Chapter 92 Help Your Husband Clarify His Hopes

The first thing every wife has to do is to help her husband sort out his hopes and ambitions, and then all she has to do is to cooperate carefully with him to realize these ideals. Shamuel and Ethel Kling, co-authors of The Marriage Guide, believe that happy marriages come from shared ideals.It doesn't matter what the ideal is, it could be a new house, a trip to Europe, a big company... Sharing this ideal is the most important thing. The key to a happy marriage is to have hope for the life in front of you, and then do everything in your power to make it happen.All the happiness, fun, and sense of participation will be obtained from the process of realizing hope. At the same time, the relationship between husband and wife can also be gradually deepened by sharing the success or failure in the process of struggle.

The happy marriage of William Graham and his wife in Kansas was based on a common ideal.In Kansas, the William Graham Oil Company was a big, respected company.When William was 45 years old, he had already made a considerable profit from oil operations and investments.At the same time, William and his wife Marelli also have other enviable marriage results: 6 beautiful and healthy children, a spacious and comfortable home and a harmonious and happy marriage.All this makes them full of hope for the future life. When William's friends asked him the biggest factor in his success, William replied, "It's because of the planning and coordination that Marelli and I shared."

When Marelli first married William, William had nothing but ideas of success and hard work.After Marelli learned about her husband's dream, she began to join the plan.Their first foray was in the real estate business, where they took a commission on the sale and purchase of homes.They set up their office in an abandoned passageway of an office building. Marelli was in charge of liaison in the office, and William went around to solicit business. Business was slow at first, and Marelli often had to be careful or they would starve.Later, as their business improved, they bought houses with their own money and bought and sold them.In the end, they started building their own houses and selling them.At this time, William had a new goal. He thought that he should join other industries, and maybe there would be greater opportunities for development.

After several detailed conversations and discussions, the couple felt that the oil business was more suitable for William, because he always looked forward to more challenges and excitement.So they started the William Graham Oil Company. William is planning new goals, and he and Marie are considering the feasibility of foreign investment.Once a decision is made, they work together to make that decision a reality. Whenever William makes plans and chooses goals for himself, he always considers Marelli's suggestions and attitudes, because William said: "Without Marelli's support, I can't do anything." The joy of life is gained in a challenging program.In facing challenges together, they forged an inseparable relationship.

It is the happiest thing for a couple to have an ideal together. Two people make and implement a plan together, which is more powerful than one person acting blindly. Be a "Good Listener" to Your Husband "Forbes" magazine once published a survey report on the wives of company employees. The report pointed out: The most important thing a man's wife can do is to let her husband keep him in the office. Tell her all your troubles. Any woman who has ever worked in society can understand that if she returns from work and can talk to her family about the day's events, whether they are good or bad, it can relax and comfort her.Often, in the workplace, we don't have the opportunity to have a say in what's going on.If our work is going really well, we can’t sing about it in the office; if we’re having trouble, our co-workers don’t want to hear about it—they already have too much trouble themselves.So when we got home, we felt like we had to blow off some steam.

However, what happens most often is this: Bill came home, a little out of breath, and said, "Man, Mel, what a great day! I was called to the board to tell them about the district report I did. They Ask me to speak up and..." "Really?" said Mel, absent-mindedly. "That's nice, honey. Have some bacon. Did I tell you about the man who came to fix the stove this morning? He said some places needed Get a new one. Would you like to go and have a look after you finish eating?" "Of course, dear. Well, as I said, old Thorokmonton wanted me to present my proposal to the board. I was a little nervous at first, but I finally found that I had their attention. Even Billing Stan was very touched, he said..."

Mel said, "I used to think they didn't know you well enough to value you. Bill, you have to talk to Mike about his report card. His grades were so bad this semester and his teacher said that if he would work hard If you work hard, you will definitely be able to read better. I have no way to persuade him." By this time, Bill finally realized that Mel wasn't very interested in his topic, so he had to swallow his pride with the beef sauce, and then complete the task about the stove and Mike's report card. You wonder: Aren't Mel's problems important?Of course not, she and Bill share the same basic need to find an audience, it's just that she got the timing wrong.If Mel had listened intently to Bill's boardroom show, Bill would have been more than happy to listen to her talk about the family when he'd finished venting his emotions.

Women need to know when to listen and when to speak.A woman who is good at listening can not only give her husband the greatest comfort and peace of mind, but also have inestimable social assets.A quiet, unpretentious woman is far better than a chatty woman. Duddie Mooney, famous for his wit, once described a good man as one who listens with interest when the things he knows best are told in gaudy words by a completely ignorant layman.This description is more applicable to women. The most important thing for a wife is not to wash, cook, and have children, but to support each other spiritually with her husband.It is the duty of a wife to be a "good listener" to her husband, to listen to her husband, share his distress, and provide him with spiritual support and help.