Chapter 98 Between husband and wife, don't be a good teacher

As a leader, we often criticize and accuse our spouse of poor ability, low level, and superficial knowledge... put forward short-term goals and order them to be completed within a deadline; Teachers have dignity; we often educate each other as parents, earnestly, follow good temptations, act both hard and soft, set rules and control, and require spouses to change from passive to active, form a habit, and consciously be a good child; we often use the savior As a status, we would like to repay kindness, be domineering, and ask our spouses to never forget their kindness, and be willing to be at the disadvantage; we often, as shaders, ask for a big tree with luxuriant branches, a vigorous canopy, and a firm trunk, so that we can enjoy peace when the wind comes or rains.

In this way, there will be too many disputes between husband and wife, which will naturally weaken harmony. Think about our situation, the universe is vast, the sea is full of vicissitudes, our home is just a cave, and the husband and wife who get into the cave are like two hardworking mice.We are small and clever, and we dare not slack off in order to survive, creating happiness bit by bit, and continuing to future generations.After a hundred years of busy work, I only realized two words: survival.How difficult it is to survive, the situation is changing, and the fate is unpredictable.But we have a hole after all, and there are couples in the hole, doing things that belong to husband and wife.

If we regard ourselves as small, understand the mediocrity of the other party with a small heart, be tolerant and full of love, let him complete his life with an independent personality.Then what disputes do we have--sometimes, the friction between us is just that we can't figure it out. Although we are small, we are also a meteor that flashes across the universe.We live a life, have our own ambitions and social responsibilities, in this sense we are great.Life is like a dream, and we must seize the day and night.At this time, we should rush out of our own caves, and the husband and wife should no longer be small rats, but mighty tigers, full of vigor, fighting hard, and doing something.Maybe we get hurt and become a mouse again, shrinking into our hole and our spouse comforts us.Maybe we stand on the top of the mountain and are powerful in all directions, but we still have to become a mouse and get into our hole, where the warmth of husband and wife is calling and waiting.

Husband and wife don't need to be in the state of rats in the cave to pursue and discuss those things that belong to the tiger. It doesn't matter whether the tiger is strong or weak outside, it can't be used in the cave.When you get out of the cave, you can try your best to cross the sea and show your abilities. In the family, couples should avoid as much as possible: (1) Design the future for the other party and criticize the success or failure of the other party's career. (2) Comment on the other party's relatives and friends, monitor the other party's whereabouts, and inquire about the other party's plans.

(3) Running around for the other party's work and career without the other party's request. (4) Forcing the other party to hand over their income to their own management, and suspecting that the other party conceals their income. (5) Discuss each other's positions, achievements, abilities, and gains. Husband and wife should, as equals, build a happy family together in an atmosphere of mutual admiration.Of course, topics other than family cannot be refused and avoided. As long as you follow the above principles, fully respect each other, and be relaxed and comfortable, the harmonious atmosphere will be more evident.