Chapter 11 Don't be swayed by other people's opinions

Don't live for others, don't be limited by dogma, don't live in other people's ideas, don't let other people's opinions influence your inner voice.Most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Only your heart and intuition know what you really think. Everything else is secondary. In our life, everyone should have their own unique way of life, and no one can control you, so don't care when others have opinions on you, because it is useless at all, as long as you feel that you are Good enough will do. Don't care too much about what other people think of you, this kind of care can only lead you into misfortune.Just remember, you are enough to be you!However, there are times when you should act a little better than you really are.

When a young writer first arrived in New York, Mark Twain invited him to dinner, accompanied by more than 30 guests, all of whom were local dignitaries.When he was about to take the seat, the writer became more and more frightened as he thought about it, and his whole body trembled. "What's wrong with you?" Mark Twain asked. "I'm terrified," said the young writer. "I know they're going to ask me to speak, but I don't know what to say, and the thought of embarrassing myself to them makes me uneasy." "Hehe, you don't have to be afraid, I just want to tell you that they may ask you to speak, but no one expects you to have any amazing remarks."

Mark Twain's words hold true for many young people.For young people, because they have always been eager to fully display their talents, when opportunities suddenly come to them, many people will suddenly become at a loss.The first time you give a speech, the first time you do things independently, and the first time you are assigned a task by a leader, you may be so nervous that you can't sleep well all night.At this time, you must understand that people around you have their own things to do, they don't have so much time to fully focus on you, they still treat you as an ordinary person, and don't expect you to be capable What an earth-shattering event, as long as you do and say it step by step like everyone else, it will be considered as a successful completion of the task.

Some people might say, if an opportunity finally appeared, why not take it to make a big splash?In fact, in this increasingly rational and pluralistic era, it takes a long time and a series of events to reveal a person's strengths, and the days when he can get applause from the moment he makes his debut will only appear in dramas.On the contrary, the excessive unconventionalism of the fledglings is likely to arouse people's resentment.As a young person, the only thing you have to do is show people that you are really prepared for this, that you have a serious attitude, and that is enough.

On the hurried road of life, we are just a landscape in the eyes of others. For the first participation and failure, you can completely laugh it off. Don’t get too entangled in the lost emotions. Your crying can only remind you People rediscover your incompetence.When you smile, others forget it. There’s a saying that goes, “At 20, we worry about what others think of us. At 40, we don’t care what others think of us. At 60, we discover that others don’t think of us at all.” This isn’t negativity, it’s A philosophy of life.That is: only by learning to see yourself clearly can you travel lightly and embark on a long journey without any burden, and your life journey will be smoother.

A philosopher once said: All truths have to go through these three stages before they can be accepted by the world.In the first stage, you find it ridiculous and ignore it; in the second stage, you strongly resist it as heresy; in the third stage, you accept it without thinking.Therefore, once you accept the beliefs of others, it is like a spell on the nervous system, and your present and future will be affected by it. If you personally want to be in charge of your own life, you must take good control of your beliefs.It is to have a firm judgment between one's own ideas and the opinions of others.Otherwise, we are likely to lose ourselves.

In life, many people care too much about their own feelings and make themselves sensitive.Some people accidentally fell down on the road, causing passers-by to laugh. Under embarrassment, the wrestler would think that the whole world is watching him make a fool of himself.However, if we compare our hearts with our hearts and think about it differently, we will find that this kind of thing is actually just a small episode in the lives of passers-by. Even after they laughed, they have already forgotten it. Only the person concerned is still persistent. In my heart, I couldn't let go. People who really love you will take your every move into their hearts. They will be happy for your happiness and sad for your sadness.But people who really love you will definitely not laugh at your ugliness or look down on your shortcomings, they will only encourage and support you.So don't care what other people think, you just need to do your best.A person should stick to his own personality and don't always care about other people's opinions.In life, don't care too much about other people's opinions. It is right to stick to your own correct approach.Don't care too much about other people's opinions, be assertive, be yourself, develop a little chic habit, and don't care too much about other people's opinions or criticisms.

Many times, we are used to doing things according to the will of others. We always have to listen to other people’s opinions before making a decision. Even if it is a small decision, we have no confidence in ourselves and are often influenced by other people’s opinions.You must know that everyone has their own actual situation. Hegel's dialectics believes that every thing has its own characteristics. Therefore, when we deal with anything, we must analyze specific problems in detail and must not be stereotyped.This enlightenment to us is, don't care too much about other people's opinions, we must proceed from our own actual situation and make correct decisions that are beneficial to ourselves.