Chapter 97 Appreciate the wife and bring the two hearts closer

As a man, do you know what your wife desires most?The wife longs for your attention and love, and the wife longs for you to appreciate her. There is such a nation in Africa with a touching story. The patriarch of this nation has 4 daughters, the eldest daughter, the second daughter and the third daughter are all beautiful and capable, and they were all married off with the bride price of 8 cows.But the fourth daughter, Mary, is much inferior. She looks mediocre, neither beautiful nor capable, and she always lowers her head, looking shy.So the patriarch said: "Who wants to marry Mary, the dowry of 4 cows is enough." However, a young man insisted on marrying Mary with the dowry of 8 cows.After marriage, the clansmen were surprised to find that Mary became very capable, well-mannered, generous, and much more beautiful than before.The patriarch asked how the uncle changed her. The uncle smiled slightly and said, "I just told her that you are no worse than the three older sisters. You are gentle and kind. You are a rare good woman. You are indeed worth the bride price of eight cows."

Her husband's praise, affirmation and appreciation changed Mary.In fact, most of the women around us are ordinary and ordinary like Mary.Although your wife is an ordinary woman, if you appreciate her with extraordinary eyes, she will be full of confidence, and she will involuntarily hold her head high, and she will think "So I am also very good", I will also demand myself and examine myself with higher standards, so change and progress are logical.Therefore, a smart husband must tell your wife: You have always been so beautiful and outstanding! A wife needs a man's attention and encouragement, and she is eager for a man to appreciate and praise her.So, in what ways does a wife hope to get the care and love of a man?Some experts have summarized the following contents.

When women choose a mate, they usually pay more attention to various practical factors.Women may be in desperate need of love, but what they care most about is: is this man reliable?Therefore, in addition to paying attention to hair, clothes and manners, men also need to be kind, generous and faithful. The wife hopes that this man who can grow old with her will treat her as an equal, respect her personality, and tolerate her shortcomings. A wife needs explicit compliments from a man: "You look great with that hairstyle," "You look beautiful in red," and so on.This kind of praise can encourage a woman, make her pay more attention to dressing up, and keep your love nourished.

The conversation in men's minds is to study problems, debate right and wrong, and find ways to solve problems.To this end, he may repeatedly interrupt the woman's speech to make her "understand" him.Women, however, want a man to listen in a friendly way, not to have a man talking all the time, they will talk on and on until they feel comfortable. From a woman's point of view, the best gifts are those that are more modest, not flashy.There is a man who collects Valentine's cards and gives them to his wife at any time. Whenever she is in a bad mood, he puts a card where she may find it, which makes his wife very happy.

Wives want their husbands to value their work as much as they value their own.Every time a wife talks about her own work, a man should listen with pricked ears.Needless to say, if you communicate well in this regard, the relationship between you will grow deeper and deeper. A man's appreciation and praise is a kind of upward motivation for his wife. The wife can not only draw confidence and strength from it, but also feel the joy of success, get psychological satisfaction and spiritual enjoyment.Picking can only widen the distance between each other, but praise can bring two hearts closer.Love must be expressed in certain ways, such as turning your inner appreciation for her into words of praise.Only in this way can love bloom in the sun, otherwise it can only be like a fake flower, without fragrance and vitality, and it cannot arouse emotion and enthusiasm in the wife's heart.

God created women so emotionally, like a jasmine blooming in the morning light, delicate and light, even a slight breeze could make her fly away.A compliment from a man may make his wife happy all day, and her happiness is your happiness.A good man will sincerely say a word of affirmation to his wife when she needs it. A man's sincere praise to a woman will make her live a beautiful and happy life.