or two in their pockets, they cling to the old stuff, they never read the modern "junk", and they calmly tell you that for a long time man has been Not one iota of progress has been made in any of the arts or sciences, and everything remains as it was 1,700 years ago.

In fact, it is not to make you deny those knowledge about ancient times, but don't boast that you have an exclusive soft spot for them.Don't be prejudiced when talking about modern society, and don't worship blindly when it comes to ancient times.Give them a fair judgment and don't judge lightly.If you happen to have a classic book published by the Elzefiel family in your pocket, don't mention it in conversation and don't show it to others. If you have a certain amount of knowledge, don't show it off casually.Some learned men, who pride themselves on their knowledge, talk only of what is conclusive, and the judgments they make are not at all attractive.

A person needs to know himself objectively and cannot be isolated. He should put himself in the society and compare himself with other people, so as to know what his ability is.Of course, when making comparisons, you can't compare your own advantages with others' shortcomings, and you can't see others as worthless in order to highlight yourself. Only in this way can you truly evaluate yourself. At the request of a puppy, a camel takes him across the desert to the forest for an animal high jump competition.The puppy wins and the camel loses, so the puppy looks down on the camel, but does not know that without the camel, the puppy will fall thirsty and tired in the desert, which is really sad.

The puppy only saw its own advantages, but did not see its own shortcomings, and ended up in an embarrassing end.In fact, each of us has our own advantages and disadvantages. We should neither be complacent because of our own advantages, nor belittle ourselves because of our disadvantages.As long as we give full play to our own advantages and realize the value of life, we will be successful.Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and we need to dig out and make use of our own advantages. When everyone walks, they don't just look at the sky and don't pay attention to their feet.Reality is real, and no one lives in a castle in the air, facing their own strengths and weaknesses.Overconfidence may be a harbinger of failure, while inferiority is like a wake-up call, knocking on your egotistical head, reminding you of your shortcomings, and pulling you back from the illusory world to reality.

See your own strengths and weaknesses clearly, grasp the strengths, and give full play to their effectiveness; as for the weaknesses, face up to their existence and use the strengths to make up for the weaknesses.Only in this way can we choose the best life route and realize our own life value to the greatest extent.