Chapter 104 Enhance emotional communication and get out of the period of marriage fatigue

The steadiness of life can be annoying at times.After being married for a long time, some people feel that marriage is like a bowl of plain water, tasteless and tasteless.At this time, the marriage has entered a dull period.Generally speaking, there are several reasons for the arrival of the flat period. The gap in work and status makes the opportunities and backgrounds of the two parties very different, and different situations deduce different emotional stories.It is manifested as being too lazy to talk, blaming each other, no longer appreciating, etc. In a competitive society, with an independent personality, emphasis on self-development, and strong narcissism, when the pressure is high, there is little room for attention to details, and I am unwilling to seek opportunities to sort out unopened knots and communicate frankly with the other party.Reflected in marriage, it is easy for people to become irritable and paranoid, lacking the patience and endurance to run in.

On the one hand, economic independence reduces the purpose of both parties' joint struggle and blurs the family's sense of responsibility.But on the other hand, they have the ability and consciousness to survive independently. Marriage is no longer regarded as a safe haven. The increase in the divorce rate makes people doubt the stability of marriage, which shakes the concept of defending the family. It's hard to show up even if it doesn't itch. Women's economic independence and broad vision make them pay more attention to their real feelings in married life, and begin to pursue the double texture of spirit and material, which includes high-quality food, clothing, housing and transportation and a new style of life quality, so naturally they are interested in Men have too high expectations, expecting men to take care of everything in every detail, but they don't know that they should know how to tolerate and tolerate.If this man is also a "little emperor" who stretches out his clothes, it seems inevitable that the 7-year itch will come early.

Ready-made mobile phone text messages are flying all over the sky, and sweet words are piled up on gift boxes, resulting in the flood of formulaic love words, and love is no longer sincere and priceless. The urge to try something new, while the lover at home has become a three-year-old dish, which can only satisfy one's satiety, but has no aftertaste. In comparison, it is naturally boring, and it is boring to look at it. Because there is no legal protection, cohabitants cannot transform the gradually diminishing love and enthusiasm into family affection like entering marriage. On the contrary, cohabiting will only let people know how unbearable face love has when it enters marriage.The romance of love is replaced by the feathers of life prematurely, which slows down the emotional integration of love and family affection after entering marriage, and the marriage life becomes more and more dull, which becomes the catalyst for the early arrival of the 7-year itch.

The above six reasons are the main causes of exhaustion in married life.If you still want your married life to be as sweet as a newlywed, we might as well look at our own life from the above points.In fact, looking at the problem in a different way of thinking may allow us to live an ordinary life happily, that is, to regard ordinary life as a kind of reality and enjoy ordinary life. There is a saying that is true only when it is ordinary, but ordinary life often makes romantic people feel "boring", such as three meals a day, such as children and the elderly.Marriage needs to be carefully managed and cared for by two people.More importantly, those who are in a marriage must learn to look at everything with gratitude. The world is changing every day, and we must not take everything for granted.Learn to enjoy ordinary life and ordinary happiness, and add some warm colors to the ordinary and ordinary.Marriage is not about taking, nor is it purely giving. Both husband and wife must learn to grow together in marriage.

Taste carefully, a plain marriage is like a handful of fine sand.It also needs our careful cherish and care.Whether you grab it too firmly or too loose, it will slip through your fingers. In an ordinary marriage, husband and wife are like friends traveling on a train. During the journey, they take care of each other and show compassion for each other.If you score their love, their passion and romance may only score 60 points, if you score according to the harmony and durability of marriage, you can score 90 points.Their love may never be able to establish the kind of relationship where love and hate go deep into the bone marrow, but they can withstand all kinds of severe tests.You say it is commonplace, but it is very practical, very real, and very reliable.

The life between husband and wife is like the running-in between two stone mills, either she adapts to you, or you adapt to her.You have experienced wind and rain together, crossed thorns, walked out of the swamp, and finally set foot on the road of Yimapingchuan.No matter when you are most frustrated or most successful, you will find that she is your biggest concern. When you stand on the top of the siege of marriage in your later years, you will proudly discover an unchanging truth: it turns out that the ordinary is the truth.You are the master of marriage, and your marriage is so real, so clear, so moving.

Marriage is not just a world of two people. Marriage is practical, and it means living a real life. Opening the door every day is: it is difficult to buy food, water, electricity, housing and living expenses.In marriage, responsibility and reason are very important. After going through the initial "two-person world", the tenderness and sweetness of the newlyweds gradually fade away, and the imminent arrival of the "little angel" makes people feel the weight on their shoulders.Therefore, the boat of marriage has really sailed out of the harbor. This kind of ordinary marriage is worth cherishing. It is a thorough understanding and enlightenment of the real marriage and the laws of human emotions, and it is a rare kind of open-mindedness and optimism.It is a very romantic thing to be with the person you love for a lifetime.

There may be ups and downs in life, but plainness is still the mainstream of family life.Plain is the greatest happiness in life.Men must learn to be content with mediocrity and be able to experience happiness from mediocre family life. The relationship between husband and wife needs to be managed carefully by both husband and wife.Improving the relationship between husband and wife and keeping the family in a harmonious atmosphere is a man's way of family management.